Why do people push people away when they need them the most?
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liana_klimen1
ANSWERS: 14
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Because they feel like no one understands
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It's just this weird thing that happens...like when you need to talk to someone the most...that's when you feel like talking the least. Sometimes you don't know what's best for you.
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Some do, not all. Sometimes when that happens, the people going through a difficult time maybe are afraid of the rejection from other people, even loved ones, that they might think less of them somehow. Perhaps this is not exactly pertaining to your question, but I think this behaviour is more common in men that women, there's this ingrained attitude in most of us to try and resolve our problems by ourselves without outside help.
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Because they want to work it out themselves.
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Because the people they need are going to stick by their side anyway.
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they want to be alone with their misery - maybe its embarassing
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I am guilty of this to the Nth degree. When I am upset to the point of tears and someone tries to console me or talk me down, I am frustrated because I dislike showing weakness to them.
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They do it because its an insecurity. They want to feel like they don't need help. Some people even think its to show weakness and most people won't show their volnerable side to others. Some people want to but just can't do it which makes them feel even worst abouy it. It may even be awkward to them. To show that side of them selves to others. Or really it could be because they just don't show real emotion to any one if thats the case. But if it a serious problem....all you can do in an emotional situation is when they try to run away from whats staring them right in the face hug them....if they try to push you away hold on for dear life and tell them you aren't letting go and that no matter what your right there with'em...that you aint goin no where cuz you care about'em.....
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Probably because people are stubborn
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I do it mostly because i am stubborn, and i like to be independant. I especially dont like it when people see me sad or depressed - so i rather walk away
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Sometimes it is because they have our best interest at heart and they are right about things they say but we don't wwant to see that at the moment. So instead of embracing the fact they are just trying to help us we lash out at them. I have done this more times than I care to remember since I lost my sweetheart 2 and a half years ago and am amazed that most of them haven't given up on me by now.
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Sometimes its because they are so full of shame and self pity that they would rather push you away then feel like you are criticizing them...Its a defence mechanism that self pitiers do to stop feeling rejected. In short they would rather blame you!
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The older I get the more I do it. I find that I really don't need people. All the traffic is one way. I listen to their problems and help, even take on the whole task away from them. Then when I want advice all I get is a shrug of the shoulders. I've formed the opinion that people look at me and see what I'm worth to them. Am I useful in some way? If not I get discarded. If I am then I get cultivated. What they do is so shallow and transparant and they think that being sociable one second and cutting you dead the next is perfectable acceptable. Even people I thought close are just as bad. Year in and out you're there for them over and over again. Yet when you ask them for a favour they'll always be busy. These are people who I've moved heaven and earth for but they see my co-operation in all things as a 'right' to be called on at any time of the day or night. Beleive me, the less people you have in your life the less misery you're storing up for yourself.
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I think its because some of us get energy from being around other people and some of us feel an energy drain when we're around other people. If you're the latter, then when your own energy level is depressed because of sadness or whatever, you just don't have the capacity to deal with other people's ideas or emotions about your situation. Whereas, some people just want to talk and talk about their problems because they get energy from the interaction with others. Also, sometimes talking to other people about what is bothering you makes it more real somehow. Its as if you're afraid that if you talk about it, it will manifest itself more whereas if you keep it to yourself, it may not necessarily exist anywhere outside of your own mind.
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