Your ex was shallow. That's why. Good riddance, he wasn't worth the light of day.

It is a power trip for some people to demand perfection from a SO. The more the SO tries to comply, the more faults the person finds. It is actually a form of abuse.

I never thought of it that way, for he did abuse me in other ways other then not being that"perfect" person.

Because he didn't have any interest in seeing it, For him, all the fun of the fair was to be had in findnig faults. That is what he does. He'll do the same to the next person. I think you would be better off asking yourself why did you pursue a relationship with a man that demanded something that you could not give (or indeed, anybody else for that matter). Perhaps you thought you would be the one with the power to 'change ' him.

hmmm this is ringing really true for me. his perfect is 6ft blonde. i am me. complete opposite. and dont want to be 6ft blonde and dont think they are any better inside or outside than me...until i spend too much time with him. prob is we have been friends for 5 yrs, he was always jealous i was with other guys. now he doesnt directly put me down, but says 'all guys want 6ft blondes' or 'this girl at work, everyone loves her, you know...she is the perfect 6ft blonde type that all guys would give his left arm to go out with'...and i think its his way of putting me down to keep me lower than him and stop me from leaving (i havent had probs with attracting men with looks or personality ever, and im sure ur the same)...i dont think he left u fr the 'perfect' type. i think u were a struggle for him to keep down. and he left u for someone that he wanted u to think was the 'perfect' looking type. but not all men would agree. and if she really was the 'perfect' type (watever that is cuz perfect is subjective) and left u for her, then he is shallow. most guys can appreciate an attractive person but it doesnt mean they will love them or persue them or want to, no matter what some say. So basically she is not the 'perfect' type looks wise. she is the 'perfect' type bcuz she may be easier to keep wrapped around his abusive lil finger cuz trust me. he is doing the same to her and will do the same to her. thank ur lucky stars u got out and dont give him another thort. i tryin to get out of my situation but he threatenin suicide. i know he is a good person and been depressed for long time but i cant deal with his put downs and i shouldnt have too. trouble is i am actually scared he will commit suicide. oh and he couldnt see your inner beauty or outter beauty cuz he doesnt know wat real beauty is. OR he did see it but didnt want u t know cuz that would make u feel good-which is not wat he wants cuz he is insecure and thinks if u feel good ull find someone better. well i hope u did find some1 better