A twelfth grader in high school is gay, and his parents aren't aware of it, but a parent of a friend of the child knows. Should the friend's parent tell the parents of the homosexual child?
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ANSWERS: 18
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I think not. I'd stay out of it. They will find out on their own eventually, trust me, and you won't end up being the bad guy.
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Definitely NOT! Doing something like that could get the child kicked out of his home, and/or beat, and/or cause him to have to deal with reactions and situations that he might not be ready to face yet. It's no one's business but the child's and to go ahead and "out" someone is a form of violation imo.
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I don't think so. For two main reasons. The first being that whilst still in school we haven't always "fixed" on our sexual identities. Some of us are having homosexual feelings but may later turn out to be straight, some of us are experimenting with sex in general. The parent may think she "knows" the child in question is gay, but does she really? Is she interfering in something she doesn't actually fully understand. The second reason is that the decision to "come out" is a very personal one, particularly when it involves your own parents, it needs to be something that the child reasons about and decides how, when and if to tell them depending on his own feelings and situation, and what he knows about his parents (he certainly knows his parents better than the parent of a friend and knows best how to deliver the news) - having someone else tell your parents you're gay would be like someone else telling your parents you were pregnant. You just don't do it.
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Emphatically NO!!!! This is no one's business but the child's, and telling his parents could prove dangerous to his health or well-being. Consult with PFLAG---Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays---for the best way to support this child.
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Umm, NO! The friend's parent should not reveal personal information about a child if they have trusted her. Even if they haven't trusted her outright with it, it isn't her place to tell the parents. Let the guy do it on his own, when he is ready. It could cause major problems for all involved if the parents reject him.
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Absolutely not. Coming out is a very personal decision that one has to make on his or her own terms. There are many factors that the person must weigh before deciding to come out to his family and there can be serious lifelong consequences. You don't want to be responsible for the kid's family not being ready to accept his sexuality and disowning him. (By the way, most parents already know or at least suspect it long before a child comes out.)
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No, it is none of their business and I cannot fathom why they would believe that it is.
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No way on Earth, thats THE worst thing anyone could ever do to or even think of doing to a teenager in that situation. Get a life a come to the reality that its none of your business. Plus if you care about your own child you wouldn't do that because it would tear their friendship apart. Because his nosey mom went desperate housewife on him, and took it upon herself to get involved where its not here place. Then reveal such a personal secret about his friend to his parents before he's ready to tell them himself, the boy would absolutely HATE you and your son.
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no, they shouldnt dare get involved
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Mind your own business.
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No. A twelfth grader in high school is straight, and his parents aren't aware of it, but a parent of a friend of the child knows. Should the friend's parent tell the parents of the heterosexual child? No. Not because it's "obvious" but because it's unneccessary and absolutely none of your business.
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NOPE :)
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No. The person who is gay should be the one to out themselves. It is not anyone else's business, duty, responsibility, etc. to out anyone else. Nor is it their right. If he wants to tell his parents, he'll do it himself. When he's ready.
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no its there life. let them come out on their own. when theyre ready.
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Stay out of it.
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HELL NO! Unless it's something serious that demanded their attention.
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No you would break the child's trust bond with you and it possibly coculd go outside of his parent's.
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It is NO ONE else's business what the kid's sexual orientation is but HIS ..... The parent needs to mind his / her own business and take care of his / her own house before they go butting into someone else's affairs .... +5
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