A generalisation: Men look more at womens exterior aspect, women look more at what men do. Would you agree?
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no not at all.
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First, it is a generalization, and I know several women that are more "exterior" in how they initially pick men, and several guys that really care about the personality and intelligence of the girls that are potential dates. That said, I think it's generally true. I know I am more concerned, as a guy, initially with looks. But the looks will get you a few dates, the sex maybe double or triple those dates, and good personality / intelligence will double or triple the time overall, or even make it last indefinitely. One more comment I'd make is that, while women GENERALLY focus more on the attitude or actions of men, they still are generally no less superficial, really only focusing on the surface of the man's personality, and often getting it horribly wrong as a result. Not that there's anything wrong with being superficial - the only way we'd ever date anyone if we weren't superficial is by exclusively dating people we go to school or work with, or long time friends and acquaintances, and all of these can pose their own problems and pitfalls.
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Nope. Everyone is concerned with both- looks are the first thing that attracts two people, and a deeper connection is what makes the relationship last. If you are seeing a difference, it's just that our culture is structured in a way where men can act like pigs openly, while women are supposed to be more "ladylike". And that structure is dying. Now, men can be sensitive and women can be pigs. Just watch Sex in the City. :)
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No, like any generalization this one fails.
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No, I also don't agree. While looks may spark an initial attraction, if there is no substance to support it, the attraction quickly fades.
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