It seems that many parents resort to using material goods-based bribery to obtain compliance from their teenaged children. Would today's teens cooperate with, and respect their parents if they weren't given these items.?
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polarpop
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It is highly unlikely that most teens are mature enough to respect their parents, and they respond to the direct consequences of a reward for good behavior in keeping with their ability to relate to the "real world". Ask yourself, would you work at your job if the boss said you would no longer be paid, but instead work for the pleasure of doing what needs to be done?
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They must have been raised that way in the first place to expect it and have "bribery" still work for them. My 18 year old knows better. I never played that game and still don't.
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The key for me it's to start at an earlier age than the teens in the way of ingraining in children that good behavior, good deeds won't be ALWAYS rewarded by material things. The feeling of pride and accomplishment should be reward enough along with words of encouragement and congratulations, of course. Sure, some gifts are welcomed and possibly are a good idea to give as a "prize" when setting a goal for young ones, but I as a parent try to stay away from immediate gratification, they should earn it. The bigger the effort, the bigger the reward can be, it's all a matter of common sense and proportion. The longer some parents have set a pattern of these types of materialistic rewards, the harder it will be for them and their children to break it. Both sides have a mind-set and are conditioned by now.
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G'day Polarpop, Thank you for your question. It depends on the teens. I suspect that most teenagers try to do the right thing and contribute society. However, it is often the case that the bad kids get most of the publicity. I don't think using bribery of material objects is particularly effective. Explaining to kids and teenagers why you should or shouldn't do certain things is much more likely to be effective. Occasionally, kids and teenagers will do something stupid but that is part of growing up. Hopefully, they don't pay too high a price for their mistakes. Regards
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If I had to buy my kids gifts to get respect, What would happen if I lost my job? They lose their respect for me? I totally disagree with this. I know a boy who got everything he wanted growing up, He is now 28 and they can't get him to work or even leave the house.
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