A 38 year old man whose never been married or had kids is interested in me. I heard he's a real flirt, and I'm looking for a life partner, not just a casual fling. I'm 29. What should I say to him if he asks me out?
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ANSWERS: 16
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You should say "yes" if you wanna go out with him, and "no" if you don't wanna go out with him.
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If he is halfway respectful than go out with him see how well you click. If thing go well great if not then at least you won't be asking yourself what would have been if....!
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Say yes. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Just don't succomb to his 'charms' too soon. Good luck!
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Lisa Loeb wrote "She can't tell me that all of the love songs have been written 'cause she's never been in love with you before." love is different for everyone, don't say no because he's never found it with someone else before...
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You say, Yes, I would Love to go out with you. He probably realizes that he is not getting any younger, and maybe he is really looking for a beautiful woman, like you, to settle down with. Maybe what you heard about him, is not true, and all the rumors that are being spread around about him, are absolutely false. Just say Yes, then you will get a good feel about what type of person he really is! You will never know, he could be the greatest guy that you have ever meant. Give it a try, you haven't got anything to lose! Best of luck, in your new endeavor. (((hugs))) :)
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you've HEARD he's a real flirt? As in people are so aware of his behavior that they have to mention it to you? mmmmm I'd pass.
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A date is just a date. Nothing more, nothing less.
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I'd say yes,,,maybe you can change him ,,!Maybe he's come to that stage in life he wants to settle down ,,get married ,start a family...?
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No thank you. He's 38 and a flirt. He won't change. Men don't easily change. Always remember what you see is what you get. He'll most likely get worse. Find someone who only has eyes for you.
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The answer is in the question, my dear. If you believe that he isn't the commitment type guy you are looking for, then you are attaching unrealistic expectations for him to live up to, aren't you? That is to say, that if past behavior is an indicator of future behavior, I'm afraid he isn't the life partner you are seeking. Move on, or just have a fling, but don't expect marriage material from someone with the words "real flirt" on his resume.
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So you heard...but why not find out yourself by going out with him? You are afterall, 29; you shud trust your own judgement than just taking what others tell you. If I were you...I will just go and have a good time. :)
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People can change and will change, but not for you. THe question you should ask yourself is do you think he will change and only he has the answer :P
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My 33 year old boyfriend was like that, a real flirt and lived with his parents still. Hence in his eyes, it was never a proper relationship between us, he was always pretending that he was single...... and the worst of it, he was a serial cheat!!!! If this guy asks you out, do yourself the best favour possible and tell him to p*** off!!! It will save you from a lot of heartache in the longrun, trust me!!
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first of all....don't believe rumors about people, get to know them yourself... 38 is not so old, maybe he's been busy with career and school...my husband and I didn't meet til we were 31. Are you afraid that your not a good judge of character? Not smart enough to know if your not being treated right? Not strong enough to walk away?? Follow your own instincts, go out with him if you like him.
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Ask him if he's serious about making the committment to you. If he's not serious, but not joking, he's probably nervous. Give him some time to think then ask again if he's ready.
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Say yes! Take it slow and get to know what he really wants. It is so hard to stay in the present. We live either in the past (he may not be such a flirt anymore) or we live too far in the future (will he want to have kids, will he want to marry me) Just enjoy the moment:)
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