How long should you date before getting married??? is six years too long???(I started dating my bf when i was 25 I am 32 now.
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It really depends on the couple. No six years is not too long.
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I think that you should date until you are sure you are ready to make a well-informed decision about spending your life with that person... for some people that takes longer than others.
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Hey! Can really vary between couples! I wouldnt say six years is too long or short!
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It's not up to us. We aren't in your relationship with you. You need to get married when you are comfortable, not when you think society wants you to. This is probably partly to blame on the divore rates. People get married when they shouldn't because they think they "have to" because they've been together "too long". Do it when YOU want to, not when WE want you to.
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It's when you are ready to get married if ever. Some couples need more time than others. Take for example the fact that some people in high school do get married, they will often date around (from what I have seen...and meaning they started dating at a pretty young age or so) 5+ years before they do get married. I would not worry about how much time is too much, but whether or not you are ready and need more time.
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I think that after 6 years you both should be talking about the possiblity of getting married. If you find that one of you (or both of you) is not ready, I think that you have to take a look at the relationship as a whole and ask yourself (and your partner) why you both aren't ready. I agree with the fact that it takes people a different number of years to approach marriage, but I also think that you have committed 6 years of your life to this person and if marriage isn't in the future, then why are you staying together? In some cases, both partners opt to not get married and stay together for a number of years (Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell) I think the key is having an understanding. If you are waiting for a ring and your bf has no intentions of marrying you, then that is certainly something you must discuss. Do you want to continue to commit your life to someone when you are not confident of the outcome?
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if 5 years goes by and you don't know this person well enough to want to spend the rest of your life together...get out and find your husband. He can't find you if you are waisting time with someone who wont commit.
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until you're ready.
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I also feel if he isn't willing to commit now he may never commit. It sucks because when it doesn't work we realize we wasted valuable time.you may need to take a step back and look at the relationship ask him if we wants to get married to you ever and if the answer is no, then have the guts to move on.
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I was in the same situation starting dating my bf at 25, had a child and stayed with him until I was 31 and said enough is enough. I left him and within 3 months he came back with a ring and we got married. I am now pregnant with our second child and things are alot better between us. I did not want to waste any more time if he was not ready. He said it was because he could not support me financially. It is up to you but some men a kick in the pants!! T
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Unless you were in an LDR during those six years, then you've had ample time to get to know each other and assess compatibility for marriage. Have you told him you are interested in marriage? Don't be afraid to be blunt, because you can toss out all the hints in the world, and most guys will be too dense to get them. For all we know, he may want to marry you, but he's afraid you'll reject him. So talk to him and see how he feels about the subject. If he doesn't want to get engaged or married within the year, then you should move on and make yourself available for a guy who's ready to get married. Don't waste your time in a relationship that will lead nowhere.
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