Are you comfortable granting "friends" requests from people who, as far as you know, are total strangers?
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Jodie44
ANSWERS: 33
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I don't mind, they don't scare me. lol
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Sure. Someone did that to me the other day. I was confused at first, but said yes in the long run.
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I don't mind at all. I have a few that are on my list. I don't see a problem.
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I figure the more the merrier.
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I just got here and all of you are total strangers. Unless I want to remain friendless I better accept the offers I get. Besides, why would being a friend to a stranger make me uncomfortable?
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I have no reason to feel uncomfortable and I will accept. However, if I look at their profile (and I do) and it is OBVIOUS that they are a complete butthole who is here to shred the bag........ADIOS. I suspect my quiet removal may lead to intense counseling. But I will be thanksful I have done my part.
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No. I deny anyone who isn't my friend, or I don't at least know enough to "add" or not. I do the same thing with MySpace. If I don't "know" you, I don't add you.
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I'd look at their profile , if I felt weird and I could always take them off, if they weird out - I've commented back and forth to the ones one mine Hi there Jodie +5
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I don't add anyone that I don't know and have put a blurb on my profile about it. It's nothing personal, but come on! It's a friends list, not a strangers list. If someone finds me to be an interesting character, the least he or she could do is leave me a few comments first.
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i always accept.
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I'm not necessarily uncomfortable with it, I don't see the point. Like some other prior responses have pointed out, it's not a random stangers list. So, althoug I obviously don't know other users as well as, say, my best friends at home, I still consider some my friends because I enjoy ther e-company and e-conversations, and value their input. As such, I only include these lucky, lucky people on my list.
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No... though I have a broad definition of "stranger". If I've read enough sensible answers from someone and/or heard others talk about them positively, I'd gladly add someone even if I hadn't had first-hand exchanges. The way I see it, I would eventually become their friend anyway... why not pledge that mutual interest and proceed along? :)
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The fact is that I don't consider the people in my list "total strangers" anymore, as I've read their contributions here for a while now, and have found them to have good qualities. I think I've only rejected one application, for precisely that reason, nothing personal, but I didn't know where that person came from. Not to be arrogant but I need to know a little more about someone to make up my mind. I've come to terms with this feature now. I feel it's useful in the sense you can keep tabs on people that you consider worth it. But that hopefully won't take away my appreciation for many other users here.
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It's not a matter of my comfort so much as my interest. If I thought that by allowing them as my friend on here that they could track me down and show up on my doorstep, I might take issue (unless it was someone I wouldn't mind having show up at my door to party with lol!). However, since I'm pretty sure that's not the case, I'll accept lots of people as my friends, but I'm with Retroglide--Adios, buttholes! Haha
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I have to be selective, or my friends light would constantly be on. I choose them according to how long we've had a relationship on the site and how good their contribution to debates and such are.
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I am.
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All of my friends I know from chatting on AB.
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I do. Its possible that at some point during my span on AB that I have talked to them, and they consider me a friend even though I cant remember them. Also I feel really bad declining people.
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I accept people and have not had any problems but I am still a little confused about the reason or what we actually acheive by this friends list. It seems an awful lot of work to have put in just to get a quicker overall view of people with whom you like to read and interact. Maybe I am missing the point as usual and it is much more important than my understanding of the situation..
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The way some people change their names around here, half the ones I DON'T know, I do know. I look at the questions/answers/comments, and see if I think they are trolls. If not, then I add them.
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Well, perhaps my understanding of the "friends" designation is somewhat limited...but I have "granted" the "friends" designation to anyone that shows up on my doorstep. For some reason they are drawn to me..why would I reject them? It's not as if I'm giving them signatory rights to my bank account..they simply want to track my questions/answers/comments..which is extremely flattering. Similarly, I usually give people maximum points with whom I disagree, if their argument is well thought out, lucid and sensible. Am I missing something here?
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I usually add them until they do something objection able. I think I'll follow Darkling's advice and only add the ones willing to talk to me first.
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nope, although technically i'm not comfortable granting friends requests from anyone. but, yeah, i have a few friends requests from people i've never talked to before, and i just don't get it. why do they want to be my friend? are these people that treat the friends system as a popularity contest?
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no, not really. I prefer to have exchanged a few comments with them first. After all, it's a friends list, not a total strangers list.
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If they want to follow my questions and answers, what is to prevent them? Granting an approval to a friend's request is just making the following easier really.
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Yes , surew why not? that's how your friends circle get bigger. how can you gain friends if you don't approve their "friend request" or request yourself?
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Yes. It's not like I'm inviting you in for tea and crumpets. I'm just gonna be able to see your activity without finding your name to go to your profile. Sheesh.
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I am a little apprehensive when I see someone I don't know on my friend requests.
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No. I do take the time to go read many questions and answers from that person. I have been so impressed by two that I have added them as I saw this is someone I would like to be friends with. The majority I have to reject, at least for the time being. I want to keep my friends list as condensed as possible. It has grown to the point I plan on being much more discriminating in the future. Most of the folks I call friends here are already on it so I don't think there is going to be a problem. I would like to add that looking at my friends list makes me feel good, proud even, to have these people as my friends. It makes me smile.
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Depends where. Assuming you mean on AB sure. Anyone who has asked hasn't bugged me so I just accept. I can always remove later. On sites like MySpace and Facebook though I do NOT accept just anyone.
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I only have famous people on my myspace page. I think it funny! I don't have any of my friends, I don't think they have pages. I have had 3 request from people I don't know and they are requesting to be your friend so you can look at nude pictures of them. I'm not comfortable adding strangers. I added one today and just got a message saying her sexy web-cam was up if we wanted to look! GROSS!!! I got some lady last week selling sex toys! Ah, DELETE!
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Sure why wouldn't I.
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When I first started here I accepted any request. I am now weeding through the list and only keeping those I enjoy regular contact with. So no, I don't accept all requests anymore.
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