Do you think children of divorce are more likely or less likely to divorce when and if they marry? Also, do you think they have commitment issues?
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no i dont think so because i think it would be more harmful for a child to be in a enviroment where they are unhappy because of parents arguing etc, so i think its better for the parents to divorce rather than put their children through hell. Also the parents could get into another relationship where they are commited to each other. it will obviously be hard for the children when the parents split up but in the long run it will be better for them than all the arguing etc that caused them to divorce in the first place.
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I don't call those commitment issues. I call that reality and the ability to recognize a "mistake" . I have been married 3 times. All I have to go by is my oldest daughter and she seemed happy until he started living in the bar while she is raising her two babies and keeping up with college.. She left ... She is like me, for this I am proud.
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Well, my boyfriend and I are both from "divorced" families. His parents have married and divorced a few times each, and my parents the same. I say at least for us, we're definitely a little skeptical, but are very serious about getting married. If it happens we want it to be for keeps. I think it makes us take it more seriously. But I can only speak for myself and my boyfriend.
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The most significant role models for children is/are mom and dad. So if they grow up witnessing fights, abuse, neglect, infidelity, bad habits, etc, they have no examples of how to do things better. This doesn't mean that children of divorced parents can't have a successful marriage, only that they have had lousy guidance in that area. The same for commitment issues...tough to enter into a relationship when you believe deep down that it is doomed to disaster. Again this doesn't mean the same thing has to happen. All relationships require work, from everybody. Any relationship can work if the parties both want it to work and are willing to communicate. Communication is the key.
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Absolutely, they are more likely to get divorced. It is called the divorce cycle. They are more likely to marry as teens, cohabitate and marry someone who is also a child of divorced parents. It can primarily be attributed to the lessons children learn about relationship skills and marital commitment.
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I think it depends on the general upbringing of the children... My parents separated when I was nineteen. My ex fiance's parents separated when he was ten. There was an obvious difference about how we both felt about love and life. My parents' separation made me realize that I shouldn't take love for granted and that I wanted to try to making my marriage successful. My fiance, however, fell into the category of having commitment issues, which he blames a lot of on his parents. While it's not entirely his parents' fault, it definitely played a huge toll on how he saw relationships, hence why we didn't end up working out...
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I'm a pretty good example. My Mom divorced my Dad when I was 2. My third divorce was just final a month ago. I think the thing I leaned from my Mom was marriage is not forever. I really can't imagine being married to the same person for eternity. I can commit for the short term but not long term.
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Well I can't speak for all children of divorced parents only myself, but, I am one of seven children. Three of us got married and have been happy with our partners. My elder sister was married for over 35 years before her husband died. I have been married almost 25 years and my younger brother has been married for 10 years. I have 3 siblings who are divorced and never remarried and one sibling who has never married. Seems like an even split.
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Of course it depends on the people, but there are studies that show that children of divorced parents are more likely to get divorced, but I can't remember the percentages.
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I have commitment issues...My parents got divorced when I was 7. Still think that this relationship will not last, and I try to keep myself distanced, dont want to get hurt, like my mommy did in the past. Unfortunately, I remember it all.
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the first is a toss-up. i think that my son will enter marriage more carefully whereas i think that my daughter may be more likely to marry and divorce quickly. it affects everyone differently, some of the effects are canceled out by other things, but, all together, i'd think that children of divorce would be more likely to divorce and more likely to have commitment issues.
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Some studies show that the children of divorce are, despite being more determined than any not to divorce, more likely to get divorced themselves. "Growing up in a divorced family greatly increases the chances of ending one's own marriage, a phenomenon called the divorce cycle or the intergenerational transmission of divorce," says Wolfinger, assistant professor in the University of Utah's Department of Family and Consumer Studies. http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/26714.php I'm not sure its commitment issue, maybe its that they don't have a positive role model. They haven't learned how to stick it out, or deal with problems so that they don't end in divorce.
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