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If you thought he had broken up with you -- what's to prevent you from thinking that again in the future? Sounds like communication needs to improve. These conditions don't sound like they are completely your fault. For one thing, cheating is probably not the right word, though you should probably have told him you had an intimate moment with somebody else after he broke up with you, but what you do when you're not his girlfriend is not really any of his business. Ask your boyfriend how you can help him put this episode permanently behind him, and don't settle for any delay in the matter.
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Sounds like there's poor communication there. Why would u think he have broken up with u? Unless he was NC (no contact) for a while or ignoring u, if so then he doesn't care about u.
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I'll get blasted for my asumptions but well... I'm usually right :). Sounds like you and your bf are not going to work anyway. I understand that he may have said we're done or whatever and when you feel like you're by yourself or have been rejected, then you crave attention and are vunerable. You went out and got busy and should not have most likely. Don't blame the alcohol because you know that's not the reason. He will not understand and will not forget. Don't expect him to respect you and for that matter don't expect to have respect for yourself? I'm not saying you shouldn't have respect for yourself. I'm just saying that messing around while your emotionaling distraught will make you feel guilty, dirty, etc. He will not get over this because we are not wired that way. He has images of you with the other guy that will not go away ah... EVER. That's just how most of us are? I don't know why.
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GIRL I FEEL YOU, SINCE I BEEN THRU THAT SAME SITUATION, MY EX TOOK ME BACK AFTER HE KNEW I CHEATED ON HIM, BUT IT WASNT THE SAME, WE ALWAYS ARGUING AND HE WOULD ALWAYS BRING THE PAST BACK LIKE TO EXCUSE HIMSELF TO GET AWAY WITH IT, SO I TRIED TO PUT UP WITH IT, BUT REALLY GIRL WAS JUST A WASTE OF TIME... GIRL I RECOMMEND YOU TO MOVE ON, IT AINT GONNA WORK OUT !!!
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Sit down with him, talk to him and ask him what you need to do to help him. But....do NOT let him turn this around back on you. If you had genuine reason to believe that you were no longer together then you made a decision based on that. It may not have been the wisest decision, but who is to judge. If he is stringing you along, making you feel bad, don't let him. The fact that you posted this tells me that you've been feeling bad about this long enough. It's time to move on...will he join you? Or stay behind?
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I don't think that you can or should do anything about it.He broke up with you and you were with someone else.
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Show him the Friends episode where Ross sleeps with the copy girl when he and Rachel are "on a break."
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At the drop of a bucket, you cheated? You did not give your relationship time to see what direction it was going? You made a big mistake. He will never trust you again and maybe he shouldn't.
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how did he find out that you cheated on him?
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How can you "cheat" if you THOUGHT he had broken up with you?
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Use Ross's excuse....BUT we were on a BREAK!!!! then again...that did'nt really work for him. This is something REALLY hard for men to deal with.....Be there for him.....but at a distance.
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sit down and talk to him explain wat you though and maybe he'll understand
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You need to explain why you did it and let him make a decission. You can not force this issue and if you try you will only make things worse. Explain why you did it and leave him alone for as long as it takes. Staying away from other guys might help too.
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If you were my girlfriend I don't know how I would ever talk to you again, and honestly I wouldn't. Then again if you were you would not be confused about if we were together or not. Let's assume for a moment that you are the girl of my dreams and you fucked up and regret the hell out of it. Talk to me! Dammit! lol. If you want a guy to like you just go back to basics and show extreme interest over an extended period of time and he will come around. I don't think he will ever get over it, but if you praise him and let him do what he wants to you for a while then he might feel equal. The thing about girls who cheat is that the guy will ask, "what did he have that I didn't?", and if any other girl comes along that wants him for who he is then he will run to her. You just need to be there to prevent that from happening.
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Hi, the same thing happened to me unfortunately, my bf said he didnt love me anymore so I did what my friends thought i should do get drunk and sleep with someone else to move on, next day he called and I told him the truth and for months I felt guilty and sorry for what I'd done. I started doing everything possible to try and make my bf happy with me but then months later I found out he cheated on me n he lied about it to my face. We've been on a break since but I still love him and he still yells at me at times and I find it hard to trust him and sometimes he'll bring it up again and make me feel bad which just makes me angrier because he cheated while i thought we were good and lied to my face! He still to this day says I cheated w when I didn't really want to be with anyone else except him but I had reason to think he didnt want me anymore, e.g he would stand me up at the last minute for arranged dates at my place about 5times or so, any advice?
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Charge up the flux capacitor. Get in the Delorian. Punch in 1985 and make things right!
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you need to let him know that it was a poor decission that you made and that you are truely sorry and it would never happen again,if he still upset you should just let him have some time to think give him space so that he can figure out what he wants to do,and if he wants to forgive you or not.Sometimes people take things harder than most. he just needs to gather his thoughts...
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You were extremely hurt and heart-broken and sought the affections of another. You were vulnerable and drunk, it will not happen again. Or you can just simply dump him!
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