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by anonymous on July 10th, 2007

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My best guy friend (im female) is a crossdresser. Today we went clothes shopping, he tried on some womens clothes & the store manager didn't like it so she made us leave. How would you react if you saw us trying on womens clothes? Please be honest

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  • by jtolb65 on July 10th, 2007

    jtolb65

    I was a department manager in retail for a number of years and I've helped more than one cross-dresser in my time. I would escort them over to the Men's fitting room where they could change. I actually had a customer complain about me letting "that faggot" try on women's clothes in the mens department. My boss backed me up and the complainant was invited to leave the store and shop elsewhere. Jerk.

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  • by Jenniferocious on July 10th, 2007

    Jenniferocious

    I wouldn't care one bit who was trying on the clothes.

    The manager was totally out of line asking you to leave. Sadly, though, businesses can refuse to do business with anyone they choose, so there may not be anything you can do about it.

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  • by Mini_kilt on July 10th, 2007

    Mini_kilt

    I wouldn't have a problem with it at all, I worked in a clothing store once and a guy would come in everyday (NOT even close to your case, I'm not saying it's the same) and would take womens bras and nightgowns to the dressing room and spend a long period of time in there..everyday, without ever buying anything, and we didn't do anything about it. He was a potential customer just like everybody else, and was treated as such.

    You should SERIOUSLY complain, write a letter, contact your local drag queen society or something of the like and let them know!

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  • by Jeffers on July 10th, 2007

    Jeffers

    As a big ol' seasonal-drag-queen, I do it all the time.

    Occasionally, I will get "a look" but I just dismiss them and continue "as if it were normal for a <mumble> year-old man to be trying on a prom-dress..."

    I have found, if I don't give them the opportunity to comment, they behave themselves. I also tend to be polite and no more or less discreet than when I'm shopping for mens clothes.

    I needed a new bra for a costume in May - I had some older lady gladly helping me find the right size... I told her it was for a costume (it was) and she was more than happy to help - and even joked with me. I've had shop-keepers tell me "It makes your butt look big!" (I know - that's the point...) "That color flatters you..." etc.

    When I visit Central Illinois, I often go with my sister - while I don't recall if *I* have tried on clothes, I've certainly helped her shop for dresses, etc, and am very much involved in choosing the cut, fit, color, etc... and the shop-keepers generally find my something "unusual" because I speak with more candor and knowledge than they often do.

    Granted, I live in a major city, so they are more used to seeing things that the folks in Peoria find shocking.

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  • by Lippycow on July 10th, 2007

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    If it was a large clothes company i would write a strong letter of complaint about the manager.

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  • by SarahK on September 21st, 2007

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    That's discrimination! He should sue... There's a fine line in the "right to refuse" when it comes to race, sex, sexual orientation, etc. Too bad the transgendered community isn't as readily accepted as the homosexual/bisexual... and I realize that there are plenty of heterosexual crossdressers out there, but this is just a sad reflection on society that we can be acceptable of so many things and still stuck in some thought pattern that gender is binary and set to certain stereotypes.

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  • by Wickels on July 10th, 2007

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    I wouldn't give a hoot. I'd probably be envoius of how comfortable a guy would have to be to do it. Especially if it was a small town or something, where it was REALLY looked down on.

    *More power to you!!*

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  • by Someone on July 10th, 2007

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    I would find it...different since you don't see that often here. But if I was the manager, as long as you were all following the "keep the undergarments on" rule I'd be fine. Business is business and to each their own.

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  • by Hieronymus_Bosch on July 10th, 2007

    Hieronymus_Bosch

    We get this in the charity shop where i work, no-one ever gets thrown out, i actually have fun with it, and get into a converstion with the guy trying on clothes.

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  • by Cyndi Ninja on December 11th, 2007

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    It don't think I would react at all if I were a shopper... a friend of mine actually used to borrow items out of my closet (accessories, bags, etc). It never bothered me. If I heard someone ask you to leave because of it, I would promptly ask who their supervisor was and report them for discrimination. The only thing I would see a problem with was if he asked to use the ladies fitting rooms....

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  • by altgirl84 on December 11th, 2007

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    I'd smile and comment on how I like your courage and openness to it. And I'd tell the ignorant bitchy store manager to take a flying leap; there's no sign on the window that men can't try on clothes and I'd threaten to take it up with the higher-ups of the store. Unless she caught you guys screwing like rabbits in the store, I don't think she has a right to throw you out. God I hate ignorance!

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  • by RikCuk on November 2nd, 2007

    RikCuk

    I think I would be comfortable with it! The whole stigma of gender is ridiculous! They're clothes! If this is who the person is then they should be free to try on garments as anyone! I know I once wanted to try on a garment and was refused! My wife and I will not shop at that store again! In today's society, we are still pretty backward! Rick

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  • by Lippycow on July 10th, 2007

    Lippycow

    If it was a large clothes company i would write a strong letter of complaint about the manager.

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  • by Princess Mickie on September 12th, 2008

    Princess Mickie

    i would take him into the ladies fitting room with me, that way he was with somebody safe. most fitting rooms in department stores have locks on them now and go all the way to the floor. plus in some places they are big enough to fit two or more people in there at a time.

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  • by Anonymous on January 26th, 2008

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    Honestly, I would think that it was strange if I seen a man trying in womens clothes in public. Most crossdresser's usually do it in the comfort of their own homes. I do think that it is discrimination that the lady made you guys leave. That was not right, something should be done about her.

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  • by Sosueme on January 26th, 2008

    Sosueme

    Definitely sounds discriminatory to me. Bottom line, they may have lost a sale. I'm not a big shopper, but aren't the dressing rooms private? What's the big deal? Wear or buy what you want. By the way (based on your photo,I know appearances aren't everything....but)I would try on a skirt for you any day...can I just call it a kilt?:)

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  • by Mrs.Dufresne on October 22nd, 2007

    Mrs.Dufresne

    I personally wouldn't mind at all. I might even suggest some accessories. Shoes, handbags, jewelry?

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  • by Scifisuz on July 10th, 2007

    Scifisuz

    I'd think, what a hoot. Obviously, some places will be more amenable than others. I went into the dressing room with my bf when HE was trying on clothes, to see how they fit. (Nothing to do with cross dressing) The staff asked us to leave too.

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  • by starblast123 on May 28th, 2011

    starblast123

    im a crossdresser as well and i used to work at a female clothing store (i got the job 4 coming and buying so often) there i've seen about 20 crossdressers even little kid crossdressers who look all nervous being out in public wearing dresses and stuff some i couldnt even tell it was a boy until the mom who knew i was a crossdresser said it. but if i saw another crossdreser like always my boss will allow me to help and they are always nice. onetime a lady came in saw one of the families (there son was a crossdresser) and said "excuse me ma'am why do u let those gay people in". i got mad told her i was a crossdresser to and my boss made her leave and not allowed on the the premisis.

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  • by It's not a situation it's called sophisti on April 25th, 2011

    It's not a situation it's called sophisti

    honestly hunnie i dont givva damn because i had plenty of crossdressing friends LOTS OF THEM and i could care less what ppl thought when they saw me with them. so hun do the same thats ur friend you love him go with that and wipe your ass with that other bullshit cuz its not worth thinking about... ppl are stupid NORMAL IS OVER-RATED AND THE SHIT NEEDS TO TAKE A SITDOWN SOMEWHERE CUZ NOBODY IN THIS WORLD IS NORMAL WE'RE ALL WIERD AND MOST OF US ARE CRAZY so who cares? u shouldnt. the manager is a nimrod and a prick im sure he or she has a family member or somebody close being the sameway just tryna cover-it-up by showing dislike towards you and your friend dressing up in girl clothing. P.S I know ur a girl. (: hopes this helps

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  • by waitaminute on March 28th, 2010

    waitaminute

    I would do like the scene in 'Pretty Woman'. She got snubbed at a store, came back with lots of shopping bags and asked the snotty workers if they worked on commission. They said yes, she said, 'big mistake. big BIG mistake.' and walked back out. heeheeee...

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  • by Anonymous on November 28th, 2008

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    I'd look at it as a sale and try to be as accommodating as possible without making other customers uncomfortable.

    I've found many stores have a policy of helping crossdressers, although they may ask them to try on clothing in a dressing room away from female customers.

    If it's a small boutique store, where dressing rooms are few or there are no male dressing rooms, I recommend calling first and asking if the staff is comfortable with CDs using the dressing rooms.

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  • by Skirtsnhose on September 17th, 2008

    Skirtsnhose

    I'd be happy to see you there. This should not be anywhere close to the big deal that it is for some people.

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  • by Barrat per negòci on October 22nd, 2007

    Barrat per negòci

    Do you mind if I took a peek for a few seconds?

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  • by DA BEN DAN yanggui zi on May 28th, 2011

    DA BEN DAN yanggui zi

    It really wouldn't bother me.

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  • by purplecows on April 25th, 2011

    purplecows

    The whole point of a clothing store is to make money.

    So, did he give any indication that he wasn't serious about buying things?

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  • by Anonymous on September 12th, 2008

    Anonymous

    I'd have you arrested and convicted because I am certain I can find something that will stick!

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  • by agent475 on June 25th, 2009

    agent475

    it really pisses me off that people say many insults to a crossdresser or transvestite,people should have respect just like us.

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  • by dreams always come true on May 28th, 2009

    dreams always come true

    i would stare a moment and just brush it off and walk away.

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  • by grifter911 on March 28th, 2010

    grifter911

    Well for one, she must really sell alot of clothes to be judgmental about how is trying on what. What ever dont let some shallow, short-minded, self-involved person make you or your friend feel any less normal.....Normal. Thats a word I dont use to describe my self. Normal is the same old boring shit everyday. I would go back to the store and plan on spending some money, just to prove a point... Money talks and bullshit walks. You stick by your friend and you tell him, What you chose to do or not do, should never be affected by the ignorance, and bigotry of others. I my self am going through some what of the same trial. He at least is not assamed of who he is and what he likes to do. If it makes you feel sexy, wear it. If it make you feel impowered then do it. I still have yet to find someone to trust enough to talk about what I am trying to do. I dont know if that helps, hope so.

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  • by snakeboy on December 7th, 2011

    snakeboy

    It wouldnt bother me at all ..I would of went off on the manager

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