How do you know you've found true love, not just lust or infatuation? Do you think there even is such a thing as love or it's just a concept? Does today's society use the word too loosely or not enough?

i think that the word love is used too often to describe feelings perhaps not of love, but of infatuation.
i do, however believe in true love, and i do believe it exists in today's world...

but...

it's hard to say how to tell when you've found true love... but i knew because i didn't get embarrassed nor did i feel ashamed of the geeky things he did... and you feel comfortable around them... with your body, with the things you do, about eating in front of them.

and it's kind of scary too because you feel like you can't live without them...

you'll know.
it's hard to explain.


second thought: i also think that we don't use the word love enough, that is, you don't say it to ppl who need to hear it or who don't hear it enough [like ur parents, or your friends, or w/e].

Yes I do think it is used to loosely, I think we all want to be in love and for someone to love us. For this reason we jump to fast on the love wagon. I think when you really enjoy being with someone and you like who they are as a person you respect them, you find trust in them then your on the road to real love. But it's a long road.

True love does in fact exist, it happens ever day, i felt it , its the joy of just being in the same room with that person, knowing that they are there for you , its like your walking on air , you have eyes for no one else, sometimes you physicaly cant sleep with anyone else but the person you are in love with.

its fluttering of your stomack, its all that and much more.

That depends on your definition of "True Love".

Personally, I'm of the opinion that "False Love" doesn't truly exist, any love you have is true to you when you feel it, and the only real way to tell if it's "True" or not is by how it turns out in the end.

Most people define "True Love" as one person that you love and want to spend the rest of your life with, so even if I believed in any special love in life that was more "True" than any other, I'd still say that there would be no real way to recognise it until it was too late for that to matter.

And different people have different definitions of "Love", and when someone says "I love you" that could many any number of things, depending on the person saying it.

I think the word is not so much over-used as it is highly subjective and over-misunderstood.

All I (Or any of us) can know for sure is that I know my own definition of "Love" when I feel it.

I always thought i had loved in the past but now i realise it was infatuation and lust, i sort of knew at the time but you never really want to acknowledge it yourself! it was only when i met my partner with all the crap that came with it did i realise it was true love! I'm quite old fashioned in the way i believe there may only be one or 2 real true loves in a lifetime.

Wow this question could have me going on a rant for hours. However, I won't I'll answer it as concisely as I can.

You will know you have found true love because you won't have to ask. It will be that clear to you that it is different than infatuation, crushes, and lust. Until you find it though, you will wonder what the difference is. I did, and then it's about as clear as the difference between black and white.

Love is no concept, it is a way in which we are born and need to live. It has helped us prepare for life. Love comes from family, friends, and even a significant other. We must consider the social benefits of love before we ever go on to say that it is nothing more than a concept. (In other words love in all those sections is how humans have survived, mated, and succeeded as a species).

Today's society doesn't always know what it is. They mistake infatuation for love. But, I think enough people do know what it is.

Ummmm....an old ass post, but I feel prompted to respond since the post was on my birthday...

True love....bullshit!

We meet people we are connect to...energy flows freely without disturbance. These are the relationships where we can truly be our authentic self. We feel compelled to be honest, and to our surprise this honesty is accepted.

So...fuck soul mates, twin souls, true love, and all that other perfect worldly lame shit.

Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't, but never settle for a relationship that requires you to sell our the self.

Lust and infatuation are feelings. Love is an action. It's something you do, not something you feel. True love lasts past any "feelings" of love you may have.

It's a decision you have to make everyday. You have to decide to show love for people--your partner, your children, your family, your fellow man, everyone.

And there is a such a thing as love. It exists all around us. It's in the beauty of the sunset, the sound of children playing, the helping hand when you're at rock bottom, the smile on you're baby's face. Our ability to appreciate all these things is a direct gift from God who created us with love and for love.

Society has no concept of love. It is just a superficial portrait of who we really are. We are made to love. It's when we fail to love that problems arise.

I think that true love is the culminating event after a series of events: some enjoyable and others not so enjoyable. True love denotes a love that is not superficial like infatuation. You can't turn it on and off like a light switch. True love is when you love this person even when they are not acting right. True love doesn't hold on to past events that were hurtful and bring them up in unrelated arguments. True love forgives and always seeks peace and understanding. True love always looks for the solutions to the problems and not simply repeat what the problems are. True love stands the test of time because it is a part of our destiny. True love seeks the truth and heart of ever matter. True love demands patience and never rejoices at the hurt or pain of another. But here is the catch: In order to find true love, YOU have to be a man or woman worth loving! The heart of a "true love" relationship is not about "I, Me, or Mine." It's about " Us, We, and Ours."