It's very easy when something hasn't happened to say what you would do. It must be very difficult to decide what to do if it actually happens. Presumably your 'significant other' is a person that you're in love with. If that's the case how would you be able to dump them, just like that. I don't know what I would do, but I'm sure I would hope that the cheating was just an aberration that wouldn't be repeated. It would definitely lead to lots of analysis of our relationship , but I would hope to ride out the storm.

Dump them. Why waste another minute on someone who doesn't care about you. But thats me, and I don't know you're entire story.

It's hard to say what I would do, but revenge isn't on the menu of options if, by revenge, you mean I would cheat on them. Two wrongs don't make a right, as they say. I'd have a hard time taking him back, I think.

Maybe give them one more chance. One more, than it's over.

I've given chances before and I later regret them because I can't get the fact that they cheated outta my mind. The trust is gone after the betrayal.

Give him a 2nd chance and if he does it again, dump him.

A cheater doesn't deserve a second chance in my mind. I'd never be able to trust them again, and would drive myself crazy with suspicions. It would hurt to leave, but in the long run, I know I would be happier with someone who I could fully trust to love no one but me.

I honestly wouldnt give him another chance no boy/man desevese a second chance after cheeting once its been done its been done if he wanted to still be with you he wouldnt of cheeted in the first place [edit] im a lad and i still think that no1 should cheat its wrong and hurts the other pearson to much

dump them

It is an individual thing , for me personally, I would leave him. If he truly loved me he would not have slept with another. Why would I wish to stay with someone who shows me such little respect?

I would dump them but there are those out there more generous and forgiving than I am.

I firmly believe in a solid trust being formed before a relationship should even be considered. Knowing the person well enough to trust them helps but not always keep a mate from cheating but will destroy a trust. Many will forgive hoping to save a relationship but it never really works because once they get away with it then it makes it easier to do it again. I will not waste time with someone who clearly wants others. If they wanted me and cared enough they would not cheat on me. No I would not give them another chance to hurt me again.

I have been on both sides of this issue and neither feels good at all. I was forgiven AND have never done it again. (12 years now)

i'd probably guess they were suggesting an orgy, then i'd follow through...orgies are fun

Leave, but be sure to give them all their stuff back, and be sure to get yours back too.

NOT IF THEY TYPED IN ALL CAPS

Fuck no...that's a line you just don't cross. Period.

I would have to have a more complete scenario. It would depend upon the circumstances and the individual. I am polyamorous so cheating would be stupid. All they would have to do is ask my permission and I would grant it if the other person was not an ass. Of course, I am an extreme stickler for disease testing as well. If they DID cheat and I believed that they would not do it again and their apology was sincere, I probably would. If I accepted it I would insist that they go through the disease testing as I would as well because of the risks. That would annoy me greatly, I must admit.

i think i would be able to forgive them, but i wouldn't stay in the relationship. i would just leave and go find someone who would respect me and not cheat on me. there is no excuse for cheating.

I would never be able to let that down. I would feel betrayed on a whole new level I would have to walk (or run) away!

I would be packing someones clothes. Would I forgive them? No!

I would "dump" him the second I found out. I have tolerated a lot of things, but that would never be one of them. And as for forgiveness goes, that would depend on the situation.

I'd probably blame the cheating on all the pressure due to the caps lock people. Therefor I'd execute every person who types in all caps. Starting with you.

I WOULD BE REALLY REALLY MAD AND THEN I'D PROBABLY KICK HIM IN THE BALLS!!!!!!!!!!!!

If I had a boyfriend, I'd be the one cheating. I'm married.

I would cry my eyes out like a wussy :,(

Nope... Cheating destroys trust. Lack of trust destroys the relationship. There is no way I could ever be with a cheater.

it would depend, if we were in love, and who it was with like if it was with their ex...hmmm i would feel so cut up, and if i had a friendship with them beforehand and not just sum random i started goign out with... i guess it all comes down to how much u really know them and could u trust them again...

DUMP!!!! Not cause they cheated, but when confronted 99% of cheaters will lie!!! LYING is bad!!

Instant dump.

Dump.

I am in this situation right now... I believe in second chances, and in my situation we are very much in love- it was just a horrible mistake done by a 1st offender. We are in counseling right now and are building our relationship again. We want a family and kids and want to do this together. Through counseling, we are realizing that there are many issues stemming from his childhood that we are working through. I really hope it works out, and I think the investment is worth it in the long run for both of us- no matter what happens.

Sorry, SEE YA! I don't tolerate betrayl on that level with anyone, let alone someone who is supposed to be a soul mate. Any trust for them just went out the window.

Dump them, cause once bitten twice shy.

definitely dump him.

Dump him - in the middle of the East River after I've killed him AND whoever he was cheating with.

dump em for sure

I am actually struggling with this answer in my real life as well. In my situation he did it when we were first dating and said its because he was afraid i could be the one he marries and those thoughts scared him. Also during that point we hid a lot of our relationship because my father is very religious and a bit rascist and did not approve. I kind of understand his point. I mean he is the first one i felt like putting my whole heart into a relationship with and hes the only one i have ever felt this way about, but what he did was wrong but I just dont know what to do. Please if anyone has advice I would love to hear it.

I'd dizzump her!

Ba-Bye!!!

Well,first of all you should know what love is.Love is about understanding,trust ang feelings.since he explained his reasons why he did this to you and you want to believe him, that's fine.That is, you understood what really pushed him. though he has no right hurting you.For the trust,you may not trust him 100 procent, thats nature. u can't controll it.And the feelings stays as long you love him.When you diggest all these,hopefully you going to find a place in your sweet and charming heart to forgive him.Remember,there is one shining star for the both of u.But dump him as soon as he starts to behave weirred.

id get revenge in the worst way possible first then dump them with a good old kick in the balls to finish it :)

I would definitely dump her

Neither initially. I would insist on focusing on communication to try to get to the bottom of it. I would insist on couple counselling if our relationship was a married or long term monogamous one. The 'other' would be reminded that honesty, fidelity nd personal integrity are huge in a relationship with me..... If I am satisfied that it was a 'one off' and that it was an isolated case...I probably would forgive...but I'd never forget. It would take a long time for me to trust completely, but I would give it a try. But....if it had been an ongoing affair, or there had been others....that would be different altogether.

dump them. never talk to them again.

This is a very interesting question because this is exactly what Im going through now. Honestly I tried to forgive but its getting increasingly hard because all I have is the image of my boyfriend of 5 yrs cheat on me wit that jamaican whore. The only thing I give him credit for is at least being man enough to tell me he cheated. Since he did it 3 times, its clear he doesnt love me. Yet, he says he doesnt want to break up wit me for her either. I've thought about REVENGE so many times even at the extent of putting a curse on him. Which I still may do because I find that will be the only way to somewhat help my rage and pain. Basically, I feel U can only truly forgive someone when U let go of the anger and that person gains your trust back. No matter what even the best, kindest, most forgiving person will forgive but never forget. Trust is gone and a new trust has to be gained for the relationship to last. I realize now, I have to break up wit him because the fact that he cheated (more than once)makes me HATE him to the very core and always will!!! I get angry when he's even in my presence. Being in a relationship like this hurts, is pointless and unhealthy. Love isn't ever supposed to hurt this bad!!!! I've actually been so upset that I think I made myself sick. After I heard the news I was crying and throwing up:( I dont think I will ever forgive him. At least NOT in this lifetime. Im sure some people have extremely good hearts and will be able to forgive and let go, unfortunately Im not one of them.

dump their ungrateful arse and never think twice about it

Neither. Never revenge....it just makes me as low and lacking in integrity as him. If it is the first time, then long discussions, making amends, and understanding is in order... If it is the second, a separation and couple counselling to work out the issues that he has, or WE have. If it is the third.....out the door!

Revenge would be out of the question. It's not how I think. Would I dump them? Maybe, mabe not.

Dump and move on..that's it. Revenge will only prolong the harm done to you..unless that is how you want to live your life, revenge/retaliation is out..moving on without looking back is in! :)

revenge is so petty. the closest thing to revenge I would do is try to take everything I could in the devorce... and that is only if she didn't tell me, if she told me then I would end it peacefully.

Revenge is a waste of effort. She would be history.

dump and get revenge

ack. Dump him and cut him out of my life completely. That would be the best revenge.

You forgot a third option... Forgive them after finding out their reasons. BTDT.

I think cheating is unforgetable. Its really hard to gain that trust back after you've been done wrong. i say move on and take yourself out of the situation

Eh. If she still keeps her panties in our dresser, I don't care what she does.