What are you supposed to do when you are so lonely and long for companionship but when you take a look at yourself inside and out you wonder how your supposed to find someone when you don't like what you see and wouldn't even date yourself?
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I don't know. I feel that way sometimes too though. I just kind of write it off as me being crazy. I know that won't work forever though. Find something that you really like about yourself, nevermind the mirror; looks are fleeting. What are you good at? That would be something to like about yourself. just remember that there is always someone you can talk to somewhere.
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I don't know what to tell you because I'm in that shitty place now myself. Maybe we both need to make sure we get the hell out of the house and visit friends and family as much as possible. And we can't be afraid to take the plunge and ask someone out, even if it's just for coffee. We have to be proactive and stop with the self-hatred. I'll try harder if you will. What do you say?
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Go to craigslist.com It's free and you'll risk meeting a lot of turkeys but there are some real people there too and you may see from the pictures that perhaps you're not so bad
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Love yourself Man! Focus on things that you do appreciate about yourself! Change the things you don't like OR at the very least accept them. The fact that you've proposed this question says you're a decent person that's seeking to be a better version of himself. I'm willing to bet that you're a worthy individual and you just need a shift in consciousness to recognize that you are indeed lovable! A book that kick started my journey to self love is called "The Ultimate Secrets to Total Self Confindence" by Dr. Robert Anthony. I know, I know, it's the cheeeeeesiest title, but the information is priceless! Self help is a billion dollar industry for a reason. You're not alone! Decide to go to deeper places while looking within and whether you're alone or with others, you're gonna love the company you keep. For real tho!
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People get trapped into thinking too much about themselves, rather than being good companions for others. One way to get out of this trap is to meet with a counselor and get some tips on how to get out of your shell. Another way is to do volunteer work. That will help your perspective. Take some classes just for fun, like dancing, or "great books", or something you are interested in. My Grandson took a year of piano lessons.
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I will guarantee you that there is many, many things about you that people seek when searching for companionship. Stay patient and realize that things happen for a reason and that there is somebody out there looking for you.
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You find someone whom you really like and analyze why. What is it about them that is so likeable? What characteristics about them do you admire? Then you copy them. You follow their example and try to be just like them, until it becomes second nature. The outside part you make the best of...get help...spend a little money on a stylish haircut and some really smart well-fitting clothes. The you go through life smiling...never complaining...being kind and generous...listening to others...and generally doing as you would be done by. You'll be a different person, won't you....and life will change!
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Use the loneliness to motivate yourself to change the things about yourself that you can. Making those changes may give you the self-respect to accept some of those things as part of "who you are". Then seek the activities you enjoy and date from connections made in those groups. You'll have more in common with people you meet that way.
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It sounds like you're tossing in the towel before you even start. We all have things about us we would love to change, and we all have done things in our lives we would like to take back. Stop focusing on the things you don't like about yourself. Find things you do like about yourself and celebrate them. Then start working on changing the things you can change, but stay positive. Remember that we are our toughest critics, I'm sure there are a lot of things about you that people like and would enjoy getting to know you better if you would give them a chance. Don't walk around looking defeated, be open to people and you will get friends.
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You give up on Answerbag after a little more than a month because you don't really want help.
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I felt unwanted in the past, but as soon as I move to new environment full of people from differenr races, I found myself "very wanted".
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get away from the mirror. Sit down and remember all the things that are good about you. are you honest, caring,loyal,smart,helpful? Do you have a cute laugh, maybe cute dimples? everybody has a good feature. and always remember...people who dont like themselves give that vibe to everyone they come in contact with.
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when i feel like that, i have what i call a hygene shower. i wash hair, brush teeth, cut nails, etc. alwasys makes me feel a bit better :) i also go to the gym 3 times a week an i always feel good coming back, feels like i've done somthing worthwhile :)
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Change Yourself. And start liking Yourself. If You wouldn't date yourself, nobody would (at least long term). This attitude shows. Realize You pros and cons. Highlight the pros, decrease the cons. Work consistently. You might also join some social volunteering group that's open to everyone, even those with low self-esteem. Like www.couchsurfing.com
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dont say that ! im sure u look awesome . u just need to find your self , and u can do that by going on a vacation to a place u like and change the roteen , and have a new make over . becase when u look good outside then u will feel good inside . also excersice , it refreshes the mood and the body .
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I've been there. It sucks. For me, when I'm alone for a while, I get this wierd mix of lonely, restless, and horny. But, those feelings are also good motivation for you to get your life in order. There's actually a lot of energy mixed up in this. Put that energy to work. If you don't believe in yourself, at least believe in your potential. If you're not happy with your body, start eating right and working out. If you're not happy with your career, take classes, or switch jobs. If you're not happy with your personality, find something to feel passionate about. Paint, draw, write, sing, whatever. A few changes in lifestyle will have a HUGE effect on your moods. And, in the process, you will feel more attractive, and actually be more attractive.
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