My best friend is straight & I’m a bisexual male. My best friend talks to me about women all the time but tells me it’s not ok for me to talk about guys. I love him, but also resent him greatly. I feel I have to hide part of me. What should I do?
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It sounds like your friend still isn't willing to accept that part of you. As far as not "letting" you talk about guys- It probably makes him feel uncomfortable. He is a guy, and maybe he thinks you like HIM like that. Also, when you speak about other guys, he can't relate so it probably seems foreign to him. I would either try and talk to him about it, and see if he'll tell you why he's being so strange, or maybe give him some time to think it over. Maybe let him have some space for a minute, and let him decide if he'd rather put it behind to be friends, or if it's just too uncomfortable for him. That has to be his call. Good luck!
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You should tell your friend that it seems a little ridiculous that he can talk about what attracts him but you cant. Just saying those very simple words will change things, hopefully for the better. Your friend sounds a little controlling, were you good friends before you knew you were bi? Maybe he wants to be able to keep you from being you, maybe he just wants to avoid an uncomfortable situation, either way if you just talk about it, things will be very clear pretty quickly.
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You should definitely tell your friend that what he is doing is hurting you. I agree that it probably makes him uncomfortable, so you need to find a way to remind him that you are his best friend. There is no reason to be uncomfortable around each other, that's what best friends are for! Talk openly with your best friend about how you would like his help and advice, no matter who you are dating. While it's hurtful, it may be that your friend wont change. You need to decide if you can still keep this friendship alive, even though your buddy isn't accepting of your life style.
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Talk to him about it. As his "best friend" you have the right. Make him see your point. You listen to his stories about women because as his friend your ears are open to all of his inquisitions, but this should also be the other way around. That's what makes a friendship.
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Since your best friend who is straight does not like you to talk about guys,then why would you still love him and why would you call a guy who is also straight your best friend,if he does not want you to talk about guys? You should find a new male friend who is a bisexual male like yourself so you can talk about guys and if you can't find a new best friend,who is a bisexual male then find a new best friend who is a gay male.
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The gay/bisexual lifestyle is too overated i feel it should be treated as any other relationship with that it sounds like hes just not comfortable with the gay lifestyle and wants to avoid it which unfortunatly is very common. If he is your friend just respect his decison if it bothers you that much tell him you dont like talking about women
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Break off the relationship.
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