If you are very tuned to what is right and wrong...and the Lord gave you someone who loved you(You thought you'd marry) , you did something bad they left, will God punish you by never giving you anyone again ? Or does he just not work that way?
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Absolutely not. God is the embodiment of unconditional forgiveness. I might be wrong in this particular thought of mine, but I believe that, in this situation, He acknowledges the fact you have suffered greatly in lieu of your significant other leaving you for your mistake is punishment enough, and that you have learned from what you have done. At least, I really hope you have learned from your mistake. Adversity is His way of molding you into a better person, and will give you more chances (the more appropriate word here is actually "challenges") to better yourself and please Him. After all, a sculptor cannot create a work of art without a little pressure, sanding, and chipping. If your mistake was infidelity, however... If I were you, I would be on my knees right now thanking the Lord that we're not back in the times where the punishment for infidelity was getting stoned to death.
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("add a comment" won't work for me, so this will be in form of another answer instead) If anything, she is the one in the wrong for giving up your deep love for her in pursuit of the thrill of something new. That...is the most selfish and ridiculous reason for leaving a trustful, committed, and loving relationship. It makes me so angry to hear about people burned for this reason, and I'm so sorry you had to be the victim of that selfish excuse. People will come and go in your life, but aren't we, as believers, just lucky enough to have someone who will always be there for us no matter what changes we go through? :D In fact, He's probably the ones putting those changes in place to better us as people! Please, let your grief out, and whatever you do, I want you to PLEAD to God for the ability to forgive her. Even as you move on from this initial sadness from the breakup, there is no other source of such long-term pain than from a grudge against someone. I pray that you will find the strength to carry on, and allow God to be your support. God bless you. :)
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This has nothing to do with God, this has to do with you and her. God did not "give" her to you like an object. She is a person with free will who decided to be with you, just like you decided to be with her. Like your other question, you need to take responsibility for your own actions. You say you did something "bad". God did not do it, you did. If this thing upset her, you need to seek her forgiveness. Not God's forgiveness, HER forgiveness. If she is unable to forgive you, then learn from the experience and in your next relationship don't repeat the same mistakes. It is up to YOU to seek out another relationship, not to wait for god to give you someone.
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I don't believe the universe works that way. I once had a boyfriend when I was 16. We were together for about 2 years. I had cheated on him about 5 times. I felt terrible for years and years. I now have a boyfriend and we are together. We will have been together for 4 years this September. I haven't cheated since, and I have a boyfriend whom I love very much. Good things happen to bad people, and bad things happen to good people. It's not a "you only get one try" kindof thing. There are many, MANY people in the world. You don't have to pick only one.
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How do you know God gave you this person? If not, you were sinning just by being with her.
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I believe God puts people in our lives throughout our life as we need them or are ready for them. I also believe its up to us to notice them once there and value the gift, not take it for granted. God does not direct us or make choices for us, that falls entirely on us. As far as second chances, I am sorry to say that I do not think God continues to give us what we have already proven we dont deserve, or at least until we have fully understood and learned from our mistakes. But not just because we screwed up the first time and we want another chance.
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