Do you think it is acceptable or unacceptable to end a relationship with a text message- explain your answer?
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communication, is communication.. If the majority of ur communication (including fights) are done through texting or phone conversation because u guys are not in the same spot @ the same time, then a resolution to the problem (ie: a break up/ solution, agreement) is no different than any of the other texts that lead to that point, its just an ending to the convo that is going on in that method of communicating..HOWEVER IF YOU want to break up with someone, but u just want to do it over a text, outta the blue, because it is simple, easy and u get to avoid all the face to face action..then you would be a cowardly person...and not only the gf/bf will think that..everyone that hears about how it was over an 'unexpected text" will think that of the person who did it..basically if its just in ur head, and uve kept it quiet that u want to break up..doing it over a text just seems cheap..and spineless..and that u have a bad reason (ie:another woman/man)
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The question to ask should be "How would I feel if someone did this to me ?" I guess my age (32) is going to affect my answer. As far as being socially acceptable behavior, I'd say absolutely not. But it probably happens quite a bit these days. I think texting is to the current younger generation what the phone is to my generation, so they probably think it's common practice and that it's fine, and they themselves would probably not be offended by it. Also a factor, I'd say, would be length of relationship. If you'd had a couple of dates, and you didn't have the heart to "say it to their face," it might be slightly more acceptable than, say, someone you'd been married to for 10 years. On the whole, no. I think it would be nice to be able to ask some questions - Why do you want to break up ? for example.
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Never. Not unless youre relationship is text based... its very disrespectful if u do that to someone u have loved/liked. I think the best way to see it is how would you feel if somebody did that to you.
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I would have to say I think it is unacceptable. I think when doing something as serious as breaking up with someone a person should face the consequences and do it face to face. Having said that, I guess it is not much different to doing it over the phone or by letter (which I think is equally bad). It is never good news for the person on the receiving end, and I guess however it happens it is painful.
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In certain cases I believe it is acceptable. If the relationship you are breaking off is an abusive one and you feel that the person might do physical harm to you if you break up with them the YES by all means be as far away from them as possible when you do it and then change your number. If there is no violence in the relationship then NO the person deserves to hear it in person.
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no because if you were to do it on a text it probly will be your last time speaking to each outher but if you do it face to face you can still be friends because when my girlfriend broke up with me we did it face to face and then she said if you had of done that on text i would have hated you for ever so you should think if you want her to hate you do it by text and if you want to still be friends do it face to face
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If you have been on a few dates, but were not in a committed relationship, then I guess I would accept it...probably wouldn't want to be friends with the person though. On the other hand, if I was in an actual committed relationship, sex was involved, etc then I do not believe it is acceptable because breaking up is an emotional situation and text is just cold and unfeeling.
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No. If you are going to call it a relationship then there must have been something there to start with. A text message is the easiest thing for the person sending it but it leaves the other person with nothing. It is totally fine to want to break up, but the other person deserves more respect than that. It is sending the message that they aren't worth the time or energy to talk to them one more time now that you don't want to be in a relationship with them (on the phone or in person).
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I think it's acceptable to send a text saying "we need to talk" and then tell them in person when you meet up. I don't think it's acceptable to send a text saying "I don't want to see you anymore". The person will be upset by this, or maybe think it's a stupid joke or something, and might actually come to you for an explanation. It's very easy to misinterpret a text message without the eye contact and gestures of physical conversation. If you don't want to see the person anymore, that's fine, but at least have the balls to admit it to their face.
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I think if your relationship began as a text relationship then end it that way. however, i think that is a wuss way of handling things and very low class. then again we all categorize ourselves accordingly. your call. i say not a good move!
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Complete rudeness and shows why it is a good thing the relationship failed and why it did.
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not if your in a long distance one..is the only way you can but, other than that face to face.
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Totally unacceptable, insulting, demeaning, and contemptible.
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yes if you live far away its better than having them look at you like shit whilst thier doing it.
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Acceptable. Sometimes you don't want to talk about it, you just want to end it, and avoid the drama. I've had guys cry when I tried to break up with them, and so we went another round, because I couldn't take it. Feeling sorry for someone is no reason to stay together, but emotion sometimes gets the best of things. Texting the message gets to the point, and may seem insensitive, but sometimes is the only way you can deal.
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No.Personal relationships should be ended in person.It's weak to break up with someone through a text message.
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I would end it with words not texsts.
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It's not acceptable! It's the easy way out and will make you look even worse for ending it. Do the right thing and go to the person and tell him or her face to face. At least let the person have some dignity left when you're through. Would you like to be told something that might be devastating with a text? I bet not.
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Na, you a punk if you do.
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Your asking this question shows the trend of todays world,nobody wants to face life head on, nobody wants to work on relationships, everything is done by cell phone, texting, e-mail. Nobody really takes the time any more to really get to know the other person. Here today, gone tomorrow! I enjoy the cell, computer as much as the next but its not connected to me, its not who I am. Sorry to rattle on, but I see so many people just give up so easy any more, friendship, relationships marriages, nobody works at making to last.....
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I think this is the method that Britney Spears used to drop the DIVORCE BOMB on Kevin Federline. Says a lot about her as a person.
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