How long have you been together? Hang in there, if you are that happy. A happy relationship is rare and important these days. He'll come around eventually!

i think find somebody else if u are interested in marrige, and he is not, There isnt usually a way of changing his mind *unless he just wants to wait* But if he NEVER wats to get married, i say find another guy :)

It depends on what is more important to you. Is the relationship one that you would be happy to stay in for the rest of your life without being married? For me, personally, I value marriage and that level of committment. I needed a partner who valued the same things I did. That is not to say, however, that just finding someone who will marry you is enough. It has to be the right person. You have to decide for yourself what value marriage has for you. Then you will know if you can stay with your partner regardlesss of your difference or if you need to find someone else who shares your view.

If you are both happy why mess up a good thing for an image of being a princess for one day. Its rare to find happiness any more most marry for love in the beginning & stay for the money & material things. What does marriage mean to you exactly? Is it a security you feel you would only get with a cermony & certificate? Or does it stem from relgious up bringing that you feel you have to get married before a certain age or you will die alone? You & your partner have to be the one to decide whats best for you both & if you just want the ring & commitment then you may be throwing away happiness & true love.

I would stay with them, a piece of paper doesnt show how much you love one another!

I know almost exactly how you feel. My boyfriend and I will likely NEVER get married, even though we love each other very much and plan on being together long-term (it's been three years already). At first I was kind of disappointed, although I don't really care so much about getting married, it's kind of like taking your relationship to the next level, you know? So I felt like our relationship was never going to go anywhere, which was frustrating. Then I realized that it doesn't really matter. We can still do all the things that married people do; buy a home, plan our retirement, raise the kids, etc. I don't believe in god, so that also makes the whole marriage thing a bit less important. I don't really care if the government or god doesn't recognize my relationship because I don't have that peice of paper. I like things just the way they are.

You didn't say why you wanted to get married and why he's opposed to it. For most of us, the vows are a statement of commitment, to your partner, in front of the world. They also impose some sanctions that make getting out a little more difficult. However, nowdays, in most places, if you live together long enough you're considered married as far as division of property and children. So if it's the sanctions he's afraid of - well, he'll get those anyway. If it's the commitment he's afraid of, and you want that, I'd venture that you'll always feel like somethings missing and it will make it hard for you to continue to be VERY happy.

It depends on how important being married is to you. Most little girls are raised with the fairy tale ending of 'happily ever after' and that included marriage. Is that a part of you that can be let go? For example, I am married and at the time we could only afford a plain gold band. Well, now we can afford a ring but he doesn't believe in diamonds due to the world situation and although I want one it's not important enough because our relationship is shaky. I see his point but it still makes me bitter, it's just something I grew up on. It's not that I want a big rock or even something expensive, it's the *symbolism*, it still means something to me. Anyway, it may be he just needs time and will eventually say 'Why not' if it's still important to you, it rather depends on why he is against marriage. In our state common-law marriage is recognized without the big to-do of a wedding. I feel that love and commitment to a relationship, whether with or without a ring and wedding, is the most important thing in life. You can get all your needs and wants met withing a framework of a great relationship, as long as you don't NEED a wedding! I would say good luck, but it sounds like you are already a lucky gal in love. =)

I would stay with him if I loved him that much and things are going that good. Who knows? Maybe he'll change his mind.

I would stay with him if I loved him that much and things are going that good. Who knows? Maybe he'll change his mind.

I'm kindof-sortof in that situation. I've always wanted to get married and have kids. But the guy I met was just never ready and didn't know if he ever would be. We stuck through it, and we're still together (it's almost 4 years). We don't know if we ever will get married, but I don't mind as much. I'm just glad we're together. But I think he's more comfortable with the idea- at least, as of late.

do you want him or do you want marriage?

Ask him what it is about marriage that he objects too so strongly. Ask yourself how important this is to you. Where does he intend to be in 5-10-20-30 years/ Where do you intend to be? With whom do you both intend to be sharing life? Do you feel a sense of responsibility for each other? What about supporting the other if one became disabled? How do you define love? does it just mean being happy together or does it mean a life commitment? Would you be willing to devote the rest of your life to this man without the commitment, accountability, and security that marriage brings? Is he willing to talk about it? Ask the questions and get back to me. If they are not satisfactory, you need to make some decisions. All the best to you.

I would have to find out from him, why he is against marriage. If its valid I would make my decision as to whether to stay or not. If its fears of things I can prove he has nothing to fear about, I would do just that. The most important thing is to get to the bottom of why.

As long as he's not cheating. I don't really care.

marriage is an out-dated institution. it has become but an economic agreement. i would stay with him if i really loved him. the marriage ceremony isn't really all its cracked up to be.

well my opinion on the marriage thing is this anyone who claims to love you enough to want to be with you for life but refuses to marry you is saying that their love for you could change somewhere down the rosad and if it did they would not want all the messy entanglements that go along with being married to someone you suddenly realized wasn't the one for you afterall (in other words divorce) Anyone who truly loves you and in their heart believes you will be together for the rest of your life should not have any problem with wanting to marry you with that being said this is a decision you have to make on your own no one can make it for you if you really love him and feel you can't live without him and are willing to accept his objections to marriage then by all means stay but if you believe marriage is all that important to you more so than your love don't compromise your standards just to have someone

I'm pretty sure I wouldn't date someone who is against the idea of marriage in the first place. I wouldn't date someone I wouldn't consider marrying. Period.

I wouldn't have gotten this far into the relationship without knowing where it was going. I was looking for marriage and only looked at men that were looking fro the same thing. I wasn't looking for a marriage afterthought. It was marriage or nothing.

Id tay with him, im not aginst marriage but i dont know if i want to get married myself, why do i need a piece of paper to prove i love someone? we live as man and wife as it is just without the paper and rings!

i would stay with him.

Well, I am currently with a man who doesn't think marriage is important (he's been married twice before - and I've never been married). I've been with him for 11 years now and at first, I didn't think it would bother me if we never married but lately, I want nothing more than to get married. I just don't understand what I find important, he doesn't. It's not that he is against it, he just doesn't seem to want to go through with it again and I understand that but I am not seeking marriage for any security reason, I am a little old fashioned when it comes to relationship. If I had known this before (although I can't be certain), I think I would've moved along.

I would base my decision on the reason why he's so much against it.