bored, but not with sex

Get an inflatable goose.

Many solutions to this;- -Open up the communication and talk about what you want with your partner. -Trying new positions -Resolving any underlying issues affecting the quality of sexual intimacy. -Temporary abstinence from masturbation and sex can refuel the desire. -Reading books or watching a sex movie together, and seeing where that leads. -Check you are attracted to your partner, or whether sexually you would rather be elsewhere.

Then you may not be using your primary sex organ correctly or effectively - your brain. That's where the feelings and thoughts and creativity come from. If it's left to the body, it gets boring.

This is a tuffy, because only you know the answer to that question. Sit and take time to ask yourself why!

It may be as simple as relaxing and giving yourself permission to not want sex for a while. I know that in my life my sex drive has waxed and waned over time. I think this is true for most people. You may be getting into a 'positive feedback loop' where you don't want sex, but your husband does, so you put pressure on yourself to 'take one for the team', which makes you more anxious, which makes you want sex less. Lather, rinse, repeat. Maybe you and your husband should set a 'date night' a week in advance and agree not to have sex until then. See what happens when there's some waiting and anticipation. Also, take a careful look at your lives and see what stress factors might be causing your libido to decline. Good luck.

Have you recently had a child ? If so it's totally normal for you to feel overwhelmed by being a new Mom , wife , and homeaker . And I have to agree with another post . Your brain is the best sex device you have ! I am a Mom of 5 ! I am still young and attractive . My husband is hot . but I was like what the heck where did my sex drive go ? I have been trying here lately to think of sex before hand , get thoughts in my mind , and play them out with my husband during sex . IT WORKS ! We women have to me stimulated before hand (unfair I know ) you can mention the word sex to a man , and that's good enough .LOL But try to think about something sexual for a good hour or so before hand , look at your BF and think my how handsom he is and play out what you were thinking with him .

You know what ? That is the problem right there ! You are associating getting pregnant ( which you are clearly not ready to be ) with the act of sex . If YOU are not ready to have a baby . Please don't go and get pregnant cause others are pressuring you ! That's your problem ...I'm willing to bet . From now on be outwardly vocal that you and your love are NOT ready to have a baby . Get that off your chest , and then take B/C and don'thave a baby till after you are married and READY ! Let others know this is your life , and you will have a baby ..........just when it's right for you and your love . My last baby was NOT planned , and I looked at sex afterwards as if........"what if I get pregnant again?" And lost all interest in sex . Then I had my tubes tied and didn't have to worry anymore . I still have problems getting in "the mood" . I just give myself oh lets say all day to think about things while my husband is at work . So that way I am in the mood before he even thinks about sex ! I have a HOT husband , the problem is clearly not him . It's just me . Women are more hormonal and emotional . Also if your sex life lacks something in it . Let your love know . He is not a mind reader . Let him know how you want to be touched or approached . And then the next time he will know what it is that you want . I'm sure he will be happy to accomodate ........hee-hee .

Have an open minded conversation and it may be that there is something ,which it might be bothering him.

I haven't been in the mood for sex with my husband for years, but we have found alternate ways of sexual satisfaction. As long as he was having some fun and eventually cumming, he was happy. This led to our playing with sex toys, including the Strapon. He will let me do just about anything I want to him, as most guys will let their lady. He is More than happy. Try it, maybe he will like it?