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by Gideon on May 4th, 2007
It takes years to build a truly solid relationship. I couldn't let that go for one mistake without at least trying to repair the situation. When truly dedicated to each other for the long run, I think a couple can get through nearly anything.
by anglrckx on May 4th, 2007
I would be so devastated and hurt and angry. the mistrust would eventually break the relationship down to fighting and mistrust all the time. there is no excuse to me. if you do it once, how do i know you won't do it again? no matter what it would be better to end it now. maybe they will learn not to do that again to someone.
by Anonymous on March 11th, 2008
Yes, definately. I stayed with my ex for far too long, everyone is different but it will never be the same and you will have a hard time trusting him and in my experience you can become someone you don't like being as you will feel insecure.
Move on and find someone that deserves you.
by Goldberry on December 28th, 2007
If we love, we always try to find exuse for such persons...
by Senior finally on May 4th, 2007
If i truely loved them i would try to fight my wanting to break up with them but eventually i would probably come to mind that i would leave them
by Still breathing on July 3rd, 2008
Depends. On a boyfriend/girlfriend level, probably yes.
On a marriage level, depending on how long the marriage is and what problems could have caused the other one to stray, maybe.
If kids are involved, no. I would try to work past it.
by BigDaddyBS on March 1st, 2008
Nope. Need to know WHY, and if we can fix the problem. (for Marriage, especially with kids... for BF/GF I'd still want to know why, and depends on how deep we were into the relationship.)
by Anonymous on December 29th, 2007
No.
by Cynstriss on September 5th, 2007
I'd ask questions. Then they would be gone.
by Stealth Intelligence on October 31st, 2008
Ive always had a simple belief, that if something like that were to happen, all it meant was I did not know her like I thought I did and she simply was not the right one for me anyway. I would be upset of course but would feel sorry for her and be glad that it was not a lot longer b4 I found out. You are either faithful or your not, your a cheater or your not. But once a cheater always a cheater, there is no need to relive the details.
by Xtrmlyluckygal on March 11th, 2008
I would, and I will be honest I am the kind of person that I have eyes only for my man but at the same time we are human and imperfect therefore thier is always someone that would raize an eyebrow.....but you never cross that line of love and respect and because you know that the grass always seem greener on the other end but clearly never is...so who gives you the right to go ahead and cross the line and disrespect me!!!
obviously if you did, I never meant that much to you.
by Babycakes on March 1st, 2008
No questions asked...just good bye.
by Ender is back.. And slightly confused. on March 1st, 2008
No. Call me a masochist, but I need to know details so that my mind doesn't run away with itself and make the issue bigger than it was.
by RavenTheRabbit on March 1st, 2008
ABSOLUTELY! I respect too much to let someone do that to me! It takes years to build up trust, and seconds to destroy it. Most people don't change so second chances don't matter.
by Disko Fari on January 31st, 2008
I wouldn't. My boyfriend cheated on me but i have him another chance and i made him feel like SHIT about it!, now were as great as ever and i trust him alot more because i know he is truly sorry for what he did and he would never want to hurt me like that again.
by Drew Engman on January 5th, 2008
If you can live with having NO control over whether he cheats or not (like the wife of an alcoholic having no control over whether the alcoholic's drinking), and being totally OK with that, then stay. If that's too much for you, it's time to consider other options.
by Firebrand on May 4th, 2007
YES, once trust is broken it can never be repaired
by Lippycow on May 4th, 2007
Yes the trust has gone out of the relationship,i wouldnt trust them again.
by Unnannimous on May 4th, 2007
yeah because i would never look at them with the same respect and trust as i did before.
by Sarita1 Goes Bollywood on May 4th, 2007
Yes. They weould have lost my trust.
by FAITHN1 on November 8th, 2009
I HAVE TAKEN MY BOYFRIEND OF 5 YEARS BACK. AFTER A FEW YEARS HE DID CHEAT NOW WE ARE BACK IN THE SAME SITUATION JUST A FEW YEARS LATER. HONESTLY ITS A WASTE OF YOUR TIME AND EFFORTS. ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER. THAT SAYING IS TOLD FOR A REASON. ITS TRUE. I LOVED HIM VERY MUCH WOULD HAVE DONE ANYTHING FOR HIM. BUT YET HE RISKED IT ALL TWICE. NOW HE CRIES TAKE ME BACK. HELL NO MY TIME IS GONNA BE SPENT ON SOMEONE WHO VALUES IT.
by Zack on January 30th, 2009
One of those questions that is impossible for me to answer until I'm in that situation.
by Dhani89 on January 30th, 2009
I was with my ex bf with almost a year and a half, he always talked to girls but im 1005 he never cheated on me cuz i talked to guys too, that wasnt a big dal for us. when he joined the military and came back from his basic training he just 'realize' that he was gay!!!
I found him with another guy in a pool kissing and making out.
its hard for me to think about relationships rite now cuz i think ppl will cheat on me like he did
by zeds_dead_baby on January 14th, 2009
i got cheated on, and she really did love me, she admitted it straight away, the next day, it was with my friend, she said she was extremely drunk, i asked questions, then chucked her straight out the door with no regrets, trollop. thats my opinion, i feel sorry for her more than anything because she really did feel for me, and i do believe it was a very stupid one off mistake,but a mistake i dont think she will make again. the principal remains the same.
by Happy to be me on December 27th, 2008
Yes, immediately if not sooner.
by missdjl on October 31st, 2008
I would have to look at all the circumstances that led up to him or her cheating then decide.
by MissLiss on October 31st, 2008
yes.
by littlemama on October 31st, 2008
if you love them so so much you always have that thought in your head that they will change and they can change but not without your trust or love but how can they expect you to trust or love them hhhmmm its a difficult question!!!
by DreAnna on October 31st, 2008
Yes..My ex did that..met his mistress and it was done..gotta go its been nice have a good life see ya bye bye! :)
by Big on October 31st, 2008
If you know for a fact that he did. Of course I would get rid of him. Might be hard, but you deserve a lot better.
by DrkBlader27 on October 31st, 2008
I would ask things, then if we can work things out, I would stay.
by Mountain Momma on October 31st, 2008
I would do some research first, but I always have ended up leaving them because I cant be with someone who willingly hurt me like that. Taylor Swift said it best. "You should have said no!" I love that song!
by AnonymousGirl on October 31st, 2008
I used to say that I would, but I can't get rid of my boyfriend. I love him too much. He means everything to me. The circumstances were explained to me and I know the girl he cheated with. I can understand how he could get tricked into doing it with her. She is manipulative like that. No, I didn't get rid of him. I can't.
by BethRiot on October 22nd, 2008
Of course!
Cheating isn't allowed.
I won't tolerate it.
by Compersionist on July 3rd, 2008
I would not get rid of her. I would definitely try to understand what it was that led her astray and work through it with her. The love we have for one another has been built over more than a decade, but even if our relationship was new, I'd still want to show my support and forgiveness. No one is perfect and mistakes can be made. If the cheating has gone on for a while, I might still stay with her, depending on her willingness to stop doing it.
by R_Berue on July 3rd, 2008
Here in the U.S., there is a TV program:
"Cheaters".
The program is contacted by
Husbands who suspect their wife is cheating on them.
Wives who suspect their husband is cheating on them.
Lovers who suspect they are being cheated on.
Once in a while a sibling contacts the program for a brother or sister.
The program uses "licensed detectives" to videotape and records the activity of the cheater.
They have night-penetrating/sensitive cameras.
They record telephone conversations.
They have the client install very small motion-sensitive cameras in the home or apartment.
Once in a while the client installs GPS devices on vehicles.
Many times the cheater's identity is blurred or withheld.
Once the evidence is accumulated, the host speaks with the client. Naturally, the client wants to confront the cheater.
When the cheaters are first confronted, here are what the great majority of them say:
"He/She is just a friend.
"He/She is my friend."
"He/She is my customer."
When shown the evidence: "You're not allowed to do that!" -----
OH YES, they are!!!!!
THE BEST ones: "That's not me! That's my twin!"
"You (the client who called "Cheaters" and set-up the cheating spouse) were supposed to die or be dead! We love each other!"
For anyone who ever saw it, there are ALWAYS Qs.
I'm in the same boat with everyone else. I want to know "Why?"
Some of the answers:
"You're always working. You never have time for me."
"You don't work. You have to grow-up and get a job."
"I don't love you any more."
"We don't talk any more."
"He/She pays more attention to me than you ever did."
"You're a drunk."
"You're an addict."
"I just used you. I don't need you any more."
Bottom Line: Everyone wants 'to have his/her cake and eat it, too'.
Many times it just doesn't happen that way.
I only saw one episode when the suspected cheater wasn't a cheater. The grandson was bringing his girlfriend into his grand parents' home to do what comes naturally!
What happens?
Sometimes there is reconciliation - with counselling.
Many times they permanently separate.
Many times, the cheater appears on a later episode and presents his/jer side of the story.
Thanks for asking your Q! I enjoyed answering it!
VTY,
Ron Berue
Yes, that is my real last name!
Sources: Because you asked.
by MOON_LIGHT_88 on March 27th, 2008
Get rid of them:)
by AnonymousGirl on March 11th, 2008
I've never been cheated on as far as I know and I really think I need to be in the situation first to truly know what I would do. It's easy to say "Yes, I would so break up with him", but the reality is that a lot of the people who say they would wouldn't. Maybe I'm wrong.
by Vannie prays for babycakes . on March 1st, 2008
Yep ...Yep ... Yep ...right away with no questions asked :-)
by Patti jo on October 17th, 2007
You bet I would , YES
by ShirleyB on October 17th, 2007
You have to make the decision to either get rid of them or not. The questions about the affair will only haunt you, you never want to know the details or the circumstances, whether you think you do or not...its best just to leave...unless you are married and have kids, then there might be the need for an attempt, but would that even be for the right reasons
by Babycakes on May 15th, 2007
He'd be gone so fast he wouldn't know what hit him. No second chances there.
by calivar on May 15th, 2007
yes, once a cheater alsways a cheater
by MasterS on September 18th, 2009
No not immediately, if i truly loved them i would honestly try to see if there was any way to work it out, and also to see why this happened to begin with.
by ... on June 12th, 2009
YES
YES
YES!!!
by Ilyena on June 11th, 2009
Yes, I seriously would.
There is no reason to explain themselves or blame it on other things.
by Cowboy74 on June 11th, 2009
Yes, no questions asked.
by bre bre on June 11th, 2009
it depends on if you really are inlove with them because i probaly would take them back just out of love but i still will be very angry
by Kristy101 on February 26th, 2009
Im in that situation now, and i dont know what to do. I took him back he said sorry blah blah blah, tries to make it up to me know as much as he can but it doesnt make a difference. He still talks to his ex (thats the girl he played me with) and now the excuse is "we are just friends, she has a bf now" but truth is, she cheating on my now bf when they were together why wouldnt she cheat on her new bf with my bf. Not to mention when she did cheat on him, she cheated on him with her ex bf before him. So yeah i hate her, and my moto has always been cheating is unexceptable because that is the one thing i would NEVER do to someone, i just cant. And for some reason, i dont know why i took him back, i guess its because i still cared for him for maybe i wanted to win at the end and say i have him...but 2 months have passed since then, and i hate him more and more has the hours pass. So leave them if they cheat, it never works out after, trust me. It never gets any easier and forgiveness will never happen, even if you make him believe that you did forgive him.
by Shanel with an S on February 25th, 2009
i would ask why first, so i could at least try to understand why someone i really cared about would want to hurt in such a way. then i would leave and get myself tested.
My fiancé cheated with his babies mother & got her pregnant again. What should I do?
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very well said...I agree
by boredingeorgia on May 15th, 2007
yes i strongly agre with that answer aswell, because yuo never know what the sitaution might of been when it happend, and its always good to give things a chance
by Disko Fari on January 31st, 2008
Absolutely, you have the right idea.
by Stronghart on March 11th, 2008