ANSWERS: 7
  • It's unusual but there is nothing wrong with it. The two of you are in the best position to decide what is right for you. My guess would be you enjoy each other's company but don't want or need a commitment.
  • WHAT PEOPLE DON'T THINK ABOUT IS THAT RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGES ARE PRETTY MUCH THE SAME. SAME PROBLEMS, SAME ISSUES, SAME LENGTH OF TIME. WOULD ANYONE BE SURPRISED AT A MARRIAGE THAT LASTED "ONLY" 8 1/2 YEARS? I DOUBT IT. SO WHAT'S SURPRISING ABOUT A RELATIONSHIP THAT LASTS THAT LENGTH OF TIME. AT LEAST THE RELATIONSHIP BREAKUP DIDN'T REQUIRE AN ATTORNEY, THERE WERE NO KIDS AND NO COMMUNITY PROPERTY.
  • My personal belief is that if you dont get married after a normal amount of time ( 2,3,4 years) typically it means that the other person doesnt want to marry you or doesnt want the commitment because people are always saying that living together for 5 years and not being married is the same is marriage but its not. When you are married splitting up is much more complicated then just moving out. getting a divorce is a lengthy process. so no it is not weird but if it was me personally if i wanted to get married i would not waste my time with an 8 years boyfriend.Move on to someone who wants to marry
  • Who cares what other people think. I say better to have dated for a while and realized you weren't meant to be than have a bunch of divorces under your belt. Too many times people rush into marriage and after they've been married for a while that's when all the little things come to light that they might have found out if they had just dated a little longer.
  • My theory is that if guy hasn't asked you to marry within 2 yrs either he doesn't want to marry or he doesn't want to marry YOU. So if you don't care about it either, great. Otherwise, cut your losses and move on.
  • There is absolutely nothing wrong or odd about it, everyone is different and has their own comfort levels. if you are comfortable and happy with the situation then you have nothing to worry about. The question is, are you happy with dating him for 8 1/2 years and not married yet.
  • My husbands brother has been engaged to his girlfriend for 26 years and i have never bothered to ask why they have never married.

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