My husband does not want to pay support for his children. He has three very well paying jobs where he recieves large paychecks.(take home money). I am self employed where I generate a lot of money, but
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keliki
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I have NOTHING good to say about or to a Father that does not take care of his obligations to his children....as a child support paying Father....those men that don't pay either court ordered or not...disgust me! But..that is MY opinion!
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The interesting challenge of a question always follows the "but." You may wish to hit EDIT and elaborate.
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Wanting to pay child support has nothing to do with paying child support. If they are his children, the court system will find him responsible for paying support. If he has regular employment, it will probably be taken directly from his checks.
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Go to court and get it taken out of his paycheck. That'll do it. But DON'T BACK DOWN! Assholes like that won't just do it out of the goodness out of their heart- sometimes you have to get it manually taken out of his paycheck, and this is mandatory. If it doesn't happen he WILL go to jail. Don't feel bad about it, as he's choosing his own actions. Just go to court, get them to take it out of his paychecks, and then what's done is done.
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His desire is not a factor here. The children exist. They are his. Take this man to court and force him to do the right thing. He can defy a court order, but he does so at his own peril. Your income deosn't matter here; the point is for both of you to pay your fair share.
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If he isn't paying now, I would suggest taking him to Court, have the Court order him to pay (if it hasn't already) and then let him go to jail if he doesn't obey the court mandated payments. You certainly won't be any worse off than you are now with him not paying.
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My understanding is that he is legally -required- to pay child support, if he doesn't want to then that's too bad for him. If he 'doesn't' pay child support, then he is breaking the law and you should take him to court...
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1. You say that your job "generates a lot of money." Is it more than his three jobs? 2. Did the court require him to give child support? If your earnings were high enough the court may not have required child support. 3. why do you want this money? Do you and children actually need it--or do you see it as some sort of punishment? 4. Are you completely cooperative with him when it comes to custody or visitation? Some women (and men) believe that they can be bitches or bastards and that there should be no reaction from their ex. That may be true legally--but it is not practical, nor is it the way to get along. It also sets a bad example for your children.
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Society has a single pat answer for this very complicated mess we have created for ourselves by allowing no fault divorces. Somehow we have (almost) all taken the safe position that since a woman is better suited to take care of children that she should always get custody, and that since a man is better suited to make the money, he should fork it over. If you follow these cases more carefully you'll see that there are consequences to this, men are underrepresented in courts, alienated, outraged and dangerously violent as a natural result. Just the other night (In Oklahoma) a man shot his wife and himself over this same kind of frustration about divorce and child support. Sure she had a protective order, sure he was TOLD to pay up, sure she was warned to let him be. But she did not listen to HIS advice, only YOURS, and now she is dead and her children are orphans. This is more common than is stated here on this thread (except by me) and is one dynamic of this question that should give cause for rethinking the "time tested" remedy for child support issues.
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Go to court, the system is so tilted in you're favor you will get that money. However if you do this there will be repercussions you may not like, including visitation time that you may not like, or if he wants it, after a long court battle (which sounds like he can afford) he may get partial custody. On the other hand, if he has very well paying jobs...Why does he need 3?
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Three well paying jobs. Busy fellow. Oh well, if that's true, he is an ass. Is that what you want to hear?
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I don't know about where you live but I know my brother & his ex had to go to court & show both incomes & from there they determined how much child support was to be paid to the custodal parent(his ex) & who should pay their insurance & other medical expenses. If he's still your husband why don't he pay for his kids living in the home? Or are you seperated or living seperately?
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I smell a typical gold diggin female.....
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he will have to pay eventually. even if he waits until the children are adults, he will still end up paying.
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