According to mt ex, just looking at another woman was cheating, in my book, it's not.

No.

Yes in my opinion he is not holding the vows he took as a husband. It is like cheating without a real person there. On top of that, it is disrespectful to the woman that you promised to love and cherish for the rest of her life. Men are so stupid they just dont realize that wacking off to other women is hurtful and even the most beautiful woman with no insecurities is hurt by it..it hurts the relationship and her self esteem greatly. I know...it's year #4 with my husband and I am considering divorce because of it. I give it to him anytime, anywhere, anyhow and its never enough...even when we go out he cant restrain himself from STARING at other women...total disrespect. I thought I was his gift for life...clearly I am not.

I'm pregnant and my husband is in Iraq. Before I knew I was pregnant and I still had my nice shape, I took sexy pictures for him. He has about 1,000 pictures of me on his computer. From everyday pictures to more seductive shots. When we met I specifically told him that my only rule is no strip clubs and no porn. We had a great sex life and are very attracted to one another. I know he is in Iraq and not being with me is rough. But I have set my rules and did set him up with pictures. I've been asking him for months if he has been looking at porn or other women and he always said no. Today I asked him again because I just felt my intuition was telling me otherwise. He said he masturbated to a mens fitness magazine, with a woman who wasn't naked but of course was in a sports bra and very in shape. To understand my side, I'm almost 7 months pregnant. I have spent a lot of time telling him to not break my trust or disrespect me. To me, when someone you are with is stimulating them self to the thought of another womens body, the thought of what he wants to do with a woman with a body like that, the features that she has that turns him on and gets him off, is total disrespect to me. Especially if he has denied it for some time and finally comes clean. How do you trust someone once they have been lying to you? I've done what I can by sending him nudes of myself even with my changing body and more recently got on the web cam and have helped him get off. So its not like he doesn't have options. He purposely chose to look elsewhere. So to me, being pregnant, on the other side of the world, I find it not only disrespectful but heart breaking. Again, he knew how I felt and how strong I felt about it. He did promise that he would not look elsewhere because he loves me too much. Now he thinks he didnt do anything wrong because she wasn't naked. He doesn't seem to understand that he lied and he is getting off to looking at another womens features not his wifes.

My wife would kill my ass!!!

No...he is just providing himself with stimulus Men do it all the time and it has no bearing on how he feels for you.

Yes, that is the sign of disrespect and fall out of love. It won't happen if he's happy with his wife or love her.

Depends on if it's in person or via webcam.

Cheating! God, I hate that fucking word! What are we, your PROPERTY? Get over yourselves!