Would you say that someone who is in their third marriage may have relationship issues or were the first two wives just "bad choices"?
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It depends on the person really. If they have relationship issues then a third one better have everything in common with the other. But if they were just bad choices, than why not follow the old saying, "Third times the charm!"
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You have to consider that it's the person's issues by the third marriage, though not always. IMO If a person has more than three, then it definitely is that person's issues that are to blame, I think.
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I have three friends who have been married three times and in each case it was relationship issues. The third marriage for each seems to have "taken," and they are very happy. Part of the improvement comes with age, experience and maturity. Part does come from better choices.
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My Mom was married 3 times, I don't think she has relationship problems at all, Her first husband was killed in a wreck(she was 19 with 4 kids) a set of twins in there. She met my Dad, life was hell for her. She's been with my step dad for 26 years, and they have a Wonderful marriage. it's not always bad choices sometimes bad luck is involved also.
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over 50% of all marriages fail, I think we all want the excitememnt of the first 6 months and when it fizzles rather then work at it we toss it aside for a new model. marriage is work and we just don't put in the effort anymore
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If were dating someone that had been married three times, I would ask myself and them why? How old are they? If they were in their 60s, I can see it. Why did the marriages end? Death or commitment issues? There are a lot of questions within your questions. A 25 year old that had been married three times vs. a 70 year old who had been married three times, you would look at them differently.
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Like wine, good marriages improve with age; like wine bad marriages spoil quickly. In cultures where marriages are arranged it seems that they work as well, or even better than here. Hot passion usually disipates quickly, (not always) and it is love that works to keep the marriage together. To feel passion turn to love takes maturity.
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It completely depends on the person. But... that was exaclty the case with my (step)dad. His first marriage= wife from hell. He was young and she became pregnant and he ended up with her, when he really should have ran the other way. After divorcing her, he went on the rebound to a woman that was nearly a carbon copy of the first. After divorcing this second wife, he put dating on hold for a few years and did some serious thinking about what he needed in his life and what he didnt, and what he truly wanted. Then I introduced him to my mom, and it was a perfect third marriage. In that case, the only thing wrong with him was that he didnt know what he was looking for. "bad choices" puts it mildly, the first two were terrible!
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Sounds like it could be a little of both
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I agree with the others for the most part. I am 28 and have been married twice. I married my first husband because we had fun and were always together, so it seemed right. My second I thought was my soul mate, we conceived the day he came back from the war in Iraq, but was a totally different person when he came home. I left him when my son was 4 months old. Now I am in a serious relationship and he has also been married twice before. I am not sure that being married is any different than living together and sharing your life. He wants to get married someday and I'm scared to death, and a little embarrassed to say that this would be my 3rd marriage.
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I think it truly depends on the length of the marriages, and what the actual circumstances were. Thre marriages before you are 35 might be a problem, hell, more than 2 in a lifetime has to be questioned, but not absolute that the person was at fault all three times.
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I was married for 10 years, and found out that he sexually molested a stepchild years earlier. I just can't tolerate even the thought, and left immediately. I married again and found out he was a closet drug user,( which eventually got bad enough for me to see) I can't handle that and left. I am married again, a few problems here and there .Things get better every day and I think we are both trying a lot. I say bad choices on my part. Some things you just don't know. I am not a liar and I never think people are lying.
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I would think it would depend on a number of things: 1) Length of marriages 2) Children involved? 3) Who left whom and why? 4) Others... 1-3 are just off the top of my head. * If yuo're asking for yourself, you need to decide/figure it out. (MIGHT take counseling) * If you're the (ex) wife, you SHOULD be able to ask (especially the current wife). * If you're a child of one of the marriages, you should have SOME indiciation of the problem. (but you should also be able to ask, at least Dad...) * If you're anybody else, why does it matter to you? (Or are you thinking of breaking them up and being wife #4?) ;-)
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