If you "Love" this guy, be honest with him & let him go. It's not fair to him, you, or your son. It's better for him find out now , than to let him waste his life, only to find out later that he's been living a lie . Nobody likes being used, and if this surfaces later, he could wind up hating you, and you hating him.I know this is probably not what you wanted to hear, but, as a 42 year old man, that's the way I see it !!

Depends on whether love is enough. You have to ask yourself if it is the best thing to do for you, because you cannot stay for other people and expect anyone to be happy in the long run. I have found that "being in love" is not always what it's cracked up to be and sometimes does not withstand the test of time (there are, of course, exceptions)and genuine love tends to last.

You have to ask yourself what you are looking for in the relationship? Is it for you or for your son? Is it fair to pretend to love him just so he can be a father to your child? What happens when the child leaves home and it's just you and him? Is it fair to your child to grow up in a home where you give the pretense of love but it really isn't there? What kind of example will this set for your son... that real love is fake? What about when this man want children of his own with you? Will you agree? You can't stay with a person simply because he will make a good daddy... there are a lot of men like that. You have to love him, either grow to love him if that's what you want, but the love must be there. If the love isn't there, then the relationship is founded on something else, and when that something else is gone... so is the relationship. Don't prevent this man from having true happiness just so your child can have a father figure. You must take your childs interest into consideration, but you've kept this relationship going for 3 years now, ask yourself why?

Hi, I think we all go through periods in our relactionships where we feel more or less love and attraction for our partner. It would be boring if we were always that couple that makes everyone else feel queasy. It sounds like you've got a lovely guy and a great daddy but life isn't quite as exciting. There's lots of things you can do to find the sparkle. Make some plans to date each other again, get a babysitter and spend the time not talking about homelife. Do something exciting together, there's nothing like a bit of skating, skiing, skydiving, rally driving or whatever to get the blood pumping and doing it together can do some lovely chemical things to your relationship. Sharing adult experiences is the key, it doesn't have to be sexual but pepping that up doesn't harm either. I'd say it's not right to stay with someone that you don't love but if you do love them can fall back in love. Relationships are hard work but you only get back what you put in. I will be completely honest and say I had a lovely husband the first time round, similar age gap and he is a great great father and adored me completely, but I got bored and being young and flighty jumped ship for better things. I realised after a few years that I should have stayed working at it and care a lot about him to this day, he is a good friend to me and my new husband. I think with a bit of hard work, which I wasn't prepared to give it at the time, we would probably still be together now. Having said that I love my second husband more than I can possibly say, but that, I think, points to the human capacity to recover and move on rather than being an indicater that I was right to abandon my first marriage.