Ok, first of all, thank you for coming here and asking a question that few would dare to utter. It shows courage on your part to want to do the right thing. Secondly, I assume you already know the answer and are seeking affirmation. It would be not only morally wrong to do this to such a young child, but it is also illegal. She is only 14 years old-still just a child, she knows nothing of grown-up ways and should remain ignorant of them for as long as possible. Imagine the burden that your sister would bear growing up knowing that her own brother took her virginity or had sex with her. This is something that could scar her for life and give her a rather twisted view of sex-something that should be a beautiful act between two adults. Please speak to your parents or another trusted adult in your neighborhood such as a pastor about these feelings that you have towards your little sister. You are her protector and she undoubtedly looks up to you as such, therefore you need to protect her from those who would do her harm-even if that person is yourself. Do you have a girlfriend? Are you sexually active? Why is it that you desire your own sister instead of an older girl more your age? Please, please, please do not take advantage of her trust in you. Once that trust is gone she will fear you instead of looking up to you and the relationship between the two of you will never be the same again. If you proceed with these feelings and your parents find out it could tear your entire family apart-is that what you would want? Until these feelings subside to a more manageable level, stay away from your sister as much as is humanly possible. Definitely speak to someone regarding this matter and have them help you find ways of dealing with your feelings in a positive way. Continue to be your sister's role model and show her by respecting her that love is the most wondrous gift ever given/received and she should respect her body and not let just anyone have an invitation to it. If you cross this line nothing will ever be the same again for either of you. There will be bitter fights for no clear reason between you two, she will pull away from you and could become suicidal and depressed because of what you did, she will blame herself for years to come-convinced that she did something wrong to make you take her sexually. Stop thinking about your own wants/desires and start thinking about her future before you ruin it. You are an adult-act like one and get your lust for your sister under control NOW.

I'm wondering how the original person who answered this knows that the submitter of the question is a brother and not a sister, did I miss something? The answer is valid either way but I am wondering if I missed something.

You don't say if you're her sister or brother, but it doesn't really matter, though it's potentially more physically dangerous in the latter case. The age spread is too great. And why, I hear you say, should that matter? Well, the time will come when a four-year spread between sexual partners probably wouldn't matter -- but between 14 and 18 it does, because there are important thresholds between those ages that you've crossed and she hasn't. It's not just a matter of the onset of puberty, but of emotional maturity, experience, self-understanding. The upshot is that someone on the low end of such an age spread can't really be said to be consenting to anything, because consent requires real understanding, and for some things, nothing but living more years will give it. As to what you're to do about it, that's almost impossible to say from here, but an initial step would certainly be to ask whether you could feel similarly about somone at a more appropriate age, and if not, why not? That might be a place to start the conversation that you should be having with someone about this. I agree that you're right to bring the question here, but that's not going to be good enough. You have no idea how crazy any of us may be :-) so what are you to make of our advice? I don't know what your circumstances may be, but I hope there's some way you can reach a professional you can trust to talk about this. (Make sure it is a professional, by the way, and that the normal right of confidentiality will be present.) If you try to deal with this alone too long, the consequences could be serious -- perhaps catastrophic if you're her brother.

It depends on whether or not you feel like spending time in JAIL. I suggest you find you someone your age or older who's not related.

It is a tough question to answer. From a legal point of view I would not advise it. Casting aside the law, the situation is how does she feel, although I am not condoning sex with minors in any way, it may be better to find out how she feels and sit down and discuss your feelings for each other.

If you're asking what you should do about these feelings and how to deal with them, then none of the previous answers will really help you. Of course you shouldn't act on those feelings. Anyone can tell you that. If you're concerned that you aren't able to control your feelings and that you might end up doing something you regret, I suggest you see a therapist. Many people struggle with sex related issues, and sometimes it's too embarrasing to discuss with relatives or people who associate with you in day to day life. If you seek help from a therapist, everything that you discuss with them will be kept confidential as long as you aren't posing a severe threat to yourself or anyone else. They will be able to provide you with ways to control your feelings for your sister. Many times if you are on a low-income or can't ask for financial help from your parents, you can pay by a sliding fee scale. In some cases, a therapy session can cost as low as $10. The problem isn't the fact that acting upon these feelings is illegal, it's that you are feeling sexual desire for your sister. Even if you never act on your feelings, having them can't be very good for your mental well being. Good Luck!

don't have sex with her... duh. talk with her about your feelings... duh. The reason for your feelings? More than likely it's a matter of you two being really close, and you've sexually matured, and she's beginning to, and things are getting confused in the wiring of your brain. It's normal. Brothers and sisters either HATE each other, or love each other to death... these thoughts happen. Just don't put yourself alone with her if you think you're going to do something dumb, and if she professes similar feelings, then you need to cool it, especially until she's 18. I was involved with my older sister to a slight degree, she's 1 year older, and we both kind of came into our own around the same time - even lost our virginity within a week of one another, when I was 14, and she was just turning 15. Sharing and being close is different than one of you having control over the other and just having sex. If you actually love your sister, why not try to just be intimate (not naked, not sexual) or emotionally close with her, and see if your whole brain rewiring sorts itself out? You're her big brother or sister, take care of her, don't hurt her! best of luck, Kpuppy22@gmail.com

I think that everyone else needs to get over themselves. I don't see why this poster needs therepy, or to talk about it with anyone else. You simply don't do anything about it. Go find a girlfriend or something and this whole thing will pass in time. She's your sister. You're close to her. She's probably pretty. I don't really see any problem with any of this, besides of course.. she's 14 and your sister. So, obviously it can't go anywhere.. so, just get over it.

Leave home, go off to college, join the Foreign Legion, take a second job on the night shift... and force yourself to think about something else when the thought comes to mind.

Here's a useful hint, its called MASTURBATION! Don't act on instinct enough to fuck her but you can still think about her, i find myself in similar situations, masturbation works. Who cares if ur thinkin of ur sister so long as u dunt rape her?! (if she concents its alot harder so dont talk to her about it- she could say yes and cause problems)

Okay...now this is just wrong. This is not a desire, but a hormonal urge. Incestial relations with a sibling could effect your inter-family relations for life, as the scars will run deep. I find it disturbing of anyone who holds a sense of pride having sex with a blood relative. Get your mind and your shit together son... if your having these hormonal urges I suggest you seek out other forms of release or sexual conquest. Control your mind and your urges...don't let them control you.

if you want to hav sex with your 14 yaer old sister go for it

whatever you do, DO NOT try to have sex with her. i personally had that happened to me when i was younger. she will be scarred for life, like i am. when i was younger my dad and brother both did it too me. now, i hate life and every time i think about it i cry.. i've tried committing suicide and cutting myself over it.. it is not worth putting your young sister through that just because you are "sexually attracted" to her. or whatever you want to call it and plus you can get in trouble.. if you have any questions or anything.. aim = damnJASMYNuhSON yahoo = jmkwv02 i'm usually not on so just send me an email at.. jmkwv02@yahoo.com or my myspace. www.myspace.com/j_marie_like_duhh

Hey wait till she is 21.

I think this a BS question. Most of these types questions are here. Someone who gets a kick out of writing stuff like this or is just bored or whatever. I wish people would leave this place for others who do have issues and seek advice and help.

im not at liberty to say what i realy think but forcing your 14 year old sister to engage in sexual intercourse with you shes a bit too young, try masterbating together if your too desperate.. that might quell the craving

since she's probably not attracted back you probably just need to keep it a fantasy and continue masturbating. sorry :(