There is no definate way to tell - however, look out for these things: 1) Adam's apple - if you see one, it's a dead give-a-way. Only thing is some guys do not have one that sticks out that far and they also have surgery they can do now to shave off some of the bone so they look more feminine. 2) feet - this is a good one too. the average shoe size for a woman is seven. granted there are many women out there with much larger feet. but take a good look at them. 3) hair/make-up/dress - I won't say most, but a lot of men who have a sex-change operation will tend to "over-do-it" on the hair/make-up/dress. It's almost like they have to prove themselves TOO much. Of course, none of these are absolute, there are always exceptions. But if you like this person, what difference does it make? :) Like a person for WHO they are, not WHAT they are. ** In response to hungryguy's comment - if this person has had a sex-change, they are no longer male. So that would not make you gay.

For my two cents-if you suspect, ask her if she was born male or female (tactfully-maybe make a joke about it as you lead into the question). If she's a decent sort, she'll tell you the truth. In response to SanteraBonita: Thanks for the thoughtful answer--up to the end anyway. But do you realize that telling a straight male that he has a "hang up" because he doesn't want to date another male is no different that telling a gay person that there is something wrong with him for being gay? Isn't there a wee bit of hypocrisy there? In response to jenniferprofit: A person's biological sex is determined solely by their chromosomes. Most people have 2 chromosomes: XX or XY (some people with birth defects may have an extra X or an extra Y). If you have one or more "Y" chromosomes, then you are a biological male. If you have no "Y" chromosomes, then you are a biological female. This is not something a person can change through surgery. And while I can't speak for anyone but myself, I feel that, as a male, having sex with another male would, indeed, make me gay. But I also believe in "live and let live." So if a transsexual or intersexual should be fortunate enough and find a lover who can accept their gender-change-through-surgery, I'd be happy for them and wish them both well...

There is no reliable way to tell if someone who is female today was a male at birth. Gender Reassignment Surgery is the more appropriate term for 'sex-change operation.' Some things with which a person can make their body and mind-sex match include hormonal therapy (taking estrogen, which will soften the skin, cause emotional shifts), top surgery (breasts implantation), bottom surgery (genital surgery where you create a new home for the urethra and a vagina is created), plastic surgery (changing the shape of the body, including shaving down an adam's apple), speech therapy (pitch and speech patterns), laser hair removal. There are women who have adam's apples. There are women with large feet (my mother, a very beautiful and feminine woman wears a size 11 whereas I wear a size 6-1/2). I'm not sure why it would matter, but one tactful way would be to mention surgery. Maybe bring up an emergency appendectomy you had once. Did you ever go under the knife? You might want to examine your own personal beliefs about transgendered people, though. (Have you been watching Jerry Springer episodes?) If this woman fits your ideals, then the real questions to ask are "Do I have a hang-up?" or "Am I struggling with my own gender?".

This is a question that begs a question in response: what does it matter? If you have met someone that you would like to have as a friend, it does not matter whether they are male or female. Neither does their sexual orientation matter, whether it is hetero-, homo-, bi-sexual, or celibate. If you currently have a close friend with whom you would like to form an intimate relationship, there are only two issues to consider. First, does this person want to form such a relationship with you? Second, is this person of compatible sexual orientation? A male trying to form an intimate relationship with a heterosexual male, a homosexual female, or a celibate of either sex would run into difficulties. However, this type of information tends to be exposed naturally through the course of a good friendship.. Just about the only place where a question like this would have any relevance, would be if you were interested in marrying or establishing a common-law relationship with this person AND you want her to be the biological mother of your mutual children. Since a transgendered male-to-female is infertile, this could put a hitch in your plans. However, many couples are unable to have children because one or both of them is infertile. The reason for their infertility is unimportant, unless it is a health-related condition that can be reversed by a lifestyle change (e.g., nutrition). There are many paths around fertility barriers, with adoption being probably the best. At that stage, it is also important to know what your both want with respect to a family. If one of you wants children and the other doesn't, there would be friction in the relationship. If one of you adamantly wants one or two children and the other definitely wants three, four, or more... again friction. This type of conflict has contributed to the breakup of more than one marriage in history. However, since this is 'Relationships / Dating / Early Stages', checking out your mutual breeding capabilities and desires just might be a tad premature. Reply: A transgendered male-to-female is female. Therefore, a male having a relation with such a person would be having a 'straight' relationship. Further: Traditionally, sexual assignment has been viewed as dependent on pairings of the X and Y chromosomes. An XY person is considered male and a YY person, female. However, other combinations exist that muddy this interpretation (i.e., XXY, XYY, and XO). These cases are more ambiguous, but it is generally accepted today, medically and legally, that the presence of an X chromosome does not automatically make a person male. Other supporting evidence is required. Sexual assignment is partially dependent on other parameters, including genetic factors that are independent of the sex chromosomes and conditions such as prenatal / postnatal hormonal changes. There is also a significant role played by community preferences. Gender assignment surgery has frequency been performed at birth in ambiguous cases. In some cases, the assignments have been proven incorrect or inappropriate. The choice of sex may be based on frivolous factors, such as selecting an ‘easier’ surgical procedure or by sexual-cultural bias. Assignments and reassignments are also performed at puberty, sometimes to correct mistaken assumptions from the birth assignment. ---------------------------------------- Well folks, I don't make it a habit to assess every person I meet for their potential in the sack at the instant we meet. There are other, more interesting things to hold my attention. I think it unutterable rude if someone who I met casually were to ask personal questions about my sexual orientation and preferences. Such questions tell me that the only thing on their mind is sex and that's no foundation on which to build a friendship. As I stated, as a friendship progresses one learns quite a bit about the other person. One does not need to ask, as the information eventually will flow of its own accord. And I am not intolerant enough to reject people I meet based on thier visible or assumed sexuality.

there is 1 way that I know of and it depends on how long your penis is. If your penis is long enough then you might be able to feel the end of the penis if they had a sucky surgian only if. Or if they didn't complete the prcocess you can also sometimes tell with things like compare and contrast like if she/he has big hands that are masculine looking or how their abdomin looks if they dont have specific curves that all to most women have then she might be a sign but these are just probable situations