When did sexual history or sexual experience become such a terrible thing? And why is it that a person who is not a virgin who isn't married seems to be percieved as tainted by many members of our society?
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In regards to your question about why a person who isn't a virgin and isn't married is perceived as "tainted": they aren't. In fact, it's become more and more common to be de-virginized, if you will, before marriage. If anything, it's become less of a taboo and much more accepted in today's society. The average age that people lose their virginities range anywhere from 15 to 18 today.
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It all has its roots in male control of women. These socialised concepts of 'purity' and 'virginity' are designed to make women subservient - the fact that recently they've been (somewhat) expanded to men as well is a sign of feminism being perverted.
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Yeah, maybe in the 1950's..not so much now..
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The rapid spread of disease, might be a contribing factor of why sexual history and experience has become a questionable thing. People fear what they do not know, and most were taught that you wait until marrige to have sex. Not many are told why, just that it's wrong. We go by what we were taught and what we are told.
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Its accepted today which is sad. I view these people as tainted because for me I consider sleeping with someone else prior to your marriage as nothing less then adultry. I belive for both men and woman your spouse should be the only person to have you, unless of course you get re-married after their death. However if that is not the reason, your spouse should be the only person to have you in a sexual manner.
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I have huge, crazy, incomprehensible sexual guilt. i try to laugh it off, but it is terribly deep-rooted. i think it's due to the fact that my curiosity was stifled and i was made to feel embarrased when i had questions about it. I've read things online like 'a modern christian's guide to sex' which says that the only kind of sex that is 'terrible' is that which is done violently, compulsively or dishonestly, or self-destructively (w/o protection, etc.). i think society is actually moving in the opposite direction though.
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Becaues of cultural taboos we have had such terrible experience with sex matters.Sexual education is the only awy to overcome the evils tah closed societies have with respect to sex. In the book Conversations with God ,by Neale Donald Walsch, you can find an excellent way to get rid of your misconceptions that your culture gave you.
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That is a very good question BAM... And one that none of us will be able to completely answer. Here is my opinion: Families with religious/ beginnings still hold traditions/taboos from generations before, regardless of their current religious preferences, family stories and "values" tend to continue to be passed down. Now, everybody has a different line where you go from "respectable" to "tainted", and I think that the level changes from person to person based on the level of discreetness. A person can have as little as 2 or 3 partners and be considered a "tramp" if they are braggarts, while their neighbor could have enjoyed 10 -12 partners discreetly and still be considered "respectable". Some will hold that virginity is a great gift to give your spouse, but, why do we overlook the fact that coming to a marriage with some experience can also be a wonderful gift? My personal OPINION, is that I prefer a respectfully seasoned life partner.
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To answer your first question, it depends on the context, but when it comes down to sexual morality, sexual history or sexual experience outside of marriage is simply immoral. To answer your second question, it depends on who you listen to. You'll get many different opinions on such a matter. For some it's a moral issue, for others it isn't. It's never been one way or the other in our society (or any society for that matter) when it comes to sexual morality.
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Well, it depends on where you live.. here in Denmark, you would just be laughed at and told to wake up if you, as a young person, claimed that you would not have premartial sex. Please understand that I'm against sex outside relationships, such as one night stands, but in no way outside marriage. My parents got married when I was 6 and my sister 10 - they are still together (I'm 18 today), and doesn't appear "tainted" to me in any way. But I suppose it's because some people feel a need to "claim" a women theirs, and cant imagine having sex withsomeone whose virginity they haven't taken themselves.. kind of twisted, actually..
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I read on one of your answers as "It's accepted today which is sad", wel Mr Valpariso, please get your self a very good dictionary and look up these words, and understand their meaning, Adultery, Arrogant, Hypocrisy, then and only then go back and edit your statement. This is before they are married, not after. 50 yrs ago people had intercourse before marrage, except they didn't broadcast it, 35yrs ago they did the same except they couldn't care less who knew,today in most society it's accepted as part of life. How would you women, and girls in particular out there, like to end up with a guy that has no balls like the guy that I have just mentioned, so try them out first before it's too late, it's only people like him that percieve other people as tainted, most people in our society today couldn't care less if you and I were having sex together, as long as we were going together and nither of us were married to someone else, and we did it privately. Some people need to get a life.
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During the middle ages sex was not a big deal, everyone did it and it was not gossiped about!! In Europe during the 18th and 19th century it became the norm to only have sex within marriage! It was the 20th century when the catholic religion really took off in italy, france, spain etc that it really was looked down on and people became more and more sexually repressed!! Since the 1960s there has been a huge change, this has alot to do with people losing faith, the womens movement and feminism! However we still have a long way to go, sex before marriage is still looked down on by some people but hopfully people will realise that your not a bad person for satisfing your desires!! I wish i could be more helpfull with history from the US, sorry!!
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man i think we r changing as a society virgins don't exist anymore i don't think it should matter a lot i think everybody has that one person they regret and those mistakes in our past but there is a point where i would look down on a person 4 being a hoe sorry to say that but to much of a good thing is a bad thing lol oh yeah i do agree girls r more judged and labeled tramps hoes sluts and so on y'all heard them all while guys are praised 4 been the same exact thing its a lil hypocritical
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