Long distance relationships can be very hard, but can work. However, if you already have doubts that he will stay with you after you sleep with him... This should be a clear sign that you shouldn't sleep with him. This is not to say that you should break up with him, but you need to wait until you are more comfortable with your relationship before it goes any further.

Your guts have gotten you this far, right? Right now what you're feeling is that there's enough uncertainty in your relationship about what his intentions are that having sex may be all he's up for. - And you want him to be your first lover? You have your virginity at this point presumably because you had certain expectations of what your first intimate relationship should be. If you settle now and your gut is right, you'll never forgive yourself. What would the harm be in finding out what he really wants out of the relationship? If he wants to go "all the way" in more ways than one or thinks there is a future for your relationship - yay, you found a keeper. If he's hesitant or not credible - yay, you just avoided giving him something he didn't deserve.

Firstly, engaging in sex; in order, to try to keep someone in your life is a bad idea. Not only is it morally wrong, but it can lead to other complications as well--STD's, HIV, and other serious medical conditions. From a relationship standpoint, you can't keep someone's interest by having sex with them. A relationsihip isn't built on lust, but is built on a strong commitment, a strong emotional bond between two people and having pre-marital sex will cause your relationship to fail before it has even begun. Talk to him about your feelings. Relatinships that last are based on love, honesty, & a solid trust and commitment. If you have to have sex with him, in order, to try to secure his interest, which it won't, by the way, then you're better off seeing someone else. Bottom line: Don' t have sex with him and if you want the relationship to last, then carry on a telephone conversation with him. Write him, call him, e-mail him, etc. Having sex with him isn't going to change his attitude toward you. If anything, it will you look, in his eyes, as desperate and you should respect yourself much better than that. I hope this helps & good luck!

Honestly, if someone sticks with you for a year he likes you. I see nothing wrong with sleeping with him if you WANT to. There's always a possibility that a relationship might go bad, I wouldn't worry about it. Approach it reasonably and calmly without 'what ifs'.

i had a long distance relationship with a gal i knew for almost a yr...she is in west virginia.....i am in the last state to abolish slavery (look that up...hahah)......i flew to see her...we had a great time for two weeks.....we had some great sex.....but, long distance relationships usually do not work out....mine didn't.......i wish you luck....take care.....Brian.....

The first time you have sex DECIDES the way you're going to view sex and romance for the rest of your LIFE. It's like an emotional fingerprint. Ideal case: you love the guy, he's very gente AND good in bed. If not, a DISSOCIATION will happen. Basically, in your mind, love and sex will become two separate things. That works for GUYS. No matter what people might say, men are not built around their genitals. However, women ARE built around their hearts and sex, for a woman, IS the culmination of romance. I see far two many women looking for the cake in the cookie jar. Basically, what I mean by that is: If you don't start your sex life on the basis of tender romance AND with a guy that KNOWS HOW to behave with a virgin, you'll end up never being satisfied emotionally by intimacy again in your l i f e. I know what a lot of people might say. I sound too allarmistic, it's not all that bad... Sorry, folkes, that's the emotional mechanism of first time love. It's not a problem for a guy, it's bad for a woman. For a woman, sex and love have to go hand in hand ESPECIALLY the first time. Think of it this way: you're only going to have ONE "first time" in your life. Now, are you sure you don't want to MAKE SURE it's going to be beautiful? Now, about the guy. Get to know him. Don't be so damn giving! It's your virginity you're giving him. Are you SURE he deserves it?? How is he in person? Do you two... "click"? Personally, I see the idea of giving your first time to a guy that you didn't spend enough time with, like in the same place, holding hands, going out, having an argument, watching the stars together, you know, getting to KNOW him... I see this idea like a potential recipe for a very bad, IREVERSIBLE emotional disaster. What I'm saying is: The world is not going to end tomorrow. If the guy is into you, kissing and hugging is going to be enough for him untill you can be closer geographically. People have the habit of wanting to hold on to what they really like. About him moving on. Do you have proof he's not... indulging in a little booty every now and again? And, why should that be a problem? At least, he's not some desperate Joe, hungry to get some tail from you. At least he knows what to do in bed. This takes the sex pressure off your back and puts you in the Romance section of his life. On that note. You DON'T want to become another booty call, even long distance. Short version: DON'T! Let him work and suffer for it. It'll make him REALLY appreciate it when he finally gets there. A little fooling around is ok, but no full monty for him. The price for that is commitment. Period. My two cents.

Long distance relationships are almost always a non-starter. My advice is to not have sex with him unless there is a realistic chance of you staying together afterwards. You are obviously still young and having sex for the wrong reason with the wrong person is a big mistake. Personally, I would retain the relationship but ensure that you move on slowly in terms of emotional attachment. Even for adults who can move about long distance relationships are a problem. For you, it is almost guaranteed not to work out (sadly, but that is the truth -- sorry).