The truth always comes out, so it's best to be truthful. But if you're worried about what they think, you might also subconsciously be worrying what you think about the large age difference. The more appropriate question is "what am I doing with a 47 year old and what is he doing with me?" Such a large age difference is usually a clue that one person in the relationship is immature, maybe both. It's your life, of course, but ultimately, you'll have more fun with someone your own age.

o.k. you ready for a Dr Phil answer, here goes, if you don't acknowledge yourself that your b-friend is 47 and feel shame, well means you need to do some soul searching make peace and acknowledge it then you won't be so anxious about revealing his true age to others or your family for that fact. You are the one in this relationship...remember that...

It's not always the age difference that matters, but the love that's there and the maturity levels you both have. Don't lie about his age. It'll only come out eventually. If you're seriously giving it a shot, do it the right way. You will most likely face opposition, but if it's true love, it will outstand comments. If your family and friends see it's true love, they'll eventually be supportive. It does take a lot of time and effor though! I know personally, I'm 24 and have a 52 year old boyfriend. I lived with him for a year and introduced everyone (family/friends). We tried at breaking up, but are now planning a life together. Realize because of the age difference, your relationship may perhaps accelerate at a rapid rate (i.e. Finding answers to "Will he give you children?" and "Can I be a widow someday?"). Best of luck to you. Keep in touch with how it plays out!

You are an adult...act like one . You have the right to choose whom you'd like to see and date . If you like him and he likes you go for it . Keep in mind though you do have an age gap between you . I 've dated older men . Much enjoyable ! But I find that sometimes they have different views and are unlikely to sway to your way of thinking . I am happily married to get this a man 3 years younger than I am . I was 22 dated a 44 year old Taco Bell executive , who was an excellent dancer . But off the dance floor he was all business (Taco Bell that is) . I find I have more in common with my own age group . But to each their own , I say . But just be honest .

i wouldnt worry about what your family thinks if you are 20 you are free to date whomever you want

i wouldnt worry about what your family thinks if you are 20 you are free to date whomever you want

I think its usually a good idea to come clean with the people closest to you about these things, they have a way of coming out sooner or later, and it's best off coming from you. The chances are the fact that you have lied about it will turn it into an even bigger issue than it would be anyway- they might start wondering if there's anything else about him you haven't been entirely truthful about. Theoretically you are over 18 and its none of their business, and I don't think their disapproval should necessarily influence your relationship preferences without good reason. But lying to your family can cause rifts and breed mistrust in the future which could go far beyond this relationship you're in. So I would come clean, at least to your parents and close friends. You may actually be pleasantly suprised- a few years ago I nervously admitted to my mother that my new boyfriend was 17 years older than me (and only three years younger than her boyfriend!), she took a deep breath and said "you know, I think it probably suits you better being with someone older." Just see how it goes.

Be truthful with your family. If you lie to them about his age and then continue to see him and later the truth comes out, they might not be able to trust you to tell them the truth about other things going on in your relationship. If telling others his real age is something you are worried about then maybe you need to rethink this relationship. Perhaps you are not as comfortable with it as you are trying to convince yourself. It is your life, so do as you please, but on a side note things might seem great now but what happens in about 10-15 years when he is nearing retirement and you are in your prime? I only mention this because I know a few girls who dated MUCH older men, a couple of them even got married to them. After about 5 years as the man gets older, loses his hair, gains a beer gut, etc., the guys closer to their ages started looking a lot better to them. Needless to say those marriages did not last past those 5 years.

Can you say viagra?

Im 19 and my partners 47. people talk about us but we dont give a flying pigs arse, WHY? cos theyre not in the relationship we are. we love eachother and not other people. If theyre any kind of friends they will understand and probably would have done the same x

You already screwed the pooch here. Get it out and deal with it.

I'm betting that they already know.

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. Of course they will disapprove. We are speaking of the US, the land of sexual midgets. Here in the US they seem to believe that love can only happen and succeed if the ages are between X and Y. Oh.....but how do you explain all those divorces? Especially when many are with in that magic number? It makes no difference, only to those on the outside looking in. People are uncomfortable when they see a great age difference because this nation is gripped by pedophobia. The ideal that of anyone loves someone who maybe close to the age of their son, daughter, father or mom that somehow they wanted to have sex with their kin. If you find you like someone deeply and want to explore it but they are 12, 15, 23 years older or younger, thicken up and go for it. Do you want to be with someone you are comfortable with or just someone close to your own age so people don't stare and whisper under their breath? My fiancee and I are more than 15 years apart and we will be damn if we are going to direct out lives because some passers by want to try stirring up the Koolade they don't even know what flavor it is. She told her people how old I was because she is a grown woman and she is going to live her life not the life others want her to live. What about you? If you truly want to be an adult come clean with his age ans let the feathers fly where they most. If they really love you they will come around to accepting your choice, or at least keep the hell out of the way.

Why are you so afraid? Are you still living at home and depending on your parents for your support? If that be the case then you need to get off your ass get a real job and if needs be get yourself a couple of roommates and get your own place then who you choose to date is none of your parent's damned business. I am the same age as your boyfriend and if I was your boyfriend I would put my foot down and tell you either you stop lying to your parents about my age or we're through.

If things are good and working well, why do you feel you need to potentially "rock the boat" with your friend's and family's disapproving opinions? Do you really feel you need to burden both you and him with them (opinions)? They like him, you like him, he likes you. Sounds like all is well. If it is meant to be revealed in time, it will be without any effort on either of your parts. The specifics of any relationship are not anyone's business other than the people involved in it.

Go for it he will show you things a young guy can't

WHY do you care what anyone else THINKS ? As long as you and your guy are BOTH over 18 ; and care/love about each other ..it is no one elses business ... Go ahead and reveal his age .... Good For YOU and Him !! +5

Tell the truth,you are an adult.they will find out eventually anyway and you will look like an idiot.