Assuming it is a romantic relationship, it really depends on the needs of those involved. I don't know about you, but my idea of an ideal relationship involved quite a bit of lust. Nevertheless, there are other things that might be more important to you (hopefully you can get everything). Of course, even the best relationship will generally have periods where neither person feels that lustful. If you are concerned because your relationship is lustless, that isn't cause to just up and run. At least take time to find out why. More likely than not, a trip to a good counselor would be of great help for you and your partner. A trip to the doctor might be necessary, too. Sometimes physical problems are the cause of a lack in libido. If the lustless partner is on anti-depressants or hormones of some type, they might be the cause. In which case, the doctor can switch the medication. There are other disorders, too. Of course, a low libido might just be caused by physical and emotional stress. So, make sure you and your partner get plenty of rest and relaxation. ------------------- Answers101: No, lust isn't love and I never said that it was, but I like to have both in my marriage and I'm sure others like to have both in their romantic relationship. But like I said, it depends on what the people need/want in their relationship.

Definitely. regardless of how much two people love eachother, there needs to be an intimate physical spark. in fact, consider a relationship without "lust", doesn't sound very fun eh?

There is no need for "lust" in a relationship. Lust is an intense desire without emotional attachment or a commitment to the other person. This is quite different to having a strong sexual attraction to your partner. Lust is detached; love is not.

Only so long as self-gratification doesn't reach the point that you are willing to gratify yourself at the cost of the other person. Lust in itself I don't think is bad, and perhaps even necessary, but it shouldn't be all about lust. If you're just in a relationship for what you can get out of it you'll ditch the person as soon as "they don't do anything for you." Once your lovey-dovey feelings for them are gone you'll be off for someone else who can get your lust barometer rising. Love on the other hand means commitment based on a genuinely caring attitude for the other person. Rather than it being, "what can you do for me" it is "I care about you and want to do what's in your best interests." Lust in itself isn't wrong, the word simply means a strong desire for, a longing for something or someone. You can lust after things of God and if you're not yearning for your marriage partner then there is something wrong. Simply a strong physical arousal also is not wrong if included as part of the definition of lust. Lust is only a problem when it wars against God's will, but the charachters in the Song of Solomon seemed pretty "lustful" to me. ==================================================== EDIT: I guess differences come from the interpretation of the word lust, which in the english language means simply a strong yearning for. We can "lust" after righteousness or have a lust for God's Word. Lust in itself isn't wrong, even in the sense of sexual desire. As mentioned, Song of Solomon clearly shows strong sexual desire in itself is not wrong in the context of a God-honoring marriage.

To fall in love I think you need to be in lust first. I believe it goes in an order, first your infatuated with the person causing you to be in lust. The lust eventually turns into love. So lust should be there in the beginning of the relationship... that's what i think.

Trust is the fundamental foundation upon which all relationships function. Trust is not a blind acceptance though and as with anything vital to the survival of anything, it has to be maintained and earned. Open trust extends to a limit when it is questionable and you should feel comfortable asking for confirmation. It is easy for others to distort the truth to protect themselves and you from the realities that are contrary to your expectations and you must be mature enough to understand that not everyone operates on the same principles as you. Many in our society hide what they are, do ect. to again protect themselves and others. Trust once broken is very difficult to regain and very painful are the lessons of lost trust. Have faith in the others but always stay the course with who you are and what you believe in. Trust is necessary yes, but people are prone to fail and forgiveness and understanding is vital too. Know when to move on.

Initially, followed by companionship.

Absolutely!!!!!! OMG even Jimmy Carter lusted. lol

Sure...as long as it's for each other.

oh yeah!