you don't, he'll propose when he's ready. maybes he's saving up for a ring. a really nice ring with a mahoosive diamond. you can't rush these things. he'll do it when he thinks the time is right.

Well, I have seen this before...a friend of mine was in your man's position and his girl gave him an altamatum. Bad choice, he rolled out. I would simply tell him that you want more and see what he says. If he seems wishy washy, break up. Sometimes a break up is whats needed for him to cherish what he had.

You can't make him propose. If he proposes out of pressure, it may not impress upon him as serious, simply a pressured step that may hover over your relationship and may even be used as an excuse further down the road. If you are tired of waiting, then let him know you need more out of the relationship and that you are ready for a commitment, and if he isn't, then you both don't seem to want the same thing and it may be time to move on. This will put the ball in his court for now, but be ready to back up your threat. If you aren't ready to back it up, then don't go that route... though I'd wonder if you are really concerned if you wouldn't be willing to go that far.

Let me propose you a way to find the answer yourself... OK... The very fact that he speaks about a vague future ("one day") means that his only real decision is NOT to decide. I think that this is probably a case of a person who cannot take responsibility in life in general and has a tendency to attribute the outcome of everything that happens to "others", except of himself. The "reason" for everything is always "out there" (money, the weather, people who have set up a conspiracy against his wishes, your mother's sister in law or your hairsyle...) But, the REAL question, is... why do you think that MAKING him propose would be good for you? I mean, it may sound like "good" on the surface, but the very fact that you would like to MAKE him act in a way that he does NOT seem willing to do, should be a matter of concern to you... I think that you should switch the focus on YOU and ask yourself if you would like to get married to a person that cannot make decisions, cannot take responsibility and does NOT, apparently, wish to get married (to you or in general...) Also, in a little deeper level.... have you ever thought that he is gently manipulating you by talking about this vague future marriage ("one day")? And... have you also thought that you are trying to manipulate him into proposing?.... In that sense, you make a good match, but what does this reveal about the way you both are going to behave to each other in the future (especially within a marriage that brings lots of really serious decisions and responsibilities in front of you two...) I wish I were wrong, but take some time with yourself and thing about this picture... Anyway... remember that people change (in your case, they act in a new way) only when they THEMSELVES have decisded to do so for their own good... and NOT because they are made to... In the second case, the outcome will be short lived... Think about it.

Its time for a little jealousy. Sometimes, you have to poke a fire, to get it started. Confide in a trusted male friend to go along with your game plan. tell this friend of your situation. ask your fried to pose as a suspected person, interested in you. tell your boyfriend of the interest and notice his reaction. this should do one of two things: either boost his popping the question to you or open a can of worms, concerning you cheating on him. Its a gamble. are you willing to take the risk?

I'm in the same exact situation, except I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. It is very frustrating having to wait, especially when your trying to do things God's way. If you've been taught one thing, and your living another you begin to feel very guilty. I actually continue to hold on, and try to keep my mouth shut about the marriage subject. I see improvement and other motivations coming from him. Sometimes you just have to stay calm, and if he doesn't make the move you may have to move on.

Do you ALWAYS talk about getting married? Because if you do, that will make him not want to. You have to make him want to. Play hard to get.. Cliche but true.

you dont. why would yu want a husband that you had to "make" marry you. What kind of a husband would he be? Aftre 3 years, i wouldnt wait much longer. Honestly, I would move on by now.

If he hasn't proposed yet, you don't WANT him to. He's not ready for it. On a good note, he's all yours, just like he'd be if you married. You should be pretty happy with that.

You can't MAKE him propose. Would you feel right if you MADE him propose and he really wasn't ready? Let him do it in his own time. I'm in the exact same situation, we've been together for three years and he says we'll get married and my view is "why wait" but he wants to do it when he's ready. And I just have to wait. If you're not willing to wait...then it's just going to ruin the relationship you have built.

Threaten to leave...he'll do it!!!!

Ask him. Maybe he's waiting for you to propose.

why dont you propose? you dont want to give him ultimatum thats not how he wants to see you in the future.

So, do you really want to MAKE him purpose? How romantic. I forced, manipulated, whined, and was otherwise pissy...making him feel guilty, unhappy and angry and now he is marrying me and making me the happiest person in the world???? Wow...fine way to start a lifetime commitment! haha I can say with certainty that if anyone either made me purpose or made me marry them I would be out of there at the first chance I had to make a break for it. If so I think there might be some issues in the relationship. Why can't you ask him?

i cannot imagine why you would want to force someone the gift would be sweeter if they ask you because they really wanted to spend their life with you.

You don't make a man propose to you. This is something he should do because he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. Maybe he doesn't think its the right time.

You can't make him propose. The last thing you want to do is force him to marry you. If he won't marry you, then tell him you will move on. You don't want to spend 10 years with someone, have hime string you along, and then leave you. He would be taking up the precious space of a man who will take your hand in marriage. If you wan't to marry someone, you will know within 3 years if this is the person whom you will spend the rest of your life with.

You can't. if you can't just talk to him openly about it and both plan your engagement and wedding, then you don't know each other or trust each other enough to get married. And I'm afraid that the dating part should have been the part where you decide if you are compatible and then move on to marriage. It doesn't take 3 years for adults to figure that out. If he's not ready now, then maybe it's time to cut the ties and move on to someone that is ready for marriage, looking for a permanent relationship.