by lizzytish on April 10th, 2007

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I am a 16 year old girl. Just this morning i had sex for the first time. I am nervous because we did not use protection. But we did not have sex consistently. It was for less than 2 minutes. He never ejaculated. But whats the deal with Pre-cum?

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by Redhawk on April 10th, 2007
WHAT WERE YOU THINKING?

The deal with Pre-cum is that there CAN BE LIVE SPERM in it that CAN get you pregnant.

The BIGGER DEAL is you can survive Pregnancy, despite the possible INCONVENIENCE IT MIGHT CAUSE YOU AND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE..

HERPES IS ALSO AN INCONVENIENCE YOU ARE TAMPERING WITH TODAY...because of your lack of consideration for YOURSELF.

HIV...which eventually becomes AIDS and WILL KILL YOU is ALSO a little problem you MAY NOW FACE. HIV can live dormant (which means inactive as in YOU DON'T KNOW YOU HAVE IT) for as many as 10 YEARS in the human body...so for the next 10 years...IF your boyfriend has had sex with ANYONE AT ALL but you, or you suspect he MAY HAVE had sex with anyone but you...YOU would be smart to go to a public clinic and GET AN AIDS TEST every single year.

You go every year so that IF you have now caught HIV...you can catch it as soon as possible so that you can start taking medications as soon as possible to try and live as long as you can in as good of health as you can hope to have.

IS ALL OF THIS CLEAR ENOUGH FOR YOU? The two of you screwed up royally...and unless you finished each other up with a hand job...neither of you even got to have an orgasm!

YOU DO NOT HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX IN THIS DAY AND AGE. YOU SIMPLY DO NOT DO IT!!!! Herpes is freaking uncomfortable..it hurts...HIV will eventually KILL YOU..having a child when you are so young and evidently irresponsible in caring for yourself...is just foolish, expensive, and can be emotionally draining. Getting an abortion can also suck rocks...depending on your personal feelings about having one...abortions are not supposed to be the CHOSEN method of birth control...that's just piss poor morals!

Am I coming down too hard on you....GOOD..I mean to. If this stupid boy will not even wear a condom to protect YOU, a virgin...how many other girls has he boinked without bothering to put one on...what has he CAUGHT that he doesn't care enough about you to protect YOU from?

DUMP THIS LOOSER and promise yourself that you WILL NOT EVER TAKE SUCH A RISK AGAIN....

YOU DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER THAN THIS...sex is supposed to be a good feeling, ideally loving act between two consenting adults...granted you are young, but I was 16 too when I made the decision to have sex with my boyfriend...BUT WE ALWAYS USED CONDOMS...EVERY SINGLE TIME...and even at 20...he too was a virgin...and AIDS didn't even exist when we started having sex.

Pre-cum is the LEAST AND LITTLEST OF THINGS YOU NOW HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT.

Morning after pill...need to see a doctor for that prescription...and then make an appointment for your first of many AIDS tests. (your idiot boyfriend should also be tested for VD along with you...if he has something...then you know you may get it too.)

PLEASE DON'T PLAY GAMES WITH YOUR LIFE!
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- thats is the best answer i got so far. THANKSS..! so i shouldnt be worried aboutt precum? i mean there is live sperm i knoww SOMETIMESS there is. this was hs first time too. he was a virgin until yesterday. and he regrets the desicion to have sex. i don't regret it as much but the only thing i regret is not using protectionn. but really thankss for helping me.. i know very irrisponsiblee i vowed to dnot do it again until i was mature and old enough to face the consequences of sex. my gay best friend luigi bought me the pill this morning. by bf said he didnt pre cum but..no guy knows if they do. so im going to luigis house now to take the pill. better safe than sorry. THANKSS
  
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  by lizzytish on April 10th, 2007
- Sweetie, the good news is IF he did not LIE TO YOU and IF he too was a virgin then neither of you should HAVE to worry about passing disease THIS TIME...Getting Pregnant, however...YES..that you would still need to worry about. ANY GUY can have a drop of Pre-cum slip out BEFORE THEY EVER GET NAKED OR EVEN INTO HEAVY FOREPLAY, simply because they are excited. Inexperienced males may be EVEN MORE likely to have pre-cum because they ARE inexperienced in holding back their desires. Guys have to WORK to hold back their sexual reactions to stimulus...it's not easy for them...it takes an EFFORT and even then they cannot hold back a drop or two that may slip out before they are actually penetrating the female.
  
  Don't misunderstand me...you would still need to worry about pregnancy because of your actions (and by the way...you should still see a doctor, or visit a clinic..you have no business just swallowing pills from a friend no matter WHO the friend is.
  
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  by Redhawk on April 10th, 2007
- My point of what you need to worry about is that you most likely would LIVE on, even if you were to have become pregnant. But if you catch HIV...eventually THAT'S IT...so far they still are not proclaiming any cure. Likewise with Herpes...it's forever...the medications that exist for that one, sort of help you deal with it, but you will have the disease for the rest of your life, according to current medical efforts. You would be better off waiting, and while you are waiting WORK ON THAT SPELLING or learn to use a spell check <wink> We know you are NOT stupid, not really..you just didn't think any of this through very well at all...you have something to offer this world we live on...DON'T SCREW IT UP FOR YOURSELF. Sex at this age isn't even that good...you can learn to give yourself an orgasm that rocks...and WAIT a few more years to share it with another person, or even this guy...if it lasts.
  
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  by Redhawk on April 10th, 2007
- If your best friend is a guy...then the doctor is NOT going to give him the morning after pill...it is a prescription order. YOU HAVE TO GO TO THE DOCTOR OR THE CLINIC be seen by and speak to a doctor...get the prescription and take that to the pharmacy to have it filled. DO NOT TAKE A PILL THAT YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT IT IS EXACTLY...what if it's not really the morning after pill and next month you find out you ARE pregnant? Then what?
  
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  by Redhawk on April 10th, 2007
- It is the morning after pill and my girl/friend bought it for me. i know i do not know exactlywhat it is but i really couldn't afford to be pregnantt at this time. i knoww my consequences now and i told my bf thismorning that there is no way in hell i am having sex until i am mature enough or even married. too bad for him lol. thanks for everything. BTW is there anything i should know about the morning after pill. i took the first one at 6:10 anf it is now 7:11it said that if i did not vomit within one hour of taking the first pill i was alright..im actually kinda hungry lol.....but yea. is there anything else that you know that ishould know??
  
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  by lizzytish on April 10th, 2007
- I like the first site the best. But, I would say check out all three, or google it yourself as I did. (I didn't know enough specifically to give you a good or accurate answer, without researching it!
  
  http://www.fwhc.org/birth-control/ecinfo.htm
  http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/morningafterpill.htm
  
  http://www.nyabortion.com/birthcontrol/themorningpill.shtml
  http://www.nyabortion.com/birthcontrol/themorningpill.shtml
  http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/morningafterpill.htm
  
  http://www.nyabortion.com/birthcontrol/themorningpill.shtml
  
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  by Redhawk on April 10th, 2007
- ok ..so its like 2:17 AM and i have to take the second pill at 6:10 and and im like freaking out. i keep having a positive additude but its hard. the only thing going through my mind is "what if i dont get my period" he was a virgin so im not worried about STD's. and i cannot what so ever tell my parents..even my mom...even my older brother..this is one of those time you need a big sister. anyone want to take that job for me. i ve been lectured for 2 days by my older friends. i just need some support. anyone?
  
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  by lizzytish on April 10th, 2007
- The truth is that THIS is another good reason to wait until you are older and better able to 1. be in charge of YOUR life. and 2. be more emotionally capable of dealing with what LIFE deals out. THIS is part of being an adult and CHOOSING to be sexually active. When I was your age and made the same choice, even though we DID use condoms correctly and none broke, my periods were NOT regular, not until I was almost 30 did they finally fall into a regular pattern! This meant that the entire time I was with my B/F who I married (together total 9 yrs 5 married ones) and my after divorce B/F I had to wonder almost EVERY FREAKING MONTH if I had become pregnant! It was a drag. For some reason after I came out to myself as a Lesbian, my periods totally evened out and I've been like a clock ever since...go figure, what's with that? Did you read the websites? You'll probably be fine..but be safe from now on, ALWAYS USE A CONDOM. And maybe one other to be sure of no pregnancy.
  
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  by Redhawk on April 11th, 2007
- i told my mother..she surpisengly was not mad at all...she cracked a joke.. it was wierd..hey..you really helped me alot.. thanks a bunch..i finished the pills..i took the second one this morning..so
  
  i hope im ok.. THANKS xo
  
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  by lizzytish on April 11th, 2007
- wow...I can't find any part of this to joke about...too risky! But the important thing is that you KNOW SHE LOVES YOU no matter what foolish thing you do...that's a good thing! I hope you'll be ok too...don't forget these 24 hours...use them to remember to be safe!
  
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by Anonymous on April 10th, 2007
First off, it's really irresponsible to have sex without protection, not just because of the possibility of pregnancy but also because of the possibility of disease transfer. If he didn't have the rubber you shouldn't have done the hubba hubba.
Anyway, precome, while not containing sperm cells itself, can sometimes flush out sperm cells already present in the urethra from prior masturbation, so there is a possibility that you may have exposed yourself to pregnancy. If I were you, I would take the morning after pill to make sure you're safe.

For more information, see this wikipedia article. I'm not sure whether it'll be easier to understand than what I just wrote, or not.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coitus_interruptus
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- Yea if your going to play with fire like that, You will get burnt.
  
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  by scotty2006 on April 10th, 2007
- POINTS UP for you...I flipped out..couldn't help it...I've seen too many good people die from a moment of supposed sexual fun and games...
  
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by dagirlyone on April 23rd, 2007
you are going to have to wait 3 months before you can find out if you have contracted an std like HIV or syphallis.

However, i have some comforting words for you....
(although, it must be noted, i'm only saying this because everyone else has already told you everything else i was gonna say)

the first tme i had sex, we used a condom, but when he pulled out, we discovered the condom had pushed itself into my vagina.

being a clumsy chick, i accidenty squeezed some of the semem out of the condom while i was retrievng it.

*My point*: even if you had used a condom, you might have still gotton some sperm on the outside of your vagina, and it is still enough to infect you or get you pregnant.

precum has the same amount of sperm in it as semen.it is clear.tastes salty.it could get on his finger before her even puts the condom on his dick.then if he touches you to feel if you're wet, he can transer the sperm to your vagina.

it's very risky buiness.

i wish you the best of luck, sweetie.
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by davocanavo on November 8th, 2009
You guys are fucking idiots. Just because they had sex doesn't mean they have aids you fucking clowns. Everyone bitches and moans about STDs these days, all the while forgetting to tell the kids that you actually have to HAVE THE FUCKING DISEASE before you can spread it. Fucking fear mongers. Unless he was jacking it within a couple hours prior to you guys having sex, there's no reason to worry. Sperm doesn't survive in the urethra, it dries up and dies. So unless he was beatin it, and then 20 minutes later you guys fucked, you're almost surely not pregnant. Just go buy a fucking pregnancy test. Stupid ass kids these days, goddamn.
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- I agree with you. All of this talk of aids and herpes is just going to make people paranoid.
  
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by putiram on April 10th, 2007
why you indulged in sex baby so early in the morning when its the time to have hot tea beside the bed?
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by rtdfrmr on June 24th, 2011
Hope you like being called "mommy"!!!
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by Mr Useless on April 23rd, 2007
Meh, we all do it when we're young. The judgemental morons who posted are all hypocrits, trust me.

Just remember to use protection in the future.

There is sperm in pre-cum sometimes, but it's a very small amount - I shouldn't worry too much.

But you should still use protection, because that very small amount is all it takes at certain times of the month!

Also you don't know if he has HIV, Herpes, Aids etc etc.

We live, and we learn. I hope the worry you were going through has helped you grow a litte bit and made you that little bit wiser :)
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- I did do it when I was 16 and we DID use protection EVERY SINGLE TIME. You can kiss a rock and NOT be at risk for AIDS...I'm not judging this young lady on her MORALS...I don't want her taking risks that could see her DEAD IN THE NEXT 10 OR 20 YEARS WHILE SHE SPREADS A DISEASE SHE DIDN'T KNOW SHE HAD...who's a moron for caring about death to a kid....maybe you MISSED OUT ON LOOSING FRIENDS TO AIDS...SOME OF US DID NOT AND IN CASE YOU MISSED THE NEWS...CURRENTLY BLACK WOMEN AND CHILDREN OF ALL COLORS ARE THE HIGHEST RISK GROUPS FOR SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASE...try again sparky, you missed it on this one.
  
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  by Redhawk on April 23rd, 2007
- All it takes is 1 single sperm cell to fertilize an egg cell......
  
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by PuffinPig on July 19th, 2010
Withdrawal before ejaculation used to be one of the most practised contraception methods. Unfortunately, it doesn't work too well, there is often a small amount of sperm in a man's pre-cum, some of which will have got into your vagina. It is very unlikely you will get pregnant.
As others have said, there is a risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection from unprotected sex. Both cum and pre-cum can carry infection. HIV and herpes are both incurable at present. If your boyfriend has had other partners it would be wise to get yourself checked for STIs at the clinic. You will realise you are pregnant when you miss your next period.
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