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by Miss. Tandra on April 9th, 2007

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Omg i'm going through a crisis, I asked out a guy for one of my best friends, he thinks i asked him out, and and he said yes! and i already have a boyfriend! How can i tell him it wasnt me that asked him out without hurting him?

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  • by Fun on April 9th, 2007

    Fun

    Tell him "I am very flattered that you would consider dating me, and maybe if the circumstances were different and I didn't have a boyfriend things could be different. However my really cute and fun friend is very interested in you. Why not give her a chance?"

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  • by Psycho the kid on April 9th, 2007

    Psycho the kid

    You can't. Just tell him it was a misunderstanding and save yourself, your friend, and the guy some heartache.

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  • by Barcaluv on April 9th, 2007

    Barcaluv

    Tell him you're flattered that he picked you, that there is a misunderstanding and you're sorry. Quick and painless I think.

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  • by PerfectlyPink on April 9th, 2007

    PerfectlyPink

    Oh my gosh girl... Pull off the bandaide and do it fast before anyone gets too hurt! The longer you prolong the worse it will be for all parties involved.

    The most important person you are forgetting about getting hurt is your dear friend that you had intended to set up, she could very possibley be just as devistated if not more then the guy that you accidentally asked out (notice I used the word accidentally).

    Explain what your intentions where to the guy and I am sure he will understand.

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  • by Tom on April 9th, 2007

    Tom

    Oh dear. Although you may now realise this, I would advise not asking someone out for someone else in the future. It is not the way to go about it, if you can't ask someone out personally how can you expect to have a relationship with that person? Also it can lead to confusion such as your present situation.

    I suggest letting him down gently. Take him to one side and explain to him that you didn't mean what he thought you meant and that you are sorry that he misunderstood. Try not to be too frank about it, a little subtlety (ie avoiding making it the talk of the school/college/group of friends and humiliating him) will be necessary to avoid hurting his feelings. This should be done as soon as possible as to not lead him on causing more hurt and give him as little time as possible to advertise to the entire world that you are his girlfriend. If he is a close friend I recommend emphasising that you in no way want this to affect the friendship between yourself and him and that you still want to be friends.

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  • by Anonymous on April 9th, 2007

    Anonymous

    Just be honest and tell him the truth. I think the direct approach is best even though not always pleasant. Tell him immediately and get it over with. The longer the situation drags out, the worse it will become.

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