The question is am I wasting my time on something that is going to be nothing?

She may say she hates him and she may act like it but she is still keeping him dangling and he is allowing it. I would hesitate to move with him at this stage unless you are willing to give up everything you have now. What happens if you quit your job, move with him and then he decides that he can't handle the relationship? He could break it off with you and leave you sitting and surrounded by strangers. He will be returning to see his children as often as he can and you can be there for him at that time. He sounds like a nice guy but you need to be really sure of your relationship with him before making that move. For what it's worth, that's my two cents of advice.

i say yeahh.. or tlk to him & try to tell him more about the way yu feel...

if you want to get married and he doesn't want to then i wouldn't stay with him

the truth is all guys are different more than likely he wants to show her what she gave up and what you now have so you have to choose what it is your willing to fight for .sit down be honest

He may not still love her but his heart hasn't healed yet. Don't push him at all but don't get your hopes up that he will change either. Why are they still seeing each other so often? It sounds like she is still hanging on to him even though she has remarried.

Yes, a waste of time. Some men never get over their ex, and you shouldn't stay with them knowing they aren't. Listen to your heart. It will lead you well. You asking this question means you have doubts. Doubts are your hearts way of telling you "mistake."