My boyfriends likes rough animalistic sex which is how it is most often but I don't enjoy it much, I prefer it slow & romantic. Sometimes it starts off like the latter but turns into the former. How do I get him to keep it slow without saying anything?

Don't try to change him, he is what he is. Find someone that is what you want, not someone that you think you can change into what you want.

I'd say you can't change how he acts without talking to him. Of course there are ways you can help him to understand. One possible way is to start slow and romantic and tell him at that point how much you love it when he is slow and caring, and make a point of having a really strong orgasm (I'm sure you can fake it for a good cause).

You may well find that he gets quick and rough because he is too sensitive going slow and is worried he will cum too quickly. Many men have issues about pleasing (as they see it) their woman first before they finish. In general, though, you need to communicate much more. If you keep quiet then he thinks he is doing everything right and you're enjoying it all. Letting him know what pleases you, and what he can spend more time doing, will pay dividends for both of you.

He's the man and you're the woman. If you don't like it with him, choose another mate. A man should be in charge of your sex life so if it's not right with him, choose another mate.

DONT TALK TO HIM ABOUT THAT PLEASE BIG MISTAKE WE AS MEN LIKE TO THINK WE KNOW HOW TO HAVE SEX AND KNOW WHAT OUR MATE LIKE TELLING HIM HE IS TOO FAST WILL MAKE HIM FEEL YOU DONT INJOY IT. HEAL GIVE IT TO YOU SLOW FOR AWHILE BUT THE REASON HE GETS BACK TO FUCKING ISNT BECAUSE HE JUST LIKES IT THAT WAY ITS BECAUSE HE FEELS HE KNOWS WHAT YOU WANT BETTER THAN YOU DO OR DOESNT WANT TO ADMIT THAT HE DOESNT. TRY THIS THIS WORKED WITH MY WIFE WHEN I DID IT LIKE HIM GET WILDER THAN HIM TAKE CONTROL. THATS WHY HES DOING IT IN THE FIRST PLACE HE FEELS IN CONTROL TAKE THAT AWAY FROM HIM AND YOU'LL SEE THE CHANGE JUST ASK MY WIFE SHE GETS IT HOW SHE WANTS IT BUT EVERY ONCE IN AWHILE MORE OFTEN THAN NOT ASK HIM TO TEAR IT UP GOOD LUCK

Talking about it is the best idea. But I think if you want it slow and romantic and he wants it rough and animalistic, there needs to be compromise; sometimes him giving you the soft and slow and sometimes you giving him hard and fast.

If talking to him doesnt work try taking control. flip him over and mount him then you can go as slow as you like. if he flips you back over sex stops. sex depraved men get messages quicker.

TALK TO HIM!!!!!

My woman and I share the same problem. She likes it slow and I like it fast. However, she likes it fast too, but there are so many occasions she prefers slow. I find that I like it fast because it's the best way to keep me hard and raring. Also I have a hard time cumming thrusting slowly.

I say try to find a fair compromise. Allow him to do it fast when your satisfied maybe or allow the pace to alternate throughout the whole process.

I dunno. I like it rough lol

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