My boyfriend and i are sexually active. every time we have had sex, me has orgasmed and i have never orgasmed. i faked a few and he believed it. how do i tell him that i haven't yet?
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MissKatieSue
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First of all you need to figure out why you didn't have an orgasm. If it was because he was too fast, try to get him to either go again or slow down and try to not have one.If it was because you couldn't, you should try and masturbate to see what you like.Feel yourself and see what really feels good.THEN, you need to tell him that you have faked them and that you would like to try and have one.You should try and tell him that the reason you are telling him is because you care about your relationship and you care about him.From there, you guys should work on you getting your orgasm.One last thing you might want to try is (excuse me for the vulgar language) rubbing your clitoris while you are having sex.
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I am in the same boat. I had never had an orgasm with someone else ( only when I was pleasuring myself). I also had a bit of a problem with a guy going sown on me so I never let anyone. With my currant boyfriend i let him go down on me and i have came every time!!! But i still have to fake it with sex and when he is fingering me.
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don't. Instead of that, you need to train him - tactfully!
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EWW.. tricky.. I wouldnt tell him..his leoness will disappear.. try some alone time figure out your needs and plan out a playful way to include your lover.. try him going down on you..toys..etc.. move forword with a solotion, dont create more problems
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it is a joint effort, both need to exslpore each other and try different possions, and techniques.everyone is simular, but also different some people like their necks kissed, nipples, etc, just experiment.
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Don't. Just try to direct him,encourage him and when he hits your spots, let him know.
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Tell him and then tell him to eat mango's.
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Dont tell him that you haven't cum --- that will just hurt his feelings and make him feel inadequate. Rather teach him what he needs to do to make you cum. This won't happen in a single session, but rather over many weeks or months.
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Hey, did you know that around nine out of ten women can't orgsam during sex? I heard it on love line, a radio show about love and sex. I suggest you be straight with your bf. Tell him you think he is so great at x and y, and that you felt a little embarrassed to admit you haven't had an orgsam, and that you would like to practice together and exlplore how to have it. Next time in bed, make sure to have lots of foreplay, and let him stimulate you so that when you have sex you're almost about to orgsam, and then you can orgsam together.
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well actully ... im in the same boat here but so is about 56% of woman cant orgasam with penatration theres nothing wrong with you .. nothing at all and he needs to understand that but theres other ways of fixing that .. theres toys dildos and evan old fasion tounge lol ..just experiment with it .. youll find something that works for you .. try a pocket rocket ..girl youll feel as good as new and the best part about that toy is you can use it with your man mabye he can evan help.. stop focusing on what you cant do and learn what you can .. you dont really evan need to tell him .. still fake it a time or two with him .. just to keep his ego up lmfao ..
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play around - feel soft and slow/ more forplay, you'll find out more by staring slow with tease and please hand and mouth forplay. I feel lucky I learned quick and tried to please my partner at a young age, and some good partners to learn with. it takes time, just slow dwon and find out about your patner and yourself.
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You don't tell him about the past. It is in the past. But, work with him in the present. Tell him what you like and what you don't like. Help him to bring you to that point. But, I would wait until after you two were married.
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Dont tell him now he will think your a fake and if you lied about that what else will you lie about. Just tell him you want to spice things up let him sit and watch you slowly caress yourself and masturbate. Maybe use toys and oils. So he can watch how you want and like to touch your body. Then let him do the same. Watch each other masturbate. Learn each others body's. You will be amazed at how it works out
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o dont start that shit be true to your self u both need to work on it togeather
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