do you both have jobs, a home, a car, and are you grad from high school. if not then you will be working after school and when would you get to see the poor kid... NO +5

Not a good idea. You may think you are ready, but in reality, you are probably not since you are 14. Just wait until you are 18 until you make such a drastic life-changing decision.

Wait till you finish your education. College is preferable. How will you feed yourself and the baby later in life? You have to work.

your body isnt ready, you are not ready. Take my advice: it could ruin your life. Wait until it's the right moment

Having a baby before you're old enough to care for it, including having a well-paying job is terminally stupid.

I agree with everyone else. I am just a year younger than you, so i hear ya. But just think about your future. You want to get a job, and when your older, then have a baby. But for now, just wait and dream about how fun it will be. And when you are older and possibly married, then have kids.

Girl, you are TOO YOUNG to have a baby and your bf just said he was OK with it because HE WANTS SEX!! The minute you get pregnant, he's gone. It's is NOT fair of you to bring a child into this world that YOU CAN'T support financially. You have to wait until you are a married adult with a steady income to have a child. And, even if you're a rich girl who can afford it, there are MANY health problems that go along with having a baby and you're still young enough that things could be worse than average for you. Here's a list of SOME pregnancy related health problems. If you don't believe me go to google and type in Web MD and then type in Pregnancy in the search bar on the main page. Morning sickness; stretch marks on your belly; extreme pain in your lower back; depression after giving birth; strokes or severe vaginal infection after giving birth; kidney failure or serious infection; swelling of feet and hands; weight gain; a lot of pain in your breasts; depression during pregnancy; dizziness; insomnia, etc. Believe me, you're too young to do this and I don't see why you'd want to suffer with all that.

Do you think that you could give a baby a better life at 14 or 24? Why put too much pressure on yourself? Relax and enjoy carefree days of your youth while you still can.

ya im sorry but i think this is a very foolish decision. i understand wanting a child but to have one before you can support one would be selfish. think of what the childs life would be like. think about these things, where are you gonna live? are you gonna finish school after the kid? if so, who's gonna watch the baby while your in school? when are you gonna work? after school? when do you expect to be able to see the kid. and then think about what the kids friends are gonna think. how are they gonna feel knowing that their mother had them at 14. how do they explain that to their friends? to have a baby now would not only be foolish but selfish as well.

It would be selfish for you to have a baby right now. Why do you want one so bad? I don't know ANYONE 14 that is at a stage in her life where she is ready to have a baby. You will do what you want to do, I know. I would encourage you to reconsider, though. Just enjoy growing up. +5

That would be the worst decision of your life. No woman who has ever had a baby that young would choose to do it again at that age if she had a choice.

Yes, at 14 you feel ready for just about anything. But you aren't. All of the adults who tell you to wait are speaking from experience. You may not like what they have to say, but you should listen to what they are saying. At 14 you also have the legal issues of not being able to do the legal things that you need to be 18 to do, like get medical care for both you and your baby. And work. How will you get a job at 14? And pay for childcare, food, housing, clothes, medicine, etc. Go to the store and add up what things cost. It will shock you. And then there is the issue of your age and not having the legal right to decide if you keep the baby or if it is adopted out. I knew a girl who lost 3 babies that way. Her mom kept putting them up for adoption. She was underage and couldn't stop her. There is a huge list of reasons that having a baby at your age is wrong. And not any good reason for you to do it. Please decide, instead, to wait until you are at least 18 and can legally take care of it.

Your a troll or retarded. But assuming you are retarded, Hell no. Do yourself a favor, tell your parents this. See how they react. Then after you pout and say how mean they are, realize how it will feel to have a child that is acting like you are. Then i hope it all comes into perspective for you, and you realize that your parents actually know a thing or two about life. Unless you are this messed up because they were this messed up. In that case break the cycle and grab a brain. Sorry for being harsh, but if you are 14 and think you are ready for a baby, you are taking stupid pills and need some harsh words to smarten your dumbass up.

You aren't ready to take care of a baby until you are old enough to afford to be able to take care of it. You need to have a good paying job and be married, so that you have somebody else to help you with taking care of the baby. It is not acceptable for you to bring a child into the world and then go on welfare and expect other people to have to support you and the baby. It is also not acceptable to bring a child into the world with out a complete family. That means a father and a mother, who both work togeter to take care of the child. It would be irresponsible and selfish to do other wise. Having a baby is a huge responsibility and one that will take up most of your time all day long. You will have time for very little else. You will be responsible to make sure somebody else can grow up and have a good life, in the process. It is a lot of work. A baby is also very expensive and will continue to be expesnive for at lesat 20 years after the baby is born. Unless you have a reall good paying job, you won't have very much money left over, for anyting fun. The right thing for you to do at your age, would be to forget about having a baby until you are out of school and have a job. It's smart at your age, not to even have sex, unless you can afford the consequences, if you should accidentally have a baby. The quality of your life depends on the choices that you make. So make wise choices and not just ones that seem like they would make you feel good, or happier at the moment. Think ahead to what could really happen. You will be glad you did.

YOU want. A person who is truly ready to have a baby lays the groundwork to give that baby the best possible life because it's the baby that's the priority. NOT your selfish needs. The mere fact that you think you can handle it at 14 is evidence enough that you're not even close.

I say go for it, if you want to

Who will support this baby.if your boyfriends close too your age he doesnt have a job that pays enough too live on.Babies seem fun but its not fun spending all night in the emergency room with an infant with a high fever.your fun is over the baby needs expensive stuff.you have too go without so the baby will have what it needs.my neighbor has a baby she cant go too parties because she cant always get a sitter.I dont know any teenage moms who said they are glad they got pregnant.

As long as you are able to feed it and care for it without asking anyone else for help for the rest of your and the child's life. And as long as you are sure that in six or eight or ten years time, you will not feel as if you never had a chance to be young and enjoy your youth.

Okay, just from reading the first two words of that, I can tell that you should not have a baby. "I want". If there is going to be a baby, this CANNOT be about what YOU want, it has to be about that the baby needs. You are 14, so you CANNOT POSSIBLY provide a baby with what it needs. I'll be as polite as I can here.. Pull your head out of your butt and start thinking!!

I feel deeply sad for you that there is something so deeply wrong with your life that you feel the need for unconditional love from a baby.... which incidently it is not capable of providing until it's about 4 or 5yrs old.

Make your own life first before creating another.

You aren't thinking realistically, rather with your young heart. Having a baby is not something anyone should do until they are able to support a baby financially and emotionally. This is not like getting a puppy ... it's a human being and a 24/7 responsibility. You will be a good parent some day, but in preparation for that -- finish school, get a career. You are a kid ... first things first.

What's with the baby thing. Do you have a job? Money saved? Do you own a car? Are you buying a house or property? Yes, those are things you need to get before the baby. You want it to die? How are you going to get it to the doctor without a car? How you going to keep it out of the rain if you can't pay rent? Have the baby. No one's saying no. But at 14 you KNOW you can't take care of it alone. You have to be able to take care of it alone.

Well you are going to be looking after this baby alone - you are 14 so your boyfriend would be in jail on a statutory rape charge. With his conviction and possibly being on the child sex offenders register he is going to find it difficult to get a job when he gets released. So money is going to be tight for some years to come - you won't have finished your education so you won't be able to get a well paid job easily either. Then, where will you live, how will you eat, what is this baby going to wear/play with....what future does your child have with a start like that in life? If your boyfriend is the same age as you he might get away without going to jail, but as soon as he gets a little older and his mates are off out at the weekend and having fun, do you REALLY think he is going to stay home and play dad? Get real, grow up and keep your knickers on for a few more years!

You'll have to define "Ready" for me. Do you have ... ...a Home? ...a Job? ...an abundant supply of Money? ...a Drivers' License? ...Access to affordable medical care? ...a Supportive partner (by that, meaning "partner with all of the above") ...the body of a 20 year old woman? If you can't answer most of those with a "yes", you're not even close to ready.

i think your nuts and need to grow up, therefor deffinatly not ready to take care of a child. 14 year olds want everything and will take care of it forever, yeah right, you know how mny young teenagers i have come accross that want a dog, cat etc they promise to take care of it but once the exitement wears off they are done with cleaning up its shit. to get pregnant accidently at 14 years old happens plain and simple and although a teenager should have prolly thought about protection once its done its done, but to actually want to get pregnant at 14 is just stupid. you have no way of taking care of a child and once you have it your stuck with it even if you change your mind.

At 14 it is almost guaranteed that you will be a crap parent. The only thing I can suggest is to read all you can about childcare, including the emotional and financial aspects, and then if you are confident that you can bring a child into this world and give it the upbringing it deserves, then go ahead.

Back a little over a hundred years ago you would most likely already be married and have at least one child by 14. Today our society has changed greatly but your body and desires haven't and there in is the difference. Our society is not geared today for young 14 year girls to have children. It is very difficult finacially as well as many other ways. Education and labor laws are two big hinderences to this. It just isn't acceptable by society to have children at 14. Today it is called, "Children haveing children" This is true because of the mind set of society. The age of marriage has risen from 12.5 years just over a hundred years ago to 26 or 27 today. This is mainly due to people pursuing higher education because of the complex society we have thus they delay marriage and child bearing. You feel ready to have a baby but babies grow into children and you have an 18 year commitment to a child. Remember this babies grow out of the cute cuddly babies that cry, pee and poop almost continously and want to eat all the time into fussy toddlers to children and into adulthood. so think about what I have said about having babies today...it isn't that it can't be done but that it just is very hard to do today and your bf will most likely NOT be around.

Riiiiiiiight....

Shiny, I am not going to speculate about "what is wrong with your life" that you want this (although ... I have often read that girls of your age wanting babies represents a control issue: having a baby that is totally dependent upon you lets you feel like "at last! a part of my life that I have control over" ... in your case? maybe yes, maybe no, but this is something to talk to a counselor about, and I hope you will). But with all of the psychology aside, you do need to think beyond what "you want", and think very long and very seriously about "what does the BABY want?" More important, what does the baby NEED? The baby needs two parents, with decent education and stable incomes and the emotional maturity to handle the 24/7 demands that it has for a warm and safe place to live (and someone paying for the rent and the heat, the water and the lights), feeding (and buying food), diaper-changing (and buying diapers) cleaning, sitting up through the night with colic and teething sometimes, answering every cry ... and so much more. They need doctor visits; surely you don't already have your own insurance, do you? My kids are in their mid-20s now, and I only vaguely recall the misery that my wife and I occasionally faced while they were in their infancy. And that's just a few months. They grow up, of course, and then they need clothes -- new clothes all the time as they grow -- and shoes, and still someone to watch them ALL the time. They need someone to help with their homework. How are you going to be prepared for that if you quit school now? How is your boyfriend going to be able to do anything like that when he's working his ass off (giving him the benefit of the huge doubt that he even sticks around) trying to make ends meet for you all? What will your boyfriend do for lovin' while you're taking care of his child? (Again, assuming he's not in jail for making you pregnant in the first place, or out of state and with a new girl.) Let me suggest that you do a lot of baby sitting. Do volunteer work as a candy-striper at a local hospital. See if you can assist at a daycare center, and if you do, take on the jobs that no one else wants, because THAT IS WHAT MOTHERS DO, day in and day out. Maybe you do some of this already. Baby sit for some sick children who are driving their mothers crazy with crying all night from colic and teething. Don't think that doesn't happen sometimes with nearly all babies. It will wear you out, and when you're the mom you can't just quit and go home. Realize that mothers don't usually get "time off" or just "once in awhile" babysitting jobs. That becomes their life. Read statistics on the cases of abused and neglected children. ( http://tinyurl.com/37x4ug ) Yes, I know that people of all ages abuse and neglect their children, but it is eye-opening to realize how many of those parents are ... kids. And even worse, how many of these kids, born to kids, grow up to be abusers themselves. I'm not trying to put you down or your desire. Wanting to be a mother is a wonderful thing, and I'll bet that when you're REALLY ready (educated, physically and emotionally mature, more experienced than you already are at taking care of babies and young children, and with a long-term and stable adult relationship with a man AND with an income, hopefully with insurance, too) that you'll be a great mother. Be patient -- something else you need TONS of with a baby! -- and prepare yourself before you try to take on this responsibility. You'll have a long life, and you have decades ahead of you when you can have a healthy baby. Plan and prepare for that.

Forget the baby and dump the boyfriend - not ready for either. You asked. +5

Your an idiot.

be my guest if you want to be woken up every 5 minutes and tending to his every need, plus changing diapers and getting hardly any sleep at all. and getting discriminated by people constantly

Yes you are so ready you are writing strangers on the internet to ask what they think? Grow a brain. I would rather die than have a mother like you. I want an adult that will be there and be responsible for me for the rest of my life, not some idiot who thinks I'm a doll to show off for attention. You have no idea what it is like to be a mother. Do you have a job? You are going to need one honey. This is not playing house. Do you even know how much it costs to feed and clothe a newborn for even one week? What about when your boyfriend gets tired of you when you are walking around with a belly full at about 7 months. Get a job.

Quickly, that means immediately, get help from a therapist.

Take up a sport, get a hobby, do charity work and make straight "A's". Then get back with me.

if this is real,your a real idiot.

k if you bring a child into the world at the age of 14 your gunna have to deal with social services child protective services and all those people seriously im 14 i wouldnt think of doing that to a child i want to wait so i can suport it instead of selling it for drugs, forgetting it at parties or dumping it on my parents take responsability and grow up a little i know im immiture but W.O.W i dont know you but dont be stupid

Actually, lots of 14 year old girls go through this.... just ask your classmates what their top baby names are, and see how many have lists. It's hormones. The thing is, you AREN'T READY for a baby. What I did during this stage was babysit a lot, it helped with the urge to have a baby.