IF your lifelong friend with whom you've slept in the same bed with before, showered at the gym with before , went skinny dipping with , etc. ... after 15 years comes and tells you He / She is Homosexual ; How do YOU react?
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ANSWERS: 34
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Just because he's attractive to men doesn't mean he's necessarily attracted to you. Just as you are not attracted to all women. Don't worry about it.
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I'd say cool, do you have any hot dates tonight?
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If it were me I would be turned on or neutral. I don't know how I would react if I were a homophobe; probably freak out and disown the person.
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"Fair play, aye. Want another beer?"
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If it was a guy I would ask him why he hasn't helped me dress better. If it's a female I would ask if I can watch. I don't have to participate, if they don't want me, but can I watch.
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I wouldn't mind at all :) +5
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Personally, I'd be supportive... I think it can do most men good to have a gay friend, gives you an alternative perspectave on things.
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I realize I've been too self-absorbed to notice a basic aspect of my 'best friend.'
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It wouldn't make much difference if it were a lifelong friend; if they were telling me that they were attracted to me we could have an awkward moment when I spelt out that I would never see my friend in that way. It wouldn't change the friendship though. Equally, I have guy friends who if they told me were attracted to me I would say the same thing to. It makes no difference!
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Er, why should I care? Not in the sense of "I don't want to know anything about you," more in the sense of, why would it bother me? I guess I'd shrug and congratulate them on coming out...
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Sleeping in the same bed is an acceptable idea
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I would ask why he hadn't trusted me enough to tell me years ago.
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Hopefully you can both just be open about how you feel and realize there is 2 sides to the story. :)
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DANG SPARKY! I KNEW IT! WHAT TOOK YOU SO DAMN LONG TO TELL ME?....I'M OUT! (but I'm not gonna out you!)
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+ hit the road jack
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if you are a woman and your friend is a woman and you both are compatible, good looking, and have big boobs I would suggest you make love on film and send me the sex tape. the kinkier the better.
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honestly, it makes no difference whatsoever to me. ( for all i kno i maybe one too someday :P jk)
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I wouldn't mind. I'd wonder why he/she hadn't told me before. If this friend was a she, I'd ask if she was attracted to me, and if the answer was no, I'd continue on behaving as normal. If the answer was yes, I'd take a moment to assess the situation. I don't think I'd be willing to enter a relationship with this person, as I already have a partner, and I'd be honest about this and tell them so, so that they wouldn't be holding any false hope. Then, I'd ask if continuing our friendship as it was would make things too awkward for them. If the answer was no, I'd continue our friendship as before, if the answer was yes, I'd modify my behaviour.
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Its happened to me. I never really cared but I took a lot of crap from the rest of my friends.
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It would DEFINITELY change the dynamics of our friendship! I WOULDN'T want a close "personal" friendship with a lesbian but it DOESN'T mean I would mistreat them or ignore them if they were around. I just wouldn't want to "hang" with them! I wouldn't be angry, either, if they (after 15yrs of closeness) told me they were gay! Maybe they DIDN'T know it all along or were too "shy" to admit it!
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I would ask why he or she tells me this now, after 15 years of friendship, since I'm not exactly the person who would have a problem with someone's sexuality. So, this friend must have been through a lot of inner confusion. We would probably have a long talk about it and I would be very happy that the closet is open. For me, his/her honesty would only strengthen the friendship.
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Wow you hid that pretty well!
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Wouldn't bother me. After that many years, if they hadn't taken advantage of situations, then there would be no reason for me to see them any different.
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It wouldn't bother me because I'm not a homophobe and I don't dislike people because of their sexuality. Also they obviously don't find me attractive since they had about a million opportunities to hit on me and never did so I have even less reason to be uncomfortable.
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I've actually been on the opposite end of that situation. Well, sort of. We weren't lifelong friends, but we were very close. She went to absurd lengths to be supportive. I'm sure that I would do the same if the roles were reversed, considering I have been through the same experience.
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I've been there kind of. I only found out after he moved out of our neighbourhood when I ran into him at a club. He was all made up and with his gay friends. I think we both were in too much shock to say anything. I never saw him again. I felt kind of betrayed that he never told me. People used to tease him about being gay but he denied it and I believed him.
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unsurprised, and hope to hold our relationship with an even deeper regard, on both ends.male or female, its a lifelong friend, so, so what, really?...
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"And you're just telling me now?" "Who says you can't keep a secret!" "Want to go get lunch?" My friends sex life is none of my business and mine is none of hers. That's a prefect arrangement as far as I'm concerned.
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I wouldn't really give a crap. I would just be pushing him towards guys instead of girls when we're out lol. Our relationship wouldn't change unless his entire personality did. +3
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I would be really clueless if I my lifelong friend had to TELL me this. What kind of friend doesn't know? Not very close I'll wager or you are one clueless dudesicle. If you are hinting that you were in sexual trouble with him then you aren't reading this right because if you don't know, obviously he was not hitting on you and is not attracted to straight men. (don't bother with the she stuff, I'm less clueless than that.)
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By not caring too much about their grand announcement.
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ahh avec moi
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"uh, SWEET well you want to hang out tonight?" For Sure "Alright well you can the couch ill sleep on the floor!"
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By being turned on and intrigued enough to ask if his coming out to me was meant as an advance, and if so, take it to the next level.
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