Is there a polite or kind way to tell someone "The universe does not owe you anything?"
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I don't know how polite this is, but I like to tell people "Get overy yourself!" That usually gets my point across!
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'Sometimes you need to work or put effort in to get what you want' Although some people take time to find this out for themselves!
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Sometimes people are so self-centered and involved that they may not hear what you say to them, but I would try, "You need to work for what you want."
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Yes! Whenever I want to point out a person's flawed position,(as I see it), on a personal stance they have taken, I join them first.i.e. "You know that's funny you should ask",or," I really know where you're coming from, I used to feel the exact same way, but a very wise person once told me...... and lately I've been coming around to this view. What do you think?" It's nonconfrontational and shows that you are not trying to belittle them but share something of yourself honestly. All of which most level-headed persons will respect and to which they will repond positively.
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the were no promisses made to you when you were born.
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Yes there are ways to say it politely; but, most people who are under this impression usually don't respond to polite advice and often need a good kick in the pants to get the point.
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I don't think one comes to accept that position as truth by being counseled from someone that such is indeed the case. So it would be a fruitless venture altogether. Unfortunately, we can all think of examples, from the cast of characters in our own lives, who hold such a belief. It can be a deeply rooted, central part of their personality. These are the folks who boo hoo and obsess on the past. Their stories usually go: "If only I'd received the [money, love, respect, attention, promotion, job, etc] that I DESERVED, and was fully DUE!!! Then I wouldn't be this mess I am now." Polite or not, I don't know how one's words can, figuratively, smack someone hard enough to knock them out of such an irrational and counter-productive world view.
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"Life is not fair"?
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I am sure there is, but I am not inclined to come up with any. The Universe doesn't owe them tact, nor does it have to respect anybody's feelings. This is doubly true for those that feel a sense of entitlement, that the Universe DOES owe them. I find it touching that you have the compassion to actually ask a question like this though. It gives me just a smidgin of faith in humanity. It's like a small dollop of Vaseline easing the discomfort of this boning we call "life".
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I would ask them what the have done so far that they feel hasn't worked for them. Then ask them what they have done that has worked for them. I would then suggest they do more of what has worked for them.
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the more you put into it, the more you will get out of it.
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Usually when someone's acting like the universe owes them a favour I tend to respond with something along the lines of "Well why not do something about it then?" So if someone's moaning that they can't afford to buy a house because of today's rocketing proces you explain to them that everyone else is in the same boat and the best they can do if it's that important is get a better job, cut back on luxuries and save up. I think people tend to respond better to suggestions of how they can help themselves, rather than just being told to stop moaning. Of course, some people just enjoy ghaving a good moan, and the best response is to leave the room and come back whenh they've finished. They probably won't notice you've gone.
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....."and neither do I. Get moving".
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You can't tell a liberal. The handout mentality is too ingrained.
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