It's a fact that, not all women like sex and not all women have, what you describe as, "more requirements". Granted that the majority need to feel in the comfort zone, in other words they need to trust the man they are with which is even more important than finding him attractive.

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Some women don't have more requirements than men, they're ready to get down and dirty. Most women I've encountered are not like this, however. They need assurance that the man won't pack up and leave as soon as the deed is done. They need assurance that the man involved cares about them a lot, and they need to have their confidence built up.

It is possible for a man to become aroused and have an orgasm within 30 seconds. This is not possible for most women, however.

Women are the ones that bear the greatest burden of a sexual encounter. It is only natural that they would be the more discerning gender. The biological drive of the male is to spread his DNA as far as possible. The biological drive of the female is to ensure her offspring have the best DNA available. All you need to do to drive the women wild is show that your DNA is the best. ^_^

It begins in the brain/imagination for women Suby. I expect it begins in the groin for men. That's the difference. If a woman's mind is unengaged, it is hopeless. If she's with her guy mentally the sky's the limit. It takes time for most women. I think it must be instant for most men. That's where the difference between loving a woman and just wanting sex comes in. A woman knows if her man loves her or just "wants" her. Any animal can want any animal. Loving, however, means putting the loved one first. :)

Women don't have any more requirements than 1. those they ALLOW others to impose upon them, and 2. whatever impositions they impose upon themselves.

It could perhaps be something in the genes. They are the children-bearers and therefore have a stronger responsibility to care for the children and urge to nurture them and keep them safe from harm, according to nature. So maybe, even subconsciously, they have to take more care and think things out a bit deeper. Be a bit more cautious. Just my basic thinking.

Put yourself in her shoes.. Did she have a crappy day? does her job suck? Is she scared of getting pregnant? Is she 100% sure that you'll be there for her if she does? Most women need to be very relaxed to enjoy sex- There are a million things that go through their heads, and some women can rarely let themselves get into that zone. Do what you can to put her worries at ease.

genuine feelings

Well for starters the approach has a critical impact. Passion is another often needed requirement. Feed our emotions and our desire rises to no limit.

Women have more requirements because they have more to lose. They need to feel that they can trust you.

One of the requirements is the right timing of the day. When I would agree to make love when about 10 things are going on, like the cake in the oven is almost done, the neighbor will ring the bell soon to bring me something or similar - I would not be able to concentrate on my hubby or on my body. What I would find very stimulating would be hints for the happenings in the evening, a long kiss ( could be over my cooking), a loving remark, my hubby observing me with attention and laughing eyes or touching me. With other words: to bring me in that mood. I heard from my female friends that sudden sex wishes turn them off, I agree. Having time and leisure for it is the best stimulus. Men have to work a little to fully arouse us, like the animals in the wild, they stalk females all day long to get them to be ready - finally - like wild tigers. RRRRRRrrrrrrrr............

Women. . . . .especially MATURE women. . . . .need to feel safe, an attraction of the man AS A WHOLE, and a degree of reciprocity in "interest" (beyond just a one night stand)! For myself, personally, I need to feel a MENTAL attraction to the person FIRST; then a "physical" attraction; then a "connection" that the relationship will POSSIBLY move BEYOND just a "one night stand"! If I thought FOR A SECOND a man just wanted a "one night stand" I slip PAST him like butter! NO WAY! NO HOW! NOT INTERESTED! So. . . .for women as a whole. . . .there are so many OTHER variables than just SEX involved! And the OLDER they get. . . .the HARDER it is for them to just "give it up" 'cause they're WAY TOO SMART for ANY guy's machinations! And THAT'S a "fact"!

This is why it is rather a tricky question.

In my case, I need to absolutely and totally trust the guy 100% before letting him completely inside me. I need to feel safe with him. I need to feel like he cares about me and respects me and isn't just after a "piece of ass". I need to feel that he understands me. I need to feel protected. I need to feel like he is not only interested in sex with me. I need to have a mental/emotional attraction to him. If even one of these things are missing, it's so very easy to just turn me off completely. To have sex with a guy is to let him inside me. My body rejects guys I do not completely trust as I've learned. Sometimes I wonder if it would be easier to have a penis, because you don't have to worry about a guy pushing his way inside you. Then again, I remember that people like me have had trouble letting at least one guy completely inside. Other guys, I've just totally avoided letting them try at all. I feel that sex has become "expected". It also causes me to feel like total trash after I actually have certain experiences. Simple language used in mainstream society basically says that guys get more out of sex than girls do. When guys have sex, they are "getting some". When girls have sex, they are "giving it up". Where is the respect for girls there?

Well...of course women love sex. And they require more becuase it takes more for them to get ready. Sure its easy for a dude to get a hard on and thats it. BUT for a woman and for it to be pleasurable it has to get wet, and usuaully it to like a penis will swell up. If you begin sex before that, its not gonna be that great...its gonna be dry, hurt, and the sensation wont be much. So...to turn a woman on all she needs is some forplay...or something to get the engines...and the (parts) flowing. But once its ready, all will be swell. Just kiss her, feel her, rub her, run your hands through her hair...kiss her belly...her theighs, behind her knees...(her toes)...and go down on it alittle bit, and do some "come here" finger action. Its pretty simple. Men should already know all this, they cant just expect a woman to want them to just jump right in without doing anything first. Sure you can buy lube...but then the anticipation and stimulation isnt really there...is just wet, and you just do it. soo...just give alittle and in the end, im sure youll get alot.

Most of women take sex more serious than men. As for me I can’t just sleep with every guy I like, I will feel like a slut. I will sleep with a guy who can be my potential regular sexual partner or boyfriend/husband. Most of the girls don’t like one night stands, even though they like sex much. For men it’s different, most of them think – the more the better.

Humor, sexy threats by email, blind folds, tickling or wresting and massages are sure fire ways to rev her engine. If all else fails....chocolate cake!!

they do?

Older women who are hormonal don't need as much to enjoy it. We're ready for it all the time. Although, being treated badly will turn me off pretty quickly.

The Gettysburg Address should be recited in an strong,manly voice....I wouldn't settle for less!

I don't think women have more requirements before they can feel a desire for it. I think guys just want it more and women use that to their advantage to get their guys to do and/or buy something nice for them.