Is it normal for a 16 year old girl to have a crush on a 59 year old man? The girl and the man are both my neighbors and I know what is going on. The girl says she is in love and wants to marry him. The man is divorced and loves the girl as his daughter.
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Have you seen The Girls Next Door....? Something attracts some young girls to older men. Aside from joking about how weird it is in front of her, going to her parents is probably the only option.
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Well, its not exactly normal, but then again it's not exactly rare either. Young girls often get crushes on older men. What matters is that the older man should be adult & responsible, not encourage it, & not take advantage. In this situation I'd get the parents involved.
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Sure it is, this happens when there is no father figure in a girls life. What she thinks is "in love" is security.
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As long as he keep it to "she is like a daughter to me' and dont start with 'funny' stuff!!!! +4
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You only have to look at the questions on here to know that relationships with huge age gaps are not uncommon. However, this sounds like a one sided relationship - she thinks she is in love and he thinks she is like a daughter to him. If you are able to speak to him honestly about the situation you might want to suggest that he speaks with her parents and makes it clear that he does not want a sexual relationship with the girl before someone else decides that it is wrong and he gets accused of things he hasn't done and has no intention of doing. Equally you might want to tell her that she needs to be careful who she tells about her infatuation with this man.
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Yes, it's normal. It's not our choice with whom we fall in love. However, the 16 year-old girl's extreme immaturity is obvious, and she cannot make an informed decision about her future. The 59 year-old guy - knowing about the girl's infatuation - has a duty to spend NO time with her alone.
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Fairly rare yes, but it does happen. My sweetheart is 19 and I am 70. We are very much in love and hopefully will be married before very long. Our relationship started in July and is getting stonger all the time! True love does not know age.
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This man needs to be Sat down and talked to. The girl also needs to be sat down and talked to. I really think she needs a Father figure and is finding this in this man but she is twisting it around as being Love. This can lead to bad things and needs to be stopped before people get hurt or worse. They both need to understand that in this day and age this wont be looked upon as a good thing.:) ☼
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This can be quite dangerous for the man..not sure where you live so I don't know the legal age of consent there.. 16 is very young and its natural for teenagers to have crushes..however the man of 59 will have to be careful here as the girl's family may be unhappy about the idea..if he loves as a daughter he should make that clear to her and her family..
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