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by Anonymous on November 10th, 2009
You never do. It's just a matter of sucking it up and doing it anyway. That's been me for over 40 years. +5
by Anonymous T on November 10th, 2009
Being prepared.
If You are million percent sure
You know everything and can predict
and answer all questions, there will
be no problem. If that is possible.
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If not, then just be prepared to say:
"I don't know." You won't get killed.
by Emmi331 on November 10th, 2009
Actually, a little fear before making a speech is not a bad thing: it energizes the speaker and that carries over into the actual speech. Once you are up there and get started, you should be okay. It's just that darned anticipation!
I've done a lot of speaking, and the nerves are natural. Once I'm underway, I start to enjoy myself.
If you truly have terrible nerves or stage fright, there is a medication that can help with this, but you'd have to ask your dr.
Best of luck!
by kidatheartandsoul on November 10th, 2009
Practiced in front of a mirror,and thanI picked a barelly visible person and pictured it was my double,and delivered speach to me.(I regularly discuss things with myself.)
by OttoZone on November 10th, 2009
two words-JIM BEAM
by the gun man on November 10th, 2009
valium,kratom,alcohol.heroine,cocaine,crack,amphetamines,i would take one of the first 3
by Oor Galooly - on November 10th, 2009
I'd say exactly the same thing, Jim Beam, or a few whiskey shots.
Also, being well prepared and knowing exactly what you are going to say will help ALOT.
In fact, when I had to public speak, only focus on the first minute or so, make that go perfectly and tell yourself the rest will just all into place. Like you are writing an essay orally, get the thesis out and let the rest just come naturally.
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Please read any comments I made before you make a decision about being a friend. I have made no judgments. You saw my profile.
by anon on November 10th, 2009
I know you're angry, and I would be too, just as I stated in my profile. On three different threads, I pleaded with the people to not do anything, say anything, etc., and that the first person with a suspicion should ask you first before posting anything. You were not given a fair chance. They ignored me and got heated all over again. This is my gripe how I was treated in my profile. You have one friend if you accept it or ask me again as you did before.
by anon on November 10th, 2009
I hope you read this. Here are my comments in that long, nasty thread:
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by anon on November 10th, 2009
Anonymous Nov, 10 2009 at 01:49 PM
Pumpkin, I Assumed you were the DR. If wrong, I apologize. I am a software nut and actually have 2 IPs on my computer and know how to set it up for other states, and I know how to go through other IPs as well. I haven't worked with other countries, but the more I think about it, it would be interesting to do that.
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Say everything you say is 100% correct. Wouldn't you prefer someone explain themselves, than accuse them and let everyone else know what your accusations are about on AB, before that person has a chance to explain? I've already been treated like s**t (read my profile) and I don't like the negativity. Let's hear what Tom says first if he wishes to share and why.
Anonymous Nov, 10 2009 at 02:05 PM
Everyone, I'm still thinking how I might go through a computer IP to accomplish that, since I do it in the states. I would have to learn a lot for other countries.
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BUT doesn't Tom deserve to be asked before we post all over AB and a huge poster on the AB home page, MAJOR TOM IS A LIAR. HE'S REALLY A PLUMBER/JANITOR/MEDIC...IN MISSISSIPPI/ARUBA/BERMUDA.
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Let's see what he says first, that's all.
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Anonymous Nov, 10 2009 at 02:20 PM
Brian, very objective. I know many, including me, poured their heart out, but when it comes down to it, what you said is true. I just wish that the first person who felt there was fraud and taking people on an internet ride (and I don't care who it is) had approached MT first before throwing it all out there. I'll stop, I'm repeating myself.
by anon on November 10th, 2009
They did to you what I had happen to me. Talk about out-of-control emotions. I said before I was honored to have you as a friend and I haven't changed. I will stop begging if you are serious.
by anon on November 10th, 2009
Are you the anonymous from the Mensan mess?
by Arisztid on November 10th, 2009
yes, and you were the only who apologized who did nothing wrong at all. I told Big Daddy that I respected you so much.
by anon on November 10th, 2009
In case you are, a word of advice: if you are concerned with something, contact a CL. I had to contact a CL twice in the Mensan thread to get it stopped.
by Arisztid on November 10th, 2009
Well thankyou.
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Mensan is a good guy.
by Arisztid on November 10th, 2009
No problems with Mensan. Maybe I should have contacted a CL. I guess I was in shock seeing it happen to someone else. No one gave him a chance, mob-mentality.
by anon on November 10th, 2009
No one gave me any chance to explain about the Philippine server. It was set up over 7 months ago when I was there. It worked satisfactorily, so I never changed it. I use a satellite link, so location is irrelevant. I used my authority to black the Anderson PRO from releasing any info on the accident. If this is the kind of friendship you offer then F*CK YOU. I have unsubsribed from all threads I know of, remaining on AB only to answer factual questions. I have no desire to communicate socially with any of you. All who e-mailed me with personal info- those files are now deleted. I have erased my entire friends list and will refuse all requests from henceforth. F*CK OFF and let me grieve in peace. I remain on AB only to answer factual questions and will no longer respond to any social inquiry.
by Anonymous on November 10th, 2009
TOM, YOU HAVE SUPPORT JUST FOR YOU RIGHT HERE!!!! VAPO AND I ARE HERE FOR YOU!!! WE CARE!!! YOU HAVEN'T READ OUR COMMENTS AND HAVE GROUPED US IN THE MOB. DON'T DO WHAT THE MOB IS DOING. I WOULD BE ANGRY TOO AND HAVE BEEN TREATED THE SAME WAY, BUT WITHOUT THE HORRIFIC CIRCUMSTANCES
by anon on November 10th, 2009
Stop lying - I gave you that chance --> http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/7723985
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The truth --> will come out
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by Lonely - Rebel - AYPWIP on November 11th, 2009
Before I unsubscribe , I also checked your feedback - to be sure you did not unsubscribe
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--> it showed you received my comment (i.e comment in link above)
by Lonely - Rebel - AYPWIP on November 11th, 2009
I went to sleep after burying my beloved, thinking I had friends. I woke up, signed on and found myself faced by a virtual lynch-mob. It shows the shallow herd mentality that exists on this site. All of the questions raised can be very simply answered and I have given those answers to a select few. My response to all of you generally is that I was given no chance to explain anything, merely convicted by mob rule. I refuse to answer to such treatment. I offer only hatred and defiance. Hatred is a simple emotion, easy to deal with; one does not have to wonder who "friends" are if one considers all as enemies. I will remain on this site, a thorn in your collective sides, until thrown off. I thought I had found friendship here, but was sorely deceived. Screw all of you.
by Anonymous on November 11th, 2009
You had the chance - I came directly to the horse mouth
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--> I proved my friendship
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You do not have the power, to be a thorn in my side
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Hatred, defiance, and immaturity --> puts you on my ignore list
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I have said my peace - time to put this to bed --> end of thread
by Lonely - Rebel - AYPWIP on November 11th, 2009
Wonder why all my comments are gone from here? Hmmm AB rewrites history again. why don't they just erase it all instead of leaving up one side?
by Pumpkin Etoile on November 11th, 2009
I don't know. I wish they would remove everything regarding MT and PB him. Contact a CL and they might. I don't want to deal with this anymore.
by anon on November 11th, 2009
You are a good person, Anon Newbie.
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Here is some advice from an oldtimer: when something gets to you, unsubscribe from the threads and develop selective vision. By now I have managed to have my eyes skip over questions, answers, and activity in my profile from people I know are out to annoy me. My mind also skips over types of questions that annoy me. If they are flooding the page, I do something else for awhile.
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It is much less aggravating that way.
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Also, I am a firm supporter and practitioner of hiatuses. I take frequent breaks, from long to short.
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This also drops my aggravation.
by Arisztid on November 11th, 2009
And you are so right and wise. It appeared that anyone who tried to calm people down, just got them more worked up. Once again, I am shocked how people condemned without questioning first. And we wonder why our justice is an injustice system. Arisztid, when I first suspected anything last week (I told you the 2 big tipoffs), I already knew my sentiments were not meant for him in what I had written and cared. I was wondering how far he was going to take this. Now we'll never know or why.
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The only lessons I've learned are that there remain a lot of irrational and emotional ABers, who jump on the train that is wrecking AND let them be that way because they are not going to listen to anything with a voice of reason. I cared too much that they approached things with a level head and give time a chance. Jaded? Yes, I'm getting there.
by anon on November 11th, 2009
With the DreAnna factor, it is not to be unexpected. It is easy to say "take one instance and judge that," however, humankind does not work that way. DreAnna was one instance out of many. We recently had another minor incident where someone built an uber sexy "Native American" persona, pictures included. Someone found that he was stealing a known NA actor/model's pictures.
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Once a rat is sniffed, digging commences. I sniffed a couple of rats right from the start but I, myself, did not care enough to dig.
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I have learned to say little in such things because it only fuels the fire. I say a little, if anything, and let it burn out. The ONLY ones who can calm someone down are the CLs and staff.
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You can be jaded and still care about people. I manage to because I have a "switch" in my mind due to that first con job in the early 2000's and years of internet stalking that has turned friend after friend against me. When someone turns out to be pulling a con or a friend turns on me, the switch flips and they become immediately inconsequential.
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My Lady has seen it happen and it frightens her.
by Arisztid on November 11th, 2009
Ariszid, thank you so much for sharing. You have taught me a lot since I first came on board. Please share whenever. Lucky you get to be a Mentor.
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I understand what you say about being jaded -- it has to be a switch, or we could never care or love. I look at it like studying a criminal when I worked in the legal system. His/her hostility or not, says everything about them. When I have questions or suspicions, I do believe in trying to clarify before jumping to negative conclusions (seen today and yesterday). The person will let us know what he/she is like soon enough.
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What surprises me more is some of the high school cliquish behavior. I mean, take me back to being as immature and ridiculous as possible. And I know they can't all be under 18.
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No respect for back-stabbing friends. It bothers me that anyone would do that to you. But it teaches me.
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May you have a romantic good night with your Lady.
by anon on November 11th, 2009
Eh I am just a guy on the 'bag, hardly a mentor but thankyou. :)
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I had to because I have, due to the stalking, had more knives jabbed in my back than I can count. The switch is a survival mechanism, not one I recommend if you can avoid it.
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It would have been nice if he had been confronted calmly but, well, given the dynamics as I explained them, I am not surprised. I just do not contribute. Of course, once I smelled the rat, the switch flipped and I stopped caring other than to help my friends.
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High school cliquish behaviour? It is everywhere, including real life.
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My Lady is in a lot of pain tonight so no sleep for us yet. Or more. :P
by Arisztid on November 11th, 2009
Is she okay?
by anon on November 12th, 2009
Just every day stuff.
by Arisztid on November 12th, 2009
What was everyday stuff for me that fit that definition were cramps. Got so bad, had to have it taken care of. I hope she is okay, everyday stuff makes life miserable.
by anon on November 12th, 2009
We do not have healthcare despite my working.
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I am going to die young from a treatable heart condition. She is going to be crippled and in agony due to a treatable medical condition.
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I do not state this for sympathy. It is just the facts.
by Arisztid on November 12th, 2009
No! Can you just go in an emergency room? SSI and food stamps to help out? Aristid, I'm in the middle of benefits right now. If Mexicans (and I'm not picking on them, I mean any non-US-citizen) were there and I'm out of a job, I took it to the regional manager, and started getting benefits. I'm still in the middle of the mess. It takes more energy than anything else. I can hear the love between the two of you.
by anon on November 12th, 2009
We have done all we can, chased down every lead... we fall between all of the cracks. Please just trust me when I say that we have chased down every lead. I really do not feel like typing it all out.
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You cannot live your life in the ER. All ERs do is stabilize and send you home with a prescription you cannot afford and a reference to a specialist you cannot afford.
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I am not fighting anymore, Keysha's fight has met with utter failure but we are still trying if any leads present themselves. I am very well connected with people who know the system, they have exhausted their resources, but are still looking.
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No more.
by Arisztid on November 12th, 2009
I trust you. I understand. It is not fair, especially when they are treatable.
by anon on November 12th, 2009
Thankyou. :)
by Arisztid on November 12th, 2009