No just different.

I would not say "wrong" but it is going to have some effects on your relationship later. My husband and I are 7 years different and that has been an issue more than once. but if it was mean to be who knows what can happen.

You are obviously of legal age to date anyone you wish. But, at this stage in your life 18 years of experience is a big difference. All sorts of studies have found that having common interests and similar backgrounds help keep couples together, so you can see how and where you might run into difficulty. Although I can see problems built into a relationship with an 18 yr age difference, I also know that life is short and we should take happiness where we can find it for as long as we can find it.

Red flags going up here. As an 18 year old, it has got to feed your ego to have someone more mature interested in you. In the long run, where could this relationship go? There is a world of difference between 18 and 36.

Talk to your mom about it and see what she say's

It just raises questions over the mental health of the 36 yr old.

I'm 37 and I have a son who is just about to be 19. The thought of dating one of my son's friends would horrify me. Now if you were 36 and wanted to date a person aged 54 I'd say go for it. There is a vast difference between you at your young age, whereas the difference matters less later in life.

There is no age limit on true Love, and if you really want to know, you are not alone, go to agelesslove.com many are in the same circumstance as you, including myself.There is absolutely nothing wrong with it as long as you are legal.

Not really, if it's Ok for Pavaroti.

You're 18, do you have any friends who are dating 12 year olds? Would that be "wrong?" If they were, would you say "wow, that 12 year old sure is mature? Or would you say - that 18 year old sure is messed up?

I would just have to say, what is wrong with this 36 year old man does he not have someone in his own age catagory to date, why would he go for a girl that is half his age. If you were my daughter, I would steer you away from this situation.

Im 18 and I date a 33 year old and i say that proudly. Hes good to me. But like most relationships you have your ups and downs

To each their own, but I do not think it would be the smartest move.

It's not wrong in the sense there's nothing illegal or immoral about it. That said, there's a vast -- vast -- gap between one's life experience at 18 and one's life experience at 36. I'm not sure what kind of permanency a relationship like this would have, as the 36-year old can pretty much converse only on the level of an 18-year old. But love is funny...you never know what might come of it.

nothing wrong with that, just make sure you put out

i think that if the person makes you happy and makes you feel like you have something there then you should date the 36 year old.to me age really doesnt matter but i also go for looks too, but if you feel it then do it.

Hey, if you want to date someone old enough to be your parent, go for it. But, I have to question their maturity level. Tell me why an 18 year old would want to date a 36 year old? I know why the old person wants the younger one (trophy!) but vice versa??

It would be quite unusual, but I do not think it is wrong.

Been there, done that (she was considerably older than me). Now I look back at it and I really wonder "What was I thinking?" But until I snapped back to reality, I couldn't see it. Be wary.

Wrong no..wise also no.

No whats wrong with that if your both happy???Go for it your of legal age so whats the problem?

Wrong? I think it's weird. I can't imagine you two having much in common (other than the 36 year old thinking you are REALLY hot because you're 18). You wanna base a relationship on that? Ponder it for a while.

When I was 29, I dated a 19 year old (who acted mature for her age). After we broke up, I decided I would never again date a girl/woman whose age was smaller than her waist size. At that age, a girl/woman doesn't really know what she wants, she only knows what she doesn't want.

I wouldn't say "wrong". Just a tad unseemly.

not wrong but i'm curious what you have in common.

im dating a 35 year old and im almost 18, so when he's 36, i'll be 18, and we have a good relationship. so no, i don't think it's wrong. as long as your happy, and it's what you want, go for it.

its not wrong to do it since your 18,which is legaly a adult.and theres nothing wrong with it either. so if you want to date a 36 year old go ahead

I'm 21 and dating a 35 year old i think if you both have things in common and are mentally mature then go for it. If they make you happy it doesnt matter about age. But just a small warning sometimes it can be difficult esp. as they have more life experience and you're still learning and experiencing new things. But if you have a good partner they'll let you experience things for yourself even if they've gone passed that stage. eg. wanting to go to clubs. Good luck

Yes.

A lot of growing up occurs between the ages of 18 and 25. Unless you have assumed a greater load of responsibility for your age, I don't think it is the best idea. I know how I thought and what I wanted when I was 18 is very different to what want now (I'm 23). I am a bit more independent than most women my age, but when I was 18, despite how mature I was always told I was, I look back now and think what a silly girl I was. Enjoy being a kid. There is no rush to grow up too fast.

Go for it. You have the upperhand anyway, so ..... Unless you are really unattractive, in a wheelchair, got aids, got knocked up by him or whatever, your chances of hooking up with someone else are 5 to 7 times better than his. You breaking his heart is gonna happen a lot sooner than vice versa, unless he wanna beat you to the punch. Just make sure you are financially independent from him. He will want kids, for good reasons, but this also makes you dependant on him. If you're happy to be a housewife at 19, with lotsa kids, then rrrrrreally go for it. But if you don't ...

sweetie Im seventeen, Ive had too many relationships. All my friends laugh because I go for older guys. When I was 15 my boyfriend was 20, my parents were the only people who thought bad of it - just because they didnt like him. [It could be wrong seenas I was under the legal age for sex and he wasnt, but I was with him for 6 months almost and didnt sleep with him] Then I was 16 my next boyfriend was almost 23, my parents loved him and it worked for a while. I had a boyfriend then who was 15 when I was still 16. Now Im 17 and so's my boyfriend. Age is just a number. Older people seem to look down upon it, but you can't help who you fall for or are attracted too. It happens. Hope I helped.

I am 19 and my boyfriend is 37. I don't think that age really matters, it's about maturity. We have never come across and age barrier that couldn't be torn down and rebuilt even better. We have everything in common and we are now talking about marriage. The point is this... don't take what other people say or think into consideration, if you love him and it feel right... go for it. Screw everyone else... if they don't like it, tough shit. It's your life, not theirs. Screw 'em.

There's nothing wrong as long as you really feel comfortable with it. I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 42. We've been together for 9 months and our love is stronger than ever. Love isn't blocked by age or appearance. Maturity is different for everyone too. Obviously if you are twelve and you want to date someone who's 18 it's stupid because the twelve year old hasn't gotten through puberty or even hit it. The point is, it really isn't all that different than dating someone who's 20 except for the superficial things. Who says that all older men are with you because of your body? Does that mean that 20 year olds are less likely to do that? A relationship is a personal thing. Listen to your heart and yourself, not social rules.

yes its wrong. b/c no 36 wants to be in a long term relationship with a 18 year old unless their is something wrong with him b/c he can't get anyone else his own age. it sounds like i have a closed mine but i don't i very much opened to almost anything...but this no ...it'll do more harm then good.

I would have to say its not a good idea. An 18 year old is still growing and needs protection and education not such a mature adult relationship.

Wait until you are 21 and he is 39. If he has any feeling for you, he'll wait.

I was 16 when I was with a 36 year old. In the end he only wanted sex. I don't remeber how it ended, but I don't remeber careing too much. Just stopped accepting advances from such older men, no matter how attracted I was.

damn. taht's a big age diffrence, i 'm kinda in the same situation exept he's 28.. but reading everyone's comments made merealized something... the whole thing was a complete mistake.

its not right its illegal its forbidden

Ew. Twice your age? Why?

if you like each other why not ive had a relationship with an age gap and i think its quite common now

You are an adult under the law, so no one can really STOP you. But a smart young lady would sit down and think and ask herself... why would a man almost 40 years old be messing around with a teenage girl that could be his daughter? That is the hard question such a young woman should ask and she should look at such a guy with a critical eye and analyze what he is thinking and what he wants to get out of her. She should ask why he is not dating more age-appropriate, stage-of-life appropriate women. Once she does that, she will know that this guy is up to no good and she would not fall for the okey doke and get herself caught up in a messy situation with some old pervert.

I'm 17, and I'll be 18 in April of 2009. I started talking to this 34 year old guy last year, and we still talk. There are times where we talk almost everyday, and we always seem to have things to talk about. He is non-judgmental, has a character that is both strong and sensitive, very honest and spiritual, can be funny and makes me laugh, and he's NOT at all controlling. He's very interesting, and having conversations with him, I find to be very intellectually stimulating. You could say that I'm attracted him not only physically, but also mentally, and more and more emotionally as time goes on. I'm very interested in starting a relationship with him, but we both decided to wait and just be friends until I'm 18, only because it's the law. He's actually more insecure about the age difference than I am. It doesn't bother me one bit, and I have to remind him of that from time to time. One thing that he did several months ago is when we were chatting online, I wrote him something that was sexual in nature or pertaining to sex, and he replied back and said, "Hey, I don't want to come across as being uptight or anything, but do you mind that we not talk or chat about such things for now?" When I later asked him about that, he told me that he didn't want to even go there with me because he wanted to prove and show that he was a good guy with no ill intentions, and simply wanted to be as respectful as he possibly can towards me. Anyways, if the law was different, I would "go for it" now. He seems more concerned about the age difference than I am. I doesn't bother me at all. I find it insulting that the law butts into our personal business and relationships, and just assumes that I would be incapable of handling a relationship with an older man, and/or assumes he would only be into me for the wrong reasons. I find that to be much more true with the males that are around my age. I know that I'm beyond that, and I just don't want to be bothered by that kind of drama and nonsense that goes with dating a guy that's around my age. People make stupid comments like, "what can you guy's possibly have in common other than sex?" or when he was graduating high school, you weren't even born yet!" It's about what is happening NOW. And as far as having things in common, everything can be worked through, met half way, and compromised on. The only thing that is truly important is having things in common with what you value in life, as well as what your overall goals and standards are. It's mostly about having RESPECT for each other. You have to give each individual a chance to prove themselves. We actually had a conversation about that, about how people try to control others in relationships. He said that he hopes that I'm always comfortable to be myself when around him or talking to him. He also said that he would give his advice ONLY if I asked him for it. And then he went one step further and said that it's up to me as to whether or not I wanted to take his advice and use it, and he wouldn't be mad if I didn't use it. Now does that sound like a guy who's controlling? Definitely, NOT!

no offence, but i think that's just messed up. a 36 year old shouldn't even be dating someone who isnt even legal yet. you're young enough to be his daughter. and i believe that even if you think things will work out now, it's hard to be in a relationship with someone who's going through a different phase in life than you.

Remember that we are in an information age. All kind of information, is very easily accesible to everybody now. So know matter what your age is, we are all with the resources and more capability to explore and learn things not only at a quicker rate, but also at the same rate as each other, regardless of a person's age. This phenomenon isn't age discriminatory. Yes, you may argue that this isn't as important as life experiences, but in many ways the information we have access to is about many things including issues about life experiences that we are all finding out to have more similarities and more in common than we first assume.

I dont think it is wrong....I would just make sure that you both are aware of each others intentions.

No, it's not wrong it's just different. My very first love was when I was 17 years old and he was 35 years old. It lasted for 3 years. I learnt a lot about life and relationships - the down side was that it made me grow up too fast. Because he was older I had to mature faster and I really didn't fit in with his friends - only because I was so much younger than they. I lost touch with my friends because I was doing older style people things. In the end, I was in between both worlds - too young to mix in his and too old mentally to mix in mine. An older partner is appealing if you have an inquisitive mind for learning about life - but you will learn about life anyway - so, there is no rush. Enjoy being you - because you are worth it.

No, it's not wrong it's just different. My very first love was when I was 17 years old and he was 35 years old. It lasted for 3 years. I learnt a lot about life and relationships - the down side was that it made me grow up too fast. Because he was older I had to mature faster and I really didn't fit in with his friends - only because I was so much younger than they. I lost touch with my friends because I was doing older style people things. In the end, I was in between both worlds - too young to mix in his and too old mentally to mix in mine. An older partner is appealing if you have an inquisitive mind for learning about life - but you will learn about life anyway - so, there is no rush. Enjoy being you - because you are worth it.

Nah its not wrong, I'm 19 and I've had relations with a 35 year old before....As long as you not BS'n and you wanna make this a serious relationship, I don't find anything wrong with it.

Meh, if it works for you, it works.

I am 18 in a few months and in a relationship with a soon to be 33 year old...i see nothing wrong with it. im so happy, he treats me good and we have so much in common. i still see my friends and he sees his. ofcourse we have our ups and downs like most couples but its made us stronger! I think if your happy don't worry what other people think of you or him. it's your life.

if your looking for the right answer you will not fined it on here. there are to many ppl what no alot about nothing, you are old enough to make your mined up about who you want to be with it dont matter how old you both are or what anyone sez its your life and you have to live it, if you both are not hurting anyone then what matters, every one have a right to Opinion but if what they say is not nice shut the f..k up and Concentrate on you own lifes. maturity levels haha thats bull shit, if they didnt get on then we would not be on here would we,any one of you could be in this Situation because believe me if you fined someone you love and makes you happy you wont be so quick to judge will you. so the answer is in your head do you love him,

I'm 18 and i have the same problem yes we are keeping it on the low from people we know aside from family and his son but i don't think its wrong i mean my maturity level is right up there with his but its all about your experiences I thought that age was just a number after you turn eighteen but i guess not