My husband MIGHT notice other women! But he sure as HELL doesn't say anything! If he DID. . . . .I'd think he was out of his freak'n mind! That would be terribly ill-mannered and he's VERY much a gentleman! And. . . .vice versa!

In relationships it is natural for people to still find other people of the opposite sex attractive. Therefore, if you happen to see another man that you find handsome there is nothing wrong with that. Here is where the problem comes in: He shouldn't make an effort to look at these women, or talk about them to you, because that is disrespectful. If he finds someone attractive he should keep it to himself, and no further effort should be made.

There's nothing to 'get over' really. Men are visually stimulated initially, whereas women seek different qualities in a potential mate/father for their kids etc., By looking at other women he isn't putting you down, just following natural instincts, doesn't even mean he particularly fancies them. If he loves you he chose you both for the way you look and the way you are. What did you choose him for?

EVERYBODY notices attractive members of the opposite sex, we wouldn't be human if we didn't. My view is that being on a diet doesn't stop you from looking at the menu.

What an asinine question kokoro. I know your bf, and I was there when that question came up. He doesn't notice "attractive women" he notices attractive qualities in people. As in kindness, humility, etc. And frankly, you are the only person he looks at and I know he would never want anyone else. Sounds like he's wasting his efforts on such stupid ideas and you need to go talk to him in person instead of AB, because you two need to talk.

wish you the best.

That's not going to change. It's nice of you to be so loyal, but you're not a trained animal, it's ok to glance at aesthetically pleasing people. We understand not wanting us to flirt and have sex with other women, but totally acting like Pavlov's dogs when we're around you is denying a deep rooted instinct. You have to realize that just because you're in a relationship, you are aren't the only attractive person on the planet to your mate.

Use the look but don't touch rule. All other women don't become unattractive just because a man is in a relationship.
Tell him how you feel. I told my guy that I feel uncomfortable with him looking/talking about other women. I told him if he must look then to always make sure he compliments me. Now when he notices a beautiful woman, he will say wow she's hot but not as hot as you.

Would you want a man who did not or could not appreciate feminine beauty? I should think you would feel superior, and even flattered, that he looks at other women but prefers you.
But if there is, as you said, "verbal abuse," then I think the issue here is something entirely different from his looking at women. I suspect there are several issues that need settling between you and him.

Katespana It is not true! It has been proven women are just as visually turned on by the nude male as visaversa. Look at the huge success of women porn sites and Guys Gone Wild. I was part of a study with men and women and when shown porn women got aroused faster than men! In England women just fought to get a nude male mag printed! Men didn't want to print it. The women won proclaiming women are just as visual. Years ago when women weren't equal we weren't allowed to look at nude males and got labeled not visual. These are true facts!!!

How do you get over it? YOU DON'T! It is not a normal or acceptable thing, do not let the modern world fool you. This world has been corrupted by Satan. Your boyfriend is cheating on you every time he looks at another woman. You have to make sure he knows this.

"But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart."