My 30 yr old ex dumped me for a 19 yr old escort from Vegas. He says he hopes I will wait for him because he feels dating her is a big mistake. Should I give him another chance or just have him learn from his own mistake?
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LovelyDaze
ANSWERS: 30
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The guy is a LOSER, and you really don't need someone like him in your life, because he will just break your heart again, when another "escort" comes into his life. Guys like him are incapable of ever getting any "better." Find someone else. +5
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he leaves you for her, then says he hopes you wait? get out while you still can, this wont stop.
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Ha. That's a new one. "Hopes you'll wait for him because he thinks he's making a huge mistake" That's gotta win an award for manipulation ploy of the year. He's attempting to manipulate you into being his backup girl. He's not sure this one's going to work out, but who cares? Why should you wait around? It wasn't your choice. It was his.
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He dumps you and hopes you will wait. WHO is making the big mistake here ???
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Sounds like you are just a runner up till the next contest. I'll never understand why anyone will settle for being second best in any relationship. If I'm not the leading lady to my leading man then I'll find another leading man. But I never was the kind of girl who would gladly remember all the lines in hopes that someone will break a leg. And trust me he's doesn't sound like a leading man in anyones storyline.
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No one here can tell you. They don't know the whole story and aren't affected by it, so they'll just blurt out the first thing that comes to mind. Common sense says throw the bum out, but relationships are rarely that simple. Be strong, and make the best decision for yourself, especially if you only hesitate from doing what you know is right because you are afraid.
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I don't think it's a good idea to give him a second chance on this one. What's to say he wouldn't do the same thing again? He didn't consider your feelings at all. He sounds confused and selfish IMO. He needs to learn from this mistake - and not repeat it. ... Hope you're doing ok.
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Did you really listen to him say that and not hit him with something hard and heavy? You must be a saint. Of course you shouldn't give him another chance! He asked you to be his default position if his affair with the hooker doesn't work out. I would swear out a complaint and have him arrested if he phones, writes, or gets within 300 yards from me. The guy is a complete dishonest loser. I hope the hooker he's dating gives him a nasty STD.
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God I hope you're kidding! If you're not then I'll answer seriously - laugh in his face & walk away. If he can manipulate you in to taking him back after this - he will OWN you & he'll know it.
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If he left you the first time for another girl then he will do it the next time.
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If it has happened once forgive but dont forget if he does it again get rid of him.
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HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA .... whew ... thanks for that ... i really need a laugh this morning ...
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I would not go back to the guy~as he is way to immature and he wants his cake and eat her too
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what i would do is just let him learn from his own mistakes. i wouldnt take him back. he left you for a 19 year he might do it again. i dont think hes for you. you can do bad all by yourself. you shouldnt wait for him because you dont have all the time in the world to wait for him. i think you can find some other man that will love you no matter how old you are and you aint old honey okay.
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give him another chance(to do it again?)let him learn from his mistake(who cares?)the gentleman you speak of told you he dont want you(dont love you)he wants to be with a hooker/escort/prostitute(still not you)this gentleman hopes you will wait for him as he thinks hes making a mistake(so he wont be alone/a place to stay/food/benifits and all is what he means)kick his sorry ass to the gutter and delete him from your life or brokenhearted constantley is surley all that lays ahead,all the best to you.
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Leave his needs and wants and education out of the equation just this once. What do YOU want to do? Whatever you decided to do, do it for yourself.
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why in the world would you want to be with someone who leaves you for an escort? Where is the love that you have for yourself? No don't give him another chance, move on with your life and be with someone that respects you enough to appreciate you while he has you, not after he's played around a bit.
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You should take him back as soon as he is done screwing her, you wouldnt want to him to go without getting some, that would be cruel.
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Let him learn! He left you for a younger lady he is not ready to settle. Dont be fooled by this JERK!
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He's not being honest with you. If he feels dating her is a mistake, what is he waiting for? What is he asking you to wait for? If he truly felt this way, he'd have dumped her immediately and asked you to take him back already. He doesn't feel dating her is a mistake: he feels it's a fling. He doesn't regret it, he doesn't feel it's wrong: he feels it's the good and right thing to do under the circumstances, which is why he hasn't stopped it yet. And he's trying to cover his ass so that when he's done with this, which he anticipates being before too long, he won't be left alone: he'll have you to fall back on. If you want to take him back or not is up to you, I don't know him and I don't know you so I can't say if it's worth it. But if you want to take him back, I urge you to call him on his bullshit first. If you let him get away with this, you'll never have a real relationship with him because a real relationship requires mutual trust and respect -- two things which he clearly doesn't feel for you. Good luck.
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Get out of there now!!! you deserve much better... a guy should never make you feel like you are second best and he shouldn't even have left you for the other girl whether it was a mistake or not... You should be with someone who appreciates you and who doesn't have the sudden urge to go be with an escort or settle his wild desires... You will find someone else, and if you don't.... I would much rather be alone than in bad company!
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Why would you ever wait for him. You already know where he puts you on his priority list, dead last. Find someone who appriciates you and move on.
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Kick him to the curb!
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He has no respect for you if he would treat you like this. Without respect, there is no love. And he will do it again. So, clear him out of your mind as soon as possible.
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Never ever place second choice to a person who is knowingly making a big mistake. Your not second best you are the best....Remember that. Dump the fool like you would the trash.....I wish you well Darlin
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He knows he is making a mistake and expects that you will just wait for him? That is not respect and that is not love; you are supposed to be equals, not his doormat.
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Are you . . . . .seriously. . . . .considering "waiting" for some IDIOT that did this to you? If so. . . . .you need SERIOUS help!
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Let him learn from his mistakes. If he felt truely bad he would have dumped her already. Basically he wants you on the side lines in case something happens with his relationship now. Don't go back to him. this will just let him know he can do it again.
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I think it's a question of whether *you* learn from your mistake.
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I TRUST WHILE YOU ARE WAITING- - WHATEVER THAT MEANS you are also enjoying life dating new men
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