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If this actually happened, and i assume it did, i would not show concern for his health. i would not make the visit. Does anyone in your family know about the sexual abuse? all of us on answerbag now know it, but does your family? If you decide to make the visit, in advance, be prepared to let your feelings go. tell it like it is(or was) and let the other family members hear you. keeping this bottled inside you, will eat away at your mind and body. You have the rest of your life to live. he has already lived his. Get this off your chest. You will feel much better afterwards.
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You don't go. What's the point? He's unlikely to admit anything and/or apologise just because he's on his last legs. The only reason to go is if you want to say something to him and this chance may be the last one. If so, you walk in, stand by his bed (out of reach for any physical contact)& say what you came to say. If you're looking for him to say sorry, you may find yourself disappointed. Alternatively, you could buy some balloons and party hats and when his oxygen fails and the old goat dies, you could make everybody wear a hat and should 'Hip, Hip, Hooray'.
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Don't let anything stop you if you feel like you need to go. Even if it is just for the satisfaction of letting him know he did not break you. That no matter what he has done he did not destroy you. If you want to and do not you will regret it for the rest of your life. If you do go you will know you can face anything that life throws at you. You will know how to handle him once you are there. No one can tell you how to handle it or how it is going to be. But you have alot of courage and strenght or you would not even be considering it.Facing him now may help you more than you know.
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You should go but bring one of your parents along or somthing or someone along,(just incase),but it would probaly mean alot to him and he might even say sorry to you
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