My fiance is in the army. Right now he is in Samoa and is always being sent somewhere, sometimes short notice. It is a touch lifestyle and it takes its toll on you, trust me. Army wives/fiances and girlfriends are always close because there is so much unknown that we have to deal with. Where as men in the real world may have to go off for work, but they are back home that night or after a week. Soldiers stay gone from 6 months to close to 2 yrs. Also, they seem to be a breed of their own. They are taught a certain way of thinking and it is instilled hard in them. They have a lot of structure and are made do things. If they don't follow rules, their superiors will punish them by writing them up and taking rank. Some are also major womanizers because unfortunately some lack self esteem, hence the reason they are in the military. On the other hand, there are many great aspects and lots of good soldiers that do think for themselves. I have known many. In the 3 yrs I have been with him, I have learned a lot and patience is one of them. One major thing.....being with a soldier there has to be trust. As much as they are away, it is very important that you both have that bond and trust with each other or both of you will be insecure. You because he will be gone and you won't always be able to contact him and him because when they deploy, they tend to let their mind get carried away and think their girl may dump them for someone else being he is not there to comfort you and give you attention. Hope all works out. If you are tough and you trust him..go for it!

When the person goes for active duty, at times it can be year long, in other words, lots of time is spent away from family and friends. Staying away from each other can make one lonely. Paratroopers, don't do ordinary stuff, its a high risk job and anything can happen. But if Love is true, it can last forever, then staying away from each other doesn't matter too much as long as you know that love will come back to you.

I know what you mean. my bf is in the army and i knew that when we met. He leaves in a couple months on his 3rd deployment. It will be hard, but if you love him its totally worth the wait. The way I look at it is, I dont want to be with anyone else so what other choice do i have but to be patient and support the man i love... good luck ;)

I am married, but no, I would never be with someone in the military.