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  • i think he wants privacy for something else
  • He wants out.
  • basically he's sick ov ya - he just doesn't know how ta fuk ya off!
  • I always tell my SO up front that "time apart", etc is totally off limits. They can quit but if they go on strike they are fired. If I travel they are always welcome so long as they can find a way to come, etc. No excuses ever.
  • My wife says "no, after five years you need a better explanation. and, also you are vested in his life to where you can be part of the solution."
  • Sounds fishy to me. He can't work on himself and talk to you once a day?
  • does he want the time away from YOU or just from his life (job, friends, family, etc.)? either way, 30 days seems like more than necessary. why did he pick 30 days? why not five days?
  • no but maybe naive.... walk away with your dignity. +5
  • I'd give him 30 weeks. See ya.
  • No. I can see how this would disturb you greatly! He is basically saying he does not want you around him during his "self help". It has to make you feel like you are one of his issues and he is pondering whether you need to be in the picture. Take this as time for yourself as well and prepare yourself for a break up. You may want to look for other options besides him.
  • sounds a little odd to be honest. I would need more of an explanation as to why rather than just he needs to work on is life eg is he going to rehab or is there some actual legitimate reason. Love is all about supporting eachother. We all need space but that sounds excessive. I would be very hurt by this and I would let the person know how hurt I am and see what his reaction to that is. Personally I wouldn't want to be with someone who could purposely go 30 days without me for no good reason. Maybe while he is soul searching you can also ask yourself what you want in your life and if he is really the person you want to be with. don't settle for someone just because you are comfortable after all this time. We all deserve someone who feels the same way about us as we do for them
  • No your not being unreasonable. 5 yrs is a long time to be in a relationship and if one of you claims to need space then the other is going to have some hurt feelings about it. Maybe you can talk with him about it to make the seperation easier for you.
  • It definitley would be difficult for you to have no contact for 30days...As I don't know the reasons why he is doing this I can only guess...He may need to sort out some 'stuff' in his head...like 'does he want to be committed'...'what does he want to do with his life'...'and if thats the case I'd have to let him go...because it will cause issues for you both if he doesnt...and it will be a time where you can figure out what you really want...I hope it all works out the best!
  • I always think this kinda thing is a bad idea. In a relationship you are supposed to grow together not separately. I've always thought this is an excuse for someone to try out being alone again..... kinda like taking a car on a test drive before you make a decision.

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