Do you believe that after a severely traumatic personal loss, it is always possible to pick up the pieces and go on, or are there some experiences from which a person can never recover?
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RFlagg
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I think that people can recover from losses, but not fully. There will always be a place in their heart or in the back of their mind that still has not recovered.
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Some wounds never truely heal, only numb.
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The human spirit is highly resilient! Any loss can be gotten over with proper support and by becoming involved with others who have experienced loss and sharing thoughts and feelings and being there for one another.
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No, its not always possible to move on. Depending on the person or the traumatic event sometimes recovery isn't in the cards.
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You can recover from almost any situation. Bar those which you obviously die from, or become physically handicapped in an extreme way, for example Terri Schaivo (SP?). As far as emotionally, absolutely can a person recover. They will hopefully learn from their experiences and trudge on, maybe one day teaching us their lessons. Take people who escaped from places like death camps, or were human slaves, tortured and beaten, or any other sort of unimaginable scenario. It happens unfortunately more often that I would like, but people move on from those things and live on fairly happily. It does take tons and tons and TONS of work, but people do it if they have the will.
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I think some wounds never heal completely. It is largely dependent on the person, what age they had the emotional loss and what kind of help they got over time in healing and working through that loss. I think it would be rare nowadays for a person to never heal at least for the most part, if they got proper help over time, even if they still have some flashbacks or very intense memories or pain off and on from the loss.
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I believe that there are some experiences that can and will leave you scarred for life. Some of those are impossible to forget. it is possible to overcome them but the tricky part is how people deal with those memories, if they get proper psychological help, talk about it, or just stay with that unpleasantness for the rest of their lives. It is very hard to deal with it and many people don't know who to turn for help in those situations.
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yes, you can pick yourself up any time. no, i don't believe there is a personal loss that you can't ever recover from. as long as you keep your wheels moving and eyes on the road you'll be ok...
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I think there is a 'before' and an 'after'. After very traumatic events I think we are different, we can return to a semblance of normality or not, but it will never be the same as before. 9/11 is an example of this. An entire nation now talk in terms of before 9/11 and after. I do think that it's possible to recover, not for everyone, and not easily, I just think that even when and if you do recover things will be different.
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If you think about it, "recovery" is not necessarily a good thing. What I mean is, these hard experiences are not meant to teach us how to be as we once were, but to be better than we were for surviving them. I have had several severely traumatic personal losses in my life, and I will never "recover" from them. They still hurt sometimes, but I am a deeper, more compassionate and understanding person as a result of living THROUGH them. A good anology, I think, is that of the purification process of gold. It has to go through extreme heat so that the impurities can be burned away. All that is truly gold stays, and is richer, more valuable gold.
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Everything depends on the person. We all have different levels of tolerance, and can handle horrible things in a different way. Bad things happen at some point to us all. I think you have to want to get past it, you have to feel motivated to move on to look for the motivation. I personally have had a great number of things happen in my life and some would say that they are amazed by what I can accomplish now. I say I just did what I had to and am glad for the things I can do. I am still imperfect and need to work at times because I will hit a bump in the road now and again, so in that aspect perhaps you never truly get over a thing, but you move on, you make it a part of you that hopefully makes you stronger, and possibly even allows you to help others on occasion.
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A person can move on... but they will have changed forever. As far as recovering, I don't think a person can fully recover from a severly traumatic loss, but it would be an even bigger loss if they didn't try to move forward.
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It is possible to leave the past behind.
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It is always possible to pick the pieces up. I loved my mother more than life itself. When she passed away, I was devastated, I went through bouts of depression and thoughts of suicide. I then realized that if I killed myself what would that do to my sister, she just lost her mother and now her brother. That gave me some ground and strength to do something with my life. It is not easy to overcome. I am still feeling pain from it (after 11 years) but I have definately picked up the pieces, I even found more to add to my collection. I think having something to grasp on to helps. Whether it be a loved one, a goal, or (I hate to say it) a religion. If it helps you get through hard times go for it.
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